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Would You Marry A Person Who Doesn't Have College Education?

I recently run into a few Nigerians who look down on those without college level education. I was talking to this guy just a few minutes ago, he called these people without education low lives without humility, integrity, drive in life is low and their jobs and life stink. He said he would never marry a woman without education or upper level status is what he called it. That he rather stick with his class of women. I was floored and took me a while to get over that shock he caused me. I was, hurt in a way because I only have high school education. My question is why is it I am finding this more in the Nigerian culture than mine? Why do they think that college education puts them above others? Would you marry anyone without college level education? I heard that money changes people but I would have thought Nigerians would be the last to be changed by this they seem so caring for people.

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all the same education is very very important in someones life. but to me is not all about education because i have worked with a lot of educated people who have nothing up there. the most important thing is how smart are u. i have only college education but i have 15graduates working in my company over there in Nigeria. in most time they make mistakes that none graduates who is smart cant make. at the end the company will lose huge amount of money because of the mistakes of so caled graduates. in most cases i have to leave what am doing in Japan to fly down to Nigeria to instruct them on what to do still if i gos back the same thing will still happen. in Nigeria we have a lot of educated people in the government but still the country is still in a mes. come to Asia countries u will see alot of none educated people who cant even read or write but they have global companies worldwide. very smart. most of the countries here in Asia don't even have what Nigeria have as a nation but they are far better than Nigeria. when ever u come to Nigeria from abroad u feel like crying for the nation. still there is millions of graduates there. anyway i don't believe in headless graduates who are noise makers.

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Formal education will make you a living and self-education can make you a fortune!!

In a society like nigeria, we are asked to go to school by our parents so that we can supposedly get a good job(join the rat race). Formal education doesn't prepare you for the realities of life in my opinion, yes I'm an advocate of education cuz ignorance is not bliss.However, each individual is different because I've met a lot of people with advanced degrees that have no life skills/ clueless & I've met some people without an advanced degree and are well rounded plus they own businesses where they employ people with advanced degrees to work for them.

If you look at any society that has done well, you need to look closer at the entrepreneurial spirit in that society. For me education mixed with some street savvy is the right recipe, education is not about getting a paper degree cuz education goes way beyond that.

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@ OP , many degree holders from Nigeria virtually bought the sh*t . The crap is over rated and should not in any way be a guage for assessing friends and loved ones. There are silly college educated people same way that there are silly people who've not been to college.

Enlightenment is not gained in a class room i suppose.

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Yes I will. . . Dont really bother me. Not everyone has the money to go for further/higher education. . . Can u blame them? I dont think so!

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I would as long as the person has ambition. If he is a drug using, crack/indian hemp smoking layabout then No way.

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ya i can and wud have no qualms in helping her get the necessary education

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she should at least be able 2 read, write nd xpress herself fluently.

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well i might not. but it all depends on the level of love u have for each other and understanding the person has.

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I'd like to think of myself as a strong black woman. All I need is a strong black man who has a job and can provide for his family, that's all that matters. One thing I have noticed about us Nigerians is that we love titles. (Dr so so and so, Engineer so so and so) Many of us go into university studying what our parents pressured us into studying and when we do graduate many of us do not even work with our degrees, I think one needs to seriously pray for God's guidence when choosing someone to marry,

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Everybody had spoken well, except for those ladies that made it mandatory, But sincerely,education and/or B.Sc is not a pre-requisite to effective home management and happiness, Common sense without education is better than education without common sense because common sense is not COMMON.

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Man, you make a lot of sense to me.

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Also don't give birth to kids you can not take care,,Barack Obama has just two kids,,some people who do not have his education and wealth in Nigeria would have 7 kids,,,all these have to be care of and provided for,,people must as a matter of fact use their head in relationships period.

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How about those that are willing to go to school, but there is no fund, what are u guys saying these gruop of piple should do.

Nobody should marry them coz they are not educated or what are we saying?

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As for me,there is no two way about it been educated is a MUST,,,charecters,beauty etc are all deceptive,,,they all can be made up.You must be educated and continue to aspire and embrace education.To me its a culture I would want my self and my wife to give to our kids.Even if you don't work with your education/certificate, it helps you in many ways in life particularly decision making.

When an uneducated woman marries an educated man,,the story I narrated in my first post is likely re-enactment.

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A lot of us simply don't know what we are talking about.About two weeks ago, A University lecturer with Rivers State University was killed by his uneducated wife in a fight that broke out btw the man and his wife.The reason for the fight was the husband requested that she should go back and take her School certificate and thereby get an education but the insistede she would not go.

Its the most silly thing anyman would do after his parents and family would have suffered so hard to send him to school and the next thing is for him to get married to an illitrate,the saying of old that "if education is expensive try ignorance"still hold strongly.It does not matter whether you would have a job or not,education still remains the bedrock wth which people future can be shaped.Some people talked about Bill Gates, Bill is an excceptional personality he actually dropped out of college because he discovered his purpose early enough and he does not need the education to attain his purpose.So for those pointing at Bill Gates, what purpose or dreams do you have that would exchange for education?Bottomline, Bill gates is a strong advocate for education,all his kids are college graduate.

Barack Obama is an epitome of what education can do for anybody,look at his wife too.There are several Nigerians and other foreigners who are doing pretty well in USA than american citizens,,you want to know the reason,,,its education.Philip emegwali,Oby Ezekwesili and Ngozi Okonjo and many foreigners in US are doing extremely better than Americans simply cos of there education.If you listen to Obama,he continues to emphasise the need for every american to have a college degree,,he insists parents must know when to put off the TV and ask there kids to study and do their home work.

So you don't expect some parents paying the price to get their kids educated and some just sit their doing nothing only to expect one educated guy to come marry their daughter,,,that is rubbish.

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Never say never. Life takes very shocking turns most times.

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The mentality of most uneducated pple in Nigeria is not d same wit deir likes in developed countries. In Nigeria, for dose of us who hv dated uneducated pple, u ll realise dat dey normal hv inferiority complex n most times feel intimidated. N dat will neva stop affectin u cos in any little misundastanding dey always tend 2 use a particular phrase "is because ur a graduate". So it beta 2 move wit ur type SIMPLE!.

For a guy sha dere is nothing wrong wit it, if u r uncomfortable wit her uneducated status, then remedy it.

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yes no

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no degree, no marriage. Simple!

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@Topic,

Depending on what sort of education. . . If without College education I dont mind and if he has not completed high school, I cannot accept that

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believe most people mis-interprete education, you can still be educated and still be a stake illitrate it all a product of the mind, i have an uncle who married and the wife wsn't a DIPLOMA,BSC,DEGREE,PHD,DOCTORATE holder but she was smart he never wanted to be seen with her in public, unfortunatly she died, he went home married a DEGREE HOLDER IN ENGLISH now if he has a way of rasing the dead he would do that.

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i believe most people mis-interprete education, you can still be educated and still be a stake illitrate it all a product of the mind, i have an uncle who married and the wife wsn't a DIPLOMA,BSC,DEGREE,PHD,DOCTORATE holder but she was smart he never wanted to be seen with people in public, unfortunatly she died, he went home married a DEGREE HOLDER IN ENGLISH now if he has a way to rasing the dead he would do that.

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If you dont have a university degree atleast, I have no business with u. I have no problems being friends with you cuz I wont look down at you but I wont marry u simply cuz of the values I have for myself PERIOD. I know some people dont have the means so thats even the more reason why people should not be looked down on.

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He does not even need to have a GED.~~He should atleast have common sense and have a little knowlege about the world.

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life is more complicated nowadays because it used to be that the father would be the one to work and support the family financially but things have changed in the sense that the life styles people aspire to lead is expensive and if you are going to settle down, why settle with a person whose earning power from an education level stand point seems bad from the get go.

Imagine if you met some one with a great job who makes great pay and only has a high school education and that person gets laid off. What other type of job would that person be able to get? yes work experience counts for a lot but people still ask about what degrees you have. Anyway i think the response you got from that jerk was a financial thing.

And i am not saying that you can't make it in life with just a high school diploma but people want someone who has those degrees because you think of their potential earning power. you can always fall back on your degree

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Theoretically I don't mind, practically e go hard

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when piple talks about education, I do ask this question. Is it all about the cetificate or what u have upthere?

How about piple that can write, speak but they dont have that sheet of peper, how do we call those ones?

Are they still uneducated or do they have where they fall in?

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Yes. FYI i'm a graduate. I don't need to marry for money, looks etc because i'm independent in financially & i have confidence in my ability to shoulder responsibility for both party if it comes to that. Character is more important to me. I believe that character & attitude determines a person's altitude.

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@ Honey Pot

Story story story.

Once upon a time, time, time.

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Jammin, u are quite constructive in your arguments.

Education is very relative. It can be formal or informal, so most people become 'educated' at the end of the day. It appears formal education can even be counter productive, i've seen graduates whose levels of literacy beg the question, and those people though saddled with loads of certificate are not educated in my opinion.

I'm not so keen on paper qualification, i can go for an intelligent girl (not necessarily educated) who has got ideas on how to manage a home. She will still have the willingness to improve her qualifications in the future. I met a nigerian girl who couldn't write simple sentences but was doing her postgraduate diploma in one of the colleges in London. I kept wondering how she coped with her undergrad and high school. I'll rather go for a high school grad than for such uneducated graduates.

''Educated' nigerian girls are more likely to shop around for graduate hubbies, simply to fulfil their parents' unchecked desire for a lawyer, doctor, engineer, , as son-inlaw

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Education is very important.  I once dated a guy after my secondary edu, while i went back to school, he was busy trying one biz or the other, which never worked out.  After my college edu, am now employed and he is still FLOATING.  I had since quiet the relationship.

Education is very important especially in nigeria society these days, alteast it gives you an edge. 

Even their thinking mentality is so annoying.

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@jammin,

i think i agree wit u bt education is very important in this 21st century.

i u re educated,men i pity u

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Education is only as important as the society you live in. Lots of American and Brits don't have a uni degree yet they hire people and "Lord "it over people who does.

Having an Education is a fairly decent guarantee of a life that is above mendicancy and homelessness. This however, is true if you live in a society that have a productive capacity to accommodate your skills. There are countries where Masters degree holders are going to their bed hungry because of lack of opportunity.

While on the other hand High school dropouts in a different society is making more money than some Masters Degree holders will see in a lifetime.

So the question now become, is it the learning i am looking for in a partner? or the ability to sustain a quality of life where finances become a non issue?

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okay this is all from the guy's point of view, if i was a guy i would marry someone who isn't as educated as me, but then i am a woman and education is important to me, i am working on my master's degree and i am determined not to date anyone that isn't in my level educationally, because someone has gotta work to bring money in, and without education in nigeria, except if you are from a rich family it would really suck for you. well some guy i use to date was all sweet but he hasn't done anything with his life since he graduated from high school in 1998, he says college is not for him and even made references to bill gates, and i am like atleast bill gates tried to make something of his life.

so girls please answer this, WOULD YOU MARRY A GUY WHO ISN'T EDUCATED

My parents wouldn't even let me do that. it would be easy for a guy but for a woman, i really can't think of it happening, call me shallow but education is really important.

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Well, I agree sometimes we do have issues and one might be tempted to say some stuff that might make the other party feel bad about the fact that they didnt get enough education. but the truth is that we should be immune to the opinons of others.

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Educatn is gud. It easy 2 claim nt 2 av any qualms wit marry sm1 wit colege educatn, bt wen such ones make sm minor blunder we wnt hesitat 2 relate dat 2 dia educatnal level. It beta u marry one wit a beta educatn, bt smtims u c sm1 wit a basic educatn wu is more knowledgeabl n smart dan an 'educatd' felow. Jus chose ur luv.

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Educatn is gud. It easy 2 claim nt 2 av any qualms wit marry sm1 wit colege educatn, bt wen such ones make sm minor blunder we wnt hesitat 2 relate dat 2 dia educatnal level. It beta u marry one wit a beta educatn, bt smtims u c sm1 wit a basic educatn wu is more knowledgeabl n smart dan an 'educatd' felow. Jus chose ur luv.

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Educatn is gud. It easy 2 claim nt 2 av any qualms wit marry sm1 wit colege educatn, bt wen such ones make sm minor blunder we wnt hesitat 2 relate dat 2 dia educatnal level. It beta u marry one wit a beta educatn, bt smtims u c sm1 wit a basic educatn wu is more knowledgeabl n smart dan an 'educatd' felow. Jus chose ur luv.

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Jammin you are right, after all Bill Gate is a drop out

see what he is today. well as for me the lady i have

decided to marry is not educated, no not in the least

but she is very industrious and that is one that most

so called educated ladies are not. I have masters degree

and so have seen different size and shapes of the

educated ones and believe me they are not worth the poo.                           

please, pardon me, some of them. atleast some are cool if you know what i mean.

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Being educated goes beyond attending some grad school. For me once a partner shows some form of literacy and we can relate very well, then i am ok

Godbless Nigeria!

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The people who build the U.S and possibly most of Eurpope were'nt in the most part, college educated. However we can easily see their genius, as it is reflected in their standard of living and their country's developement. Remember "Education" is not intelligence, it is merely an opportunity taken. Show me the state of a man's house and you'll be showing me his 'smarts'. Never feel intimidated nor insecure by the behaviour of egotistical jackasses.

i do hope you catch my implicit message.

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