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Would You Marry a Single Parent?

Can you marry a lady or a guy who already has a kid?

You're single, never married. You've almost given up on falling in love. Out of the blues, you meet this great dude/babe. Everything checks out. He/she has everything u've ever wanted in a partner. There is great mutual affection (or it appears to be).

One day your partner told you that there is something you have to know. He/she has a kid. He/she loves the kid so much. If you want him/her, you have to also want the kid. You want this person. You're concerned about the kid. What will you do?

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OMW you just finished me ROFLMAO _spawn of the devil....(I dont blame you)

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The funny thing is, I was a single mom and fabulous hubby to be came along and neveru had an issue. But when were were still gonna get married I put him through the third degree coz I wasn't gonna marry anyone's baby. Reason being, some women are full of drama and i learnt my lesson from a previous experience. We used to get midnight calls with my ex to pick up his son at the police station coz she dropped the child there to get his attention . NOt to say all female exes are like that (I wasnt) but golly I just couldnt have taken the risk of that harrowing experience again. This crazy lady even stalked me to my work and called my bosses. Chai....it was an experience never to be forgotten.

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i realy in need of a mature single parent, but am 29 6.2fit toll, pls contact me sammo_rano@yahoo.com

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I can't marry a single parent.

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@casper i bet you are virgin

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Marrying a woman with kid (s); actually the mother wont be your problem but wait till the child(ren) grow(s) up!!! There is a yoruba proverb that says, The family would be at peace provided the bastard amongst the children is still a child,

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@baby101 you are right very right. I once fell inlove with a woman with not just one kid but two kids. I gave all I had to the whole relationship I mean all. At first it seemed so rosy with love and kisses. But when after sometime her kids started growing into adults I noticed I was pushed to one corner of teh house.

my demands were no more considered. Imagine I coukd not kiss her or hug expect in the bedroom. Also when it came to my trying to have kids with her that one was another issue. My people it is not easy to handle single mothers. It is like throwing away your freedom. Imagine you cannot do some love things in the house cos you have her kid or kids around. I am talking from experience my people and I am serious. Also talk of your budget just forget it my brother. You cannot tell her am trying to do this for the future. To her the future is her kid or kids not you. She only needs you to prove a point that she has a man. This is with regards to the ones that had the kids out of wedlock. I am not saying that all single mother are like that. But I will prefer that single mothers date single fathers. The whole thing is like jumping from year one to the final year. i wont go near it, I rather stay alone than date one or marry one.

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When i met this girl I told her my likes and hates that I cant marry girl that has a child then we started dating and I proposed to her, and starts making preparation to see her people it was at this time that she opened up to me that she has male child. I still went ahead and to see her family, then she became pregnant. As I speak know she is nursing my 4 month old baby. And know I am regret it and looking for every opportunity to end the relationship. Each time we are together feel like strangleling her and because of this we on longer sleep together

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Of course, it's no big deal.

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Yes if she's still young and below 32.

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Yes, I can as a matter of fact am searching for one any interested persons should notify me, But she must be financially strong and well to do.

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there is nothing wrong with single parents.

they represent some of the world's strongest ppl (mentally).

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Having a child in itself would not prevent me from marrying a woman if I find that I love her. But then again, such matters are hardly ever in themselves. My marrying or not marrying her would depend on things like; What were the circumstances that led to her being pregnant? Where is the father? What does he do if he's still alive? how many children are we talking of here? Lack of satisfactory answers would most definitely dissuade me.

The thing is that I would not want to be just another component in a web of uncertainties and the answers to these questions along with some other things would lead to my final decision. For example I could marry a widow with two kids if I fell in love with one, but I wouldn't marry a single girl with one child whom she had for her boss that lives just down the street and has a family of his own. The latter will be a pointer to a personality that I'm not comfortable with.

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Yes i would but it depends on the following: age and mannerism of the children as well as the mindset of the man lastly the status of their birth mother(s). If it is clear that he married me to "find them a mother" it wouldn't work but if the love btn us is genuine and we are all compatible (Myself, him and the kids) then sure.

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If I truly love them and their kid is not the spawn of the devil then yes I would.

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It depends on the no of the kids she has and by how many different men she had them by.

I'm certainly not prepared for multiple Baby Daddy wahala.

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It depend on what i need her for if it's for her money i will grab what i want and crash then, if it's for love the child won't be a problem coz i will just add mine to that one and we live a happy life together.

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I would not marry that person, if they did not tell me about their child from the door day one!!!! Hell to tha no!!!! If they are that uncomfortable about telling you up front then they will lie about any damn thing. I have dated men with a child or children. Run!!!!!!!!!!! it is not worth it.

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true love matters, past difference may be the bond

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O sure why not, currently looking for one anyway. I hope one day I can get hook up with someone out there who would love me for who I am and we would be able to establish that kind of relationship she'd always look forward to. LOVE HAVE THE MAGIC!!! Any interested person , female can contact me at, [spiritman68_7@yahoo.com] or call; +2348023290122. Standing out till then, kiss!!

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@ Justgood

I hear you my brotha, yes one needs more than love to sustain a marriage, if one comes with the right tools for the marriage, one cannot fail. Not all single parents have *evil* (naughty) children.

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I will date a single parent

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Very good response. . .

very good response in theory and in the movies. However, real life is different from the movie endings. Marriage is entered into in love but it is not really sustained by love. There are several other factors that make or mar marriages and love is only a tiny part of it all

open your eyes well

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If the love is strong, I see nothing wrong in marryin a single parent!

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i would marry a single parent, what's the big deal.

obviously, you have to keep your eyes open and see the lay of the land. but it's not a deal breaker.

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why not? she could even be better than those who are not, each matter will be decided on its own merit, it depends on the personality,

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I would not want to marry a single parent. It usually doesn't end nicely. The child(ren) usually don't accept you and do their best to ruin your marriage, especially when they are older children. The children's mother is a whole story on its own. Peace is generally missing when the children's mother is in the picture. If you are a young person you should avoid marrying a single parent completely.

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No, i honestly wont, no matter the situation.

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NO, That's is the end.

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Interesting thread.

My best friend is torn between the choice of accepting to marry a single dad. She is madly in love with him and he is also seriously in love with her.

However, the guy's case has plenty 'comma'.

1)He has two kids from the same woman.

2)He was never married legally to the lady but he met the lady's parents and did traditional engagement (this happened when the lady was preggie with the first child)

3)He insists he does not love her and all she did was trap him with the kids.

4)He told my friend that he wants to bring the first child over to his house to stay with him when they get married.

5)His babymama has vowed not to let go and has threatened fire and brimstone when he told her that she should move on and stop waiting for him.

6)He bears all the financial responsibilities of the kids.

7)Babymama still gets to see him because he goes over to her place to see the kids and they all get to hang out together (he claims he wants to bond with the kids and babymama wont allow him to hang out alone with the kids unless she's there with them)

I would appreciate people's opinion on this. My friend is 27 years old. Dude is in his mid 30s.

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No need to walk away , it is an issue because she decided to keep the child , (a commendable thing), you might never have know had she removed the child.

I think its not a big deal. I am currently dating a single mother and i tell you the truth she is the best thing in my life for now.

her daugther calls me daddy because she is found of me. i buy her toys etc takes both mother and daugther out on a good day i i enjoy the little girl's company even if she is just 2year old.

you can't tell until you try.

Mine is wonderful experience because the relationship is very matured because she is experienced, once hurted and never want to pass tru it again.

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There is nothing wrong marrying a single-parent,infact i will be getting married to one come next month, i must confess she is one of the greatest things that has happened to me.,before i met her ,i had so many relationship that were not working,she came and turned my life around.single parents can be liken to wine they get better with process of time.

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i get what you mean anyways

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well, its true but thats my own personal opinion and i might be totally wrong,who knows,

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hmmn, age has a lot to do but i guess15 years isnt too bad, love without weighting the options is not being totally real, bianca onoh ojukwu has aged more than her years with taking care of ojukwu,his health,near blindness e.t.c plus kids in their teens wont have a ful life with their dad

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Age is nothing to Love jo.

i may be more than 15yrs younger than the guy

but if he's evrything i want , i will marry him

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@topic

i dont see anything wrong with it as long as the kids not more than 1or maybe 2,she s more matured and will value her partner more having been through the negative side of a relationship and the hassles of being a single mum

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Nope

xcept i was once married aswell dennn . . .mayb

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Its a hard decision.

My friend was telling me yesterday she wants to hook me up

with a guy.

This guy is 40 and has six kids, his wife left after confessing to

wanting to poison him.

Would i go for him?

NO!

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if she is my ideal woman,why not.there is nothing wrong with that,she could make me a happier man than the singles without a child.it is immatured to think like that.lets grow up.

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I read dis thread last year June, n nvr tot dat i will b in d same position as the person that started dis thread.

Men, dis is hard, i dnt knw wut 2 think, my mind is gone blank.

I luv my boyfriend so much we ve been goin out 4 2yrs nw b4 i discovered he's got a child

i cant bear d tot marrying a man with a child.

I dnt ve anything against d child, its jus dat ve nvr seen a family with steps dat, there is peace. its only in a vry few %.

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Casper,, you need to ask yourself,, ARE YOU A VIRGIN?,, if NO go Bleep yourself,, And stop insulting peoples' essence

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How can you say, if you love her? You have to know she has a child before you fall in love.

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I would definitely marry a single parent cause i am one.

The thing is that he cant be a father that has multiple baby mamas cause that to me just smells of irresponsibility.

Like its been said, i am not looking for a father for ma baby she has one already - what just makes ma baby special is that she is being treated for sickle cell anemia. So she is a special baby, people say 'baggages' but i say at least she isnt an excess baggage.

I want a relationship for me, someone that will be there for me, that will love me and take care of me. By the grace of God, i can fend for her and i have been doing so since she was born - so i understand when men say they cant marry a woman with kids. I put maself in ma boyfriend's shoes as well and i discussed it with him especially when she is not so well.

So i would marry one but with certain conditions.

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hey dude,i think having a kid has nothing to do with a great relationship cause at the end of the day he/she has been honest enuff to let you know they v got a kid and so many guy/girl are worse off and have done worst stuffs and it takes a great person to stick around n take care of a child cause thats called being responsible, i have a son from an ex and i make sure i tell any girl so they ll know wassup

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