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Would You Mount Surveillance On Your Partner?

To me, that's sick. It never stops to amaze me how insecure and jealous some folks can get that they'll monitor every move their partner makes, almost placing him/her under a mobile cam. You'd hear things like: Who was that on the phone with you?, Where exactly are you?, Who you with? Why was your phone turned off?, the list goes on. Whatever happened to trust. Would you bother so much about what transpires behind you when you're not with your spouse? Is it worth it knowing the high possibility of something or nothing uncool happening? I don't bother, he/she can only be "all" yours when he/she is with you. Too bad!

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Why not? I don't trust blindly

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@topic it wouldn't hurt to do it at times but not stupidly though.

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There are somefins u cant hide for long, not from me and any other guy dat has bin in the game, ! this question is only for kids at their mother's bosom not for grown up players lk me,

dere are very subtl ways to tell wivout havin to mount FBI or satelyt on the young lady,

1)Phones are wonderful, if she a nu chick and is has a secrets, chk her voice signals weneva she answas the phn, gals hv diff voice signals for diff folks, and wen she hangs up, chk up on her body language note carefully the nxt tin that comes out of her mouth,

2) drop in on her unanounced but make sure u bring a gift along,

3) note her click of frnds and b close to the coolest one and win her trust, she is ur eyes if u know wor i mean,

i have no endin to this, so i take a small bow,

WIFEE MATERIALS, ARE DIFFICULT TO TRACE COS U JST KNW SHE IS , CLEAN! AFTA ALL, U CONNECT IN SOUL FAR BEYOND THE NATURAL, U CAN TELL WEN SHE IS DOIN SOMEFIN WRNG OR SHE HAS AND MOST WUD TELL U B4 U EVN ASK!

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my girlfriend, na na na but my wife yes ooooo.

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My ex used to do that alot. I think it bothers on insecurity.

I would'nt do such cos it's too much heartache.

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"Many people never get to know their partners are cheating on them throughout the relationship."

I don't want to be one of those Mugus so I gotta spy at times.

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no, i can never do that for any reason

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No, i won't do that. For reasons best known to me.

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I'll never do that, it's a free world, a man or woman should have his or her freedom, I don't have to monitor my woman, except if I want my heart to be broken!!!

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You might not be able to live with what you discover,

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I only tried checking my BF's SMS on his phone he was so angry as i have done something wrong.For me i have promise myself never to even touch his fone again.But come to think of it have i done any tin wrong?

Mounting a surveillance is the last tin i will do.

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@Otukpo, thats my EXACT point too. "Why should I waste my life with someone who's not worth it".

Na wa for the overly sentimental replies i'm seeing on this thread. I can understand why the women wouldn't want to bother to spy on their husbands. But the men? Come' on!

Why not. I wonder why a lot of you have been parroting trust trust trust - as if it is some sacred entity. If a wife is TRULY trustworthy then the spying would prove just that! Na lie? And you'd then TRULY trust her! If you claim you trust her but yet you're too scared to spy on her (lest you discover she's su.cking her pastor's manliness), then what kind of st.upid trust is that? That is self-delusion; one cannot build a marriage on delusion. I cant do that for the effed up cliché that 'what you don't know wouldnt hurt you'. It would, even more than if I knew!

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Yea.

If need be.

And that's when i see signs of dishonesty and unfathfulness.

Why shld i waste my life with someone who is not worth it.

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distrust breeds distrust, gbam!!!

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@ poster

No

what has happened to trust?

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To me, that can only be triggered by joblessness, what will be will be, i 've thought it wise resolving to "conscience theory" This is the sure way to long life,

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Yes, I'd spy on him from time to time just to know he's 'doing good'.

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Trust is basic but not compulsory,people will die 2soon if u keep trail on ur partner cos u may end up pilling wrong impression.

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Personally I would not. Too stressful and demanding. However, the day she gives me cause for suspicion, I may start considering spying on her activities. She has to be my girlfriend for that to happen though. As a wife, I pray that never happens. We should have been able to trust one another so well before and during our marriage.

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If a person has to spy, get a private detective on their significant other then I think there is no point in staying in the relationship since there are trust issues. Instead of spying maybe it is best to have a discussion with the person involved.

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But is crazy though, ABC aired a news about a lady that was been spy on by her ex. All he did was install a software on her phone and he can hear all her conversation, read her text, and even know when she change the phone number. The software send the new number to him so he have it automatically. If u r a victim of this. The problem can be solved by reprogramming the phone or buy another phone. Changing phone number does not solve it cos the stuff is on the phone.

So if ur partner accuse u of something u talked over the phone while she's not there, u r victim nii

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I really dont need to. It will def come out one day and if it does, its OVER!

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@Popoyeh: I believe u hav serious issues with reading and understanding simple English construction. What's my opinion on the topic? Did I say I'm for or against it? Some people would just pounce on a topic with premeditated and useless replies without reading thru. God help you. Please be objective people.

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but if a guy buys u underwear arent u only sposed to wear it when hes arnd??

proffesional thread derailing!

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^^lmao! I wouldnt put them on. I'd keep them in the gift wrap and THEN give them to a transvestite lol. soo if he likes what hes been searching for. some guys are complete idiots.

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lol@ ayettymama and spoilt. SERIOUSLY. the guy is a complete nut job. and I'm not spying! I will hide in the bushes for NO man lol.

the GPS panties are REAL. http://hight3ch.com/gps-panties/ & http://www.theregister.co.uk/2005/05/31/forget_me_not_panties/

and I am REALLY paranoid about them lol. So spoilt you are right NO guy can buy lingerie for me!

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whenever i feel like spyin im usually right! so i go ahead!

so if its my husband i wont- instead ill tell him to dump the Dam b4 i cut his balls off!

but if its a bf ill email him the evidence and reasons why i dont wanna see him again!

mzdarkskin ur tooooo funny!!

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What for??

Trust is an absolute neccessity in any relationship l am into especially marriage.

@ Poster you wan die of high blood pressure, abi you no get beta thing to do?

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Under no circumstances willI do that.

NO! NEVER!

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that's bullsh1t, why will you Mount Surveillance on your Partner,i think anyone who does that is only fooling himself because at last he or she will end up getting Hurt.

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when did your disease graduate to this level

now you out here loving and kissing up on men

you faggort.

you need salvation.

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What is d escennce of dating wen there is no trust. it rubbish

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Nooooo. I rather KISS googles, loool. **runs for dear life**

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@Poster,

NO WAY!!! Why would I do that? Like I dont have time for something better. To those who spy on their partner, married or not, what happens when you find out that he cheats? Most of the time, nothing. The woman gets hysterical and would cause a fight.

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@pro01

I love u

come here lets KISS

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majority of the folks on here are yet to be married, i wouldn't either , i pray it never crosses my mind.

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abeg carry your furodi comot for front jo

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survelliance or on survelliance,women are more faithful in marriage.

I can assure you that,if my man tries it on me,he'll be glad he did.

But then,b4 you do that,be sure you are clean.

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I think i'm d first to click on yes,

I'd spy if I had all the time,energy and resources at my disposal d most important thing is the action i have to take if she is found wanting!

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nope. won't marry a woman that will cause me that much insecurity in the first instance.

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I think i'm d first to click on yes,

I'd spy if I had all the time,energy and resources at my disposal d most important thing is the action i have to take if she is found wanting!

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You might also be digging ur own grave by doin dat!!!

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Yeah Deluxecad. Prefer those rude shocks to blissful, foolish delusions of my woman's 'virtue'. For me, only death is worse than trusting, caring for, living with, and loving a woman who'd betray me and make me such a fool. Thats just me.

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what else can I say you really have a nice analysis .

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