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Would You Read Thru A Phone Left In your Care?

My good friend is going through this fix now. Although i thought there wasn't much to it Initially. She met this new guy some months back, that she describes as second to none. His intension was made known to her but she hasn't given her word, she likes the guy no doubt and they've been hanging out together a lot. She mistakenly forgets her phone in his house and didn't realize until she got home. She was dropped late at night, (Saturday) I guess they couldn't see the next day (Sunday) due to excusable reasons to get her phone back. The guy sent the phone this morning, to her in her office.

We've been talking on IM now for hours, because she thinks the guy(her intended boyfi) would have read through her text messages. Which includes messages from 'admirers'. And she thinks he might start thinking differently about her. I kept saying "he might not".

So my house mates, if a phone was left in your care for "two nights". Would u be tempted to look through it all. I ask this question because i think i will.

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she couldn't get the phone the next day because for reasons beyond her control, which is the guy traveled very early the next day and came back at night. The only option was to get it sent to her office on Monday, which he did.

I think ordinarily a lot of us might not want to snoop through if it was a short period but how many can stand the temptation of two nights? I might not have the intension of finding something but will just be tempted to look.

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Almost everyone on this forum pretends to be angelic and they would not snoop or peep.

What if it was your teen daughter or son's phone left in your care?

u still ain't going to see/look what she's been up to?

who she's hanging out with? Text msgs, who she's been calling and has been calling her?

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For sure o.

I dont think i could even bring maself not to.

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@Joey

my man, im gud. .how is it going?

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Reply to a post you mean. . .

Just continue with the thread please.

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@tkb

word up!

@moderator,

where is my reply on this thread?

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no i wont . cos its not a good habbit

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i have done so. . .

and yu would be SHOCKED at the ish some people leave in their phones. . .and on their computers for that matter

i'm a curious , nosy guy. . .and like a lot of computer nerds/geeks, i beleive there's no such thing as too much information. . .my snooping has confirmed some of my insights about people. . .eg a pair of my ogas are in an affair. . .so i know that leverage pass leverage. . .if u know what i'm saying. . .

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Would you feel secured if she does the same to you?

YES

What I did not see won't hurt me abi

I just think it so childish snooping through people things, only insecure people act that way.

I dislike been bothered with unnecessary things, I get feed of argument fast, especially when he/she is asking about the contents they found in my phone

Is it always about infidelity? well i do it but the intension is not that am looking fo sometin bad she has done or she is doing. I can even do so in her presence. No big a deal i dont ve skeletons in ma cupboard. So all my friend can feel free to scrol thru ma phone. My lady even ve my email password and ATM pin number, so wat's dere about text message.

If am dating a lady there needs to be complete trust. no secrets entertained that why if u tell me anytin new about her my first response is like its a lie and the second, how would u feel if i call her and ask her in ur presence. She is the first to know if sometin new come up. for God sake she even plans all even wit me unless it is meant to be a surprise to her.

Well, People deffers sha

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chei!

they deleted my post!! Moderator why now?

Nigerian men are not useless just like someone wrongly opined. That was my take and you didnt let them see it.

nyways, no wahala. . .

@islander

what happened to ur handle?

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I won't but if the temptation is too much like 2 days I'll give in to temptation. I'll read but I won't remember

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JKpretty darling, nice topic,

well I had a talk with someone regarding this, and they assured me that this type of behaviour is atypical with Nigerian men.  On that note just as my therapist AJ and soldier TroOe stated, it is an invasion of privacy, and NO I wouldn't even dream of doing such to my partner.  Even if you are in a relationship with someone, there must still be a lever of privacy.

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yes, i will just glance thru

i wont read everything sha

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i would rasack the fone die abeg , there's no harm in knowledge

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snoop, nah

but 2days you said, bet if she left that phone for that long some part of her wanted him to snoop through

cos i know how i feel whenever my phone isnt within reaching distance

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Nope snooping isn't my style just how i won't appreciate someone else looking though my phone without my permission

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@ Topic,

Yes I have once gone through the phone of my girlfriend. It was through that I was able to know she was dating someone else in University. When I saw the text she sent to the guy, I confronted her with it, she denied it and left my house in annoyance.

Only for her to send her brother to me, begging me for playing and dating someone else. It sure did remove the trust I had in her though henceforth

However, I have learnt to respect the privacy of others with time. And so, I will not look into her phone anyother time again except she so wishes I do.

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i know

I've learnt not to take things at face value tho,

I always take things with a grain of salt, goes a long way to ease the mind

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yes, i will cuz he is my boyfriend

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My sentiments exactly

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Thanx for ur responses

I told her i'll look through, if it were me. She's not really happy with this. Her upset is really getting overbearing.

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Problem with satisfying curiosity that way is, what you MAY find could give you sleepless nights, depending on the way you interpret what you see.

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I am soooooooo with you on this!

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I'd never look through another person's phone. . . especially a guy's and I'd never be apologetic for what's on my phone when a guy looks through it.

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Never been curious enough to read through someone else's letters.

A phone that doesn't belong to me is exactly the same - private. What next, going through someone elses pockets?

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two nites and in this case some one u're asking out?

personally, i will scroll through, cant avoid that o

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I have no problems most times about a person going through my phone. So long as the person is a good friend of mine. I however don't go through peoples phones unless the person specifically requested me to through it and in his/her presence.

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