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Would You Sincerely Love and Date a Girl who Won't Make Love to You?

now it goes like this, you have a girlfriend,each time you ask her for sex?she says lets wait,am not ready,you know shes a virgin,would you you really wait for her?or keep her aside and sastify your urge elsewhere? what do think?

for the guys,would you wait for her?

for the girls if he keeps pestering you,would you give in?

and lastly why are guys so interested in sex?

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U better start chaging your orientation, we are not more in 1012 this is 2012, meaning life don advance pass all those level, girls dress on a skimpy wear to attract and seduce their boy friend,

If you look good as a guy, wealthy, or they just have interest in you the girls will give u big time

But when them want to show u they start to form and scoping

can u walk and never shake head, how can u be in a relationship and never want to make love? When a man stay with u for the fact that he's waiting for sex one day he will definatelly get it. If dating is knowing each other better than having to know how sexual active u are is part of it but becouse of old mentality they pretend they don't have interest in it.

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Well i will keep her but on the long run if i discover that she is not a virgin men OBJ go cry for the thing wa i go do oo,

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I can't even picture myself in that kinda situation and that brings the question WHAT DOES SHE WANTS she should know this open secret that r/ship is all about love n sex, trust and commitment is left 4 prospective marriage partners so if she wont light up the flame she should take a walk.

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Most guys here say they'll wait, they'll wait. I have not dated too much guys, but I have dated 6. only one of them was able to really listen to No when i say No and yes when i say Yes. the rest of them are freaks. Guys can easily say 'I wont' but they really 'do not'. they pester you, get offended, nag you etc. if you don't give them.

that is not a criteria for giving in tho. I have heard too much i wont while, the real thing is i will. If a guy pesters you and you don't wanna give in, don't, if you want to, then do.

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^^^ sorry brov, s*h*i*t happens.

@topic, nope coz sex is as important as being faithful in a relationship, btw a gurl being a virgin b4 marriage does not guarantee she is gonna be faithful afterwards

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To all the girls who think that they can beat a guy by restriction, YOU CAN'T.

You may say I no guy can may me have sex if I don't want to, but the truth most girl do not know is that their body is like an electrified circuit with a switch. when a guy who knows how to turn on that switch come home, girls forget all the mouth you are making here, you go open the damn thing yakata

I used to think that my girl was no way going to fall such poo, each time I asked her for just a kiss, na wahala , sex was a no go area. She brags a lot and I trusted her. she was a virgin then, I was the one spending, I was damn willing to marry this girl,

All of a sudden, one day she told me that she another guy had deflowered her,

Imagine the hatred I still have for her each time I think about it,

This was girl who refuse me from kissing,

NL what do you make out of this,

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one Unclad truth is dat guyz believes dat a rel.ship is cemented with sex.dem believ say if d rel.ship ends,na dem loose.though my gal na ''V'' but iv been coping with it and we are happy.

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If i can't do without sex, then i'm the one who's got a problem.

If God knows i'll need sex to survive, he'll have made me wit a womanliness as well.

I'm basically ,

Nice 1, correct guy

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I don't thik there is anything wronin your girl not wanting to sleep with you,dnt pester her about it, even tho it mite seem hard, wen d time is right it would happen, i haven't had sex in any of my relationships because i feel the disadvantages are more than d advantages plus there are many thinsg you could engage in apart from sex

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the problem we have as humans is that we keep telling ourselves lies, if u have a sexual urge, ur girl should be able to understand and satisfy that, these things are natural, we have little or no control over them, her understanding is part of u guys being compartible, lets tell ourselves the truth and leave morality out of this

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So wat happens if it is something you do before and she just turn up one day to say no more sex before marriage?

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No. because SEX adds to relationship.

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weii i guess there must be a reason for everything, if your girl says no sex, if u love her and you understand her reason your relationship would survive, that is if its genuine.

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I wont date a girl that puts restrictions on the relationship. If you one day tell me "I want to tell you something: I wont sleep with you till my marriage night whatever the hell that means. . . " when I aint even asked you for sex, then I know you got serious issues, americans call em "baggages".

Again if you make a guy wait so long for sex, till your wedding night, then you open them legs, make sure your junction dont stink. Cos if it does, the guy aint gonna think his waiting was worth it.

Blood on my dick? habba

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Blah blah blah . . .  stereotypes. . . .

Then again let me ask you: What makes you think a guy values your virginity to high heavens? Unless you're planning to settle with a man that doesn't love you enough to not remind you of your past mistakes, no guy makes comments on a girl's past he truly loves. If the virgin I marry today turns Dam tommorrow, her virginity aint worth nothing. . . baby believe me.

But let me throw you my favorite curve ball. Not all virgins bleed on the first night. So if I wanted a virgin, and I think the only way to prove she is, is by the blood on the sheet on the first night, what makes you think I'm going to trust you if you don't bleed my bed red? It then again boils down to those words you say. There's no proof for trust. I either choose to believe that the "virgin" I married is telling me the truth, or no.

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Sex is not all there is in a relationship, there's more to a relationship than just sex...does it mean that one cannot have a clean relationship without sex? this is what u'll do and even get tired of after marriage so why the rush?.....ok for the ladies, what if after messing urself up with a guy thinking that he's going to marry u then he dumps u later? and for the guys, how would u like to marry someone that has been seen in and out by another man? it's more like a 'second hand' like people would say, wont u appreciate a girl who has kept herself morally chaste inspite of all pressure's just 4 u? a girl that it's only u that have access to her body?...c'mon guy's it's just wonderful considering the fact that we live in an immoral world where sex is the order of the day, if i'm gonna have sex with a man, it MUST be after marriage...i mean i can't give my pride to another man who would'nt cherish it 4ever...i believe that a girl's pure moral stand is what make's her beautiful and unique. so 4 the girl's who are on the right track as regards morality i'll advise u to hold on to it strongly.. never allow anyone take it away 4rom u no matter the gift's and all that...i'm sure the owner will greatly appreciate and cherish ur effort when u find him...and so will the Almighty God. PEACE!!!

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The problem lies with the guy, they often ask for sex as if it's a true test of LOVE. I'm happy for the guy who finds his girl asking him instead.

Sex is a spirit and shld not be misused.

Guys should not pester thier ladies for sex, it shld be a mutual consent, otherwise, girls cut out from any relationship where u r being forced to do what u dont wnat to do.

It's a matter of choice

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Helly that's good. Pls I will advice u stay away from relationship until when u are ready for marriage, becos I guess is only a virgin, someone that matubates or a slacker that will go into a serious relationship with you after spelling to him what should hold in ur relationship with him

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This topic is a very nice one. One thing about me is that i like setting things straight at the initial stage so that there'll be no problem or arguement whatsoever later on. If i want to date a guy, the first thing i'll let him know is that i'm not into sex then if he can cope fine cos' most guys are like that...the moment u agree to go out with them then the next thing is sex...they'll want to have sex with u and when u refuse they'll assume u're doing with someone else. so i wouldn't like a situation like that and that's why i'm gonna let him know that i can't have sex with him so that if that's the reason he came to me in the first place he'll go try his luck somewhere else. PEACE!!

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@dablessed

Plz dont be, and do not mind my last post, I was only kidding and also to butressed sage's post. I will advice u to start this thread all over again and I am rooster sure you will understand our points. Why should a lady meets me today and starts telling me that I should forget about sex until after marriage, when I have not demanded for such. So it's as good as to tell her that she should forget my attention and money until after marriage

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@ bedone .......i feel if u really like not love now just like her u should respect her wishes at least for some time till she comes arround and its not about being a slacker sex does make the relationship u mean u cant just hangout with ur girl friend she should not just be someone u have sex with she should like ur pal so sex does become the most important thing dont get me worng it matters and if she really likes u she would end up being being the one asking for sex

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GUYS!, is the relationship going to turn to marraige or what. Let us face reality, you are like 19 years of age to 21 or younger, still going to college and have no plan or focus on a relationship leading to marriage and you have a girlfriend, you are both enjoying each others company, experimenting to gain experience and having sex. Men, the girl should understand. What does the girl want, me calling her, taking her out everyday and reading her bed time stories? A girl who is not ready for sexual relationship should not even smell relationship because the question will definately come except he his "the boy is nice" (Slacker).

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Ken and sage! Am ashamed at your reasoning. Its quite disappoining to read that you guys will not freely spend on your girlfriends unless she releases herself for sex. What do you guys take ladies for by the way? An object of prostitution? Very disappointing indeed.

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make adesodgi gbab u. He go bulala you. You are making fun of his name

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Every other part of a relationship is left to grow, y should this be pre excluded. If i am in love with my woman and she is with me, then we should be completely open to each other, ready to take care of each other, and willing to make sacrifices. I will not pre exclude anything from her and neither would she from me

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not all guys are intrested in sex. take me for an example i don't go out with a gal just for SEX i go out with her for wat she see's in me and wat i see in her. i don't tell i love her just because i want to make out it's becoz i do love her. i respect her and wait when she's ready. and in your question i think the guy should really respect her and wait until she's ready.

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My answer to the subject question is one....YES!

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@Kenflavor: Yes, it is a sin.

The fact that a guy ends up marrying a flat mate he has been fornicating with does not justify the act. Truth be told, they were first fornicators, then husband & wife.

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Funny ironies of life

1 the presence of much money is not enough to make a good and loving relationship.

The absence though is enough to break up a relationship

2 Good sex alone cannot make a completely good relationship

The absence also is enough to destroy a relationship

( and talking about relationships, marriages are included)

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Very well said Layi. I sincerely Wish there were more men on the same path of reasoning. Well done and keep the hold on brother, you will have no regrets you did.

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Kenflavor,

I'm disagreeing with you for the first time. i wouldnt have bothered if u werent a christian like u propose.

U gotta understand marriage from the spiritual standpoint.

So many People start with love and end up in divorce. Why? Cuzz marriage is more spiirtual than physical. Its the the apex of all forms of human relationships.  Its not just for procreation buts its a prototype of future man.

In heaven there would be no male of female but we'll all be both..restored back to the "pre-eve Adam". GOD himself is both. JESUS is the head of the church and we are his bride just like the husband is the head of the wife.

If u don't succeed in marriage, u've got a hard time ahead. U prolly need some revelations about marriage for u to know that the bed undefiled is worth more than a million diamonds.

As a matter of fact, u aint achieving anything by having premarital sex. Giving reasons is just a lame excuses to superimpose your passion with something else.

I've had several encounters wit ladies but knowledge they say sets u apart. I'm still a V @ 24 and i'm no gay because i really get attracted to ladies (humane) and have been tempted several times but it easy to overcome cuzz i walk with information. I don't loose female friendships cuzz of that. I keep them happy.

Ther is more cons to premarital sex than pros. in fact there are only seemin pros. Ther is no real advantage. Even if u think you're both sexually compatible. Its no proove that your marriage would be succesful.

What matters most is mutual LOVE. With that there would be centripetal efforts to make it work because it gives u a reason to make your marriage has to work and not reasons wh it cant.

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@dablessed

Hunnie, I am sure you are very good at English Language, the answer to your question could be fetched from my points stated above.

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Kenflavor: What exactly are you saying? Will you or will you not have sex before you marry your woman?

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Tell them.

It very well goes beyond having many heavenly feelings.

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I concur sage, whatever floats your boat and that sure floats mine, sex may seem ordinary but they are a far more concrete destiny shaping event, having sex before marriage and eventually getting married is like having a "carry over" into the marriage that will require a conscious and concerted effort on the part of both parties to "clear" it---it goes beyond an organsm.

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Thanks GG for putting it clearer

This is what i said seun, and as much as i respect chastity i do not believe in the concept of "must have virgin" for a wife.

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He didn't say he wants a virgin. He said he wants the one he (himself) has not touched while dating.

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Don't you think it's unfair to go about having premarital sex only to insist on having a virgin when you want to get married?

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hmmmm...the infamous lie detector........but hey,u knw you're lying.

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Not really, I can do anything 4 a lady i really love, and when i say anything, i mean it. But i dont like girls who start blabing restrictions around me when i have a pure motive towards her. Our relationship has to be allowed to develop on its own. Every relationship is unique and thatz the way i see it. I dont try to take advantage of any lady i am with, but we would let time play a part in defining it. I dont wanta lady thinking i am doing something so i can get to cross a restriction she has set on me.

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Sage, so what you are saying is that sex is all there is to a relationship? Na wa o!

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Honestly though, i dont see us progressing

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Tiwa, abeg help me tell them. We don talk am tire!

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I must say u lot are chatting rubbish. I agree with layi and some other responsible person but not with codec.

If u do love the girl u could actually wait till she is ready isn't? why in a rush. oga

may God help us. it is also a sin to have sex b4 marriage u know.

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What type of love are you taking about is it the straight love i.e but male and female organs involve or MouthAction without any organ. If non of them is not included, i can still cope with it, but the relationship will come to an end if the girl who claim to be my girlfriend rely on me for financial support with letting me in.

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why not?

will wait as long as she aint giving it 2 someone else outside.

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i will too if i was a guy

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