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Would You Succumb To Blackmail?

O.k here's the deal:like every1 else,i've done things,things i'm not proud of,but that was a long tym ago,and i've turned my life around. The thing is,a couple of weeks back,i ran into som1 who knew me back then,and lets just say i hung wit some very unsavoury characters. Long story short,he's tryin to blackmail me. I've always said that i wld neva succumb 2 blackmail,but now i'm wondering whether to just give him the moni and get it over with.

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I dont feel any better now. The only thing that's gone is my headache.

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Try playstation. . . .It cures heartaches.

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Sauron,i'm not in the mood for a verbal sparring session,and yes,this post shld be here because it affects my heart,his and our r/shp.

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@ Topic.

Never give in to blackmail, because if you do. . .he will always come back for some more.

I really dont know what you've done that's so bad. . . .but if it means you paying for your past in any form, then I suggest you bow your head and just pay the sins for what you did in the past.

That sounds better than giing in to blackmail. . . .then afterwards, you will be clear of your conscience. . and move on

Moreover, should this be in Romance?

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@sauron,well now you know.

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@ Topic

Kill Bill Vol.3

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You have no right to tell me to get a grip because you dont know what i'm feeling right now. Words can only say so much.

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You know what sauron,just drop it,please.

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Cheese n Rice. . . . . .I am not being negative.

U really need to get a grip of yourself. . . . . .

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Hr.Hotness,i certainly hope so,and karmamod,i wont bombard his phone. I dont think i can take any more rejections.

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Don Ese, I repeat, DO NOT bombard his phone. Leave him be for now.

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Sweetie, So sorry you are hurting. I pray that if he's the one for you that he will come back to you. If not, then someone else is gonna come along but please tell them upfront so surprises like this don't spring up in the future. (((hugs)))

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Sauron please dont be negative. No i will not kill myself over him,i have too much self-respect for that,but i will hurt. I will hurt a lot. This is my fault. Tek's a wonderful guy and its my fault this has happened. How can you say he's not the only guy in the world? I love him,and i cant turn my feelings off and on. I cant stop loving him anymore than i can stop feeling bad right now.

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It all depends.

You have to give him some time. You couldnt have expected a hug and a kiss right? From the pieces I'm getting, it sounds like the thing was quite serious SO the reaction isnt too far off

You just can't expect him to be happy now. Not possible.

What you do now is just give him time to cool off. DONT BOMBARD HIS PHONE. If he likes you enough, he'll contact you and try to have a FULL discussion.

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Just take heart and try to get over it. Behind every disappointment is a blessing.

Don't beat yourself up over this, there's no secret under the sun.

If he didn't know now and found out on the day before your wedding or something, which one would have been worse?

If he's the one, he'll be back. No one should be judged by their past.

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i dont knw what u did and i wont try guessing, but he probably needs time to come to terms with certain things. . . its better he heard it frm u, u need to believ that,

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If he really was d one, he'll be able to see past all that and come back. . . if he doesnt u'll knw it wasnt meant to be

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Get REAL. . . . . .If he goes, there are better guys out there.

Why kill yourself over a dude??

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Karmamod,i told him. I told him. You know what hurts the most,i felt it,i knew,he was The One.

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I'm sitting here alone,staring at my phone,hurting so bad. I knew he wld storm out and leave,and he did. What i didnt plan for war that look he gave me,made me feel so . . . God,i cant even describe this. I feel so low right now. I feel so low.

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I'm guessing he didnt take it well. . . i am so sorry about that,

at least u came out clean tho and he didnt hear it frm somewhere else, u faced ur fear and u won, it may not seem like it right now but it can only get better frm now on

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Why should u allow yourself to be held by the barrel??

What could u have done to tolerate blackmail?? Puh---leazzzzzzzzzze, get over it.

Dare the bastard. It usually works.

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Dinner,and a big part of my life is officialy over. I told you it wouldnt work out,didnt i? Its a good thing i'm not a drinking person.

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Thank-you. I dont think it'll work out for me. It never does. Like a lot of stuff in my life,i blew this. It's like i'm cursed or something.

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I hope it works out for you.

Goodluck

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I'm not reporting this to the cops. Besides,i dont tink naija cops can do anything. I'm sure some of them dont even know what blackmail is. I think i've made a decision. I've been thinking about it all day. Its like som1 said,you cant keep running away from your own shadow. I'm so tired of this. I'm so damn tired. Tek and i are having dinner tonight. It's as good a time as any. I think i subconcsiously knew i was gonna have to tell him,i was just waiting for the perfect time to say it,only there's never a perfect time to say poo like that. I know what i have to do. Whatever will be,will be.

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A-40,i'm a gal. Yes,this cld break our r/shp,but i wont go to jail,not a second time for the same crime. I've paid my dues.

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might seem like a small fee now, then he'll continue coming back for more and the price will get higher. Might even get physical

Tell your dude now and get it over with. Then if the other dude tries any BS, at leats your dude would have already know and he'll end up looking silly.

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not telling is keeping a secret. . . no matter how u choose to dress it up, its still d same thing.

consider  a scenario where he finds out about ur sordid past frm somewhere else outside this blackmail (ther is absolutely nothi that is hidden under d sun), do u think he'd ever forgive u. . . compare this to a situation where u come clean, he'll appreciate d fact that u came to him urself. . . if he really loves u, he'll forgive u. . . it might take a while for him to get over but he will.

u'll sleep better at night knowing u hav hidden nuthin, nuthin anyone can use against u. . . and he believ it or not, in due time he will trust u more knwing he has all d details of ur sordid past esp as u told him yourself.

as long as u r not tellin, ther is always a danger of him finding out anyways. . . plus if u give this guy d money now, u hav no guarantee he wont keep comin back for more or he wont spill d beans anyways

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The fee is small which leaves more room for him to come back and ask for more he is not just black-mailing but planning on extortion too! don't fall for it

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@Hr.Hotness,so what am i supposd to do? Walk up to him and say oh hey love,did u know i . . . ? And just to clarify things,i didnt keep a secret from him,i just didnt tell him.

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@A-40,it's grievous alright. And sauron,sins differ in intensity and punishment. Ah God,this poo is eating me up.

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If it happened i would be scheming ways of raining bullets on the bloodclot.Giving up is not even an option it depends on how grievous the secret is

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Sauron! Jeez! O fe pa mi or what? Trust me,i dont want to add murder to my list of sins. Its already long enough.

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If u think d money is small and like u said earlier, u dn't think he is a stalker for money then give him

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Ima,it's like u're not getting me. My would-be blackmailer knew me way back when i was doing all that poo. Tek(my guy)doesnt knw abt dat part of me,and if he did,it would really hurt him,and by extension,us. My would-be blackmailer is asking for a fee(which seems small to me)to keep his lips sealed.

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well you can always tell him wat he wants to hear so he will leave u alone, if he doesn't know all of your bad side. so what he prolly knows would not do much harm.

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I agree!

Only pple with secrets can be blackmailed. . . if u keep no secrets and own up to whatever horrible things u've done, u take away d ammunition.

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Coming clean wit my secrets wld require my telling him abt a part of me he has no idea even existed. How can i even do that? The guy who's trying to blackmail me seems to be a decent sort. It's not that much money to me and it seems like a very good option rite now.

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once you give in, he will always come back. n the blackmail will never go away, better to get things out in the open n get it over with

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Don't give into blackmail, no one needs that kind of control over your life.

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I would never give in to a blackmail.

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Hence why certain things you know that can come to light should first be illuminated by you.

No i wouldn't.

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