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Would You Tell Your Friend?

Hello peeps. would you tell your friend you caught his/her partner cheating ? what if they are the kind that  believes their partner could never cheat on them , What would you do? are you going to look over it and let your friend find out, or you will feel guilty if you don't tell him/her whats up and does that makes you a bad friend?

do you have experiences from the past with the same issue how did you handle it/ or how would you handle it?

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Who cares?  Please that is their business.  Like I do not have my own wahalas to solve instead of worrying about who is "doing" who?  I say that is their business abeg.

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Only if I'm fresh out of my own business to mind at that moment that I find 2 people dining or watching a movie as 'breaking news'.

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yes they chould be just friend

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why do people always assume if you see a guy and a girl at the movies that they are either lovers or dating, they could just be friends

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May be it the way you went about doing the telling that put you in trouble. I think it is not a bad idea. Anyway, if i discover such things about him, i will tell you.

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i kinda agree, i'll pass it of as a mild " i saw u 2" compliment. atimes its not everything that the eyes see that the mouth must say. if things turnaround for the worse and ur tale becomes a ruse, ur gonna hang for it.

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Will not tell my friend but will mention it where both my friend in her boyfriend are.

Just a little innocent remark.

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Have u done some telling that has put on in deep trouble? I have, & i've learnt so i do no telling, watch with ur own eyes & listen with ur ears. Opari!

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Whichever way it is, the friend should know. If it is an innocent act, it means the guy wont be secretive about it and if it is not, but a smooth operation, it is good the girl knows what's up.

It all depends on how the friend goes about telling her friend, so she doesnt sound like "Amebo". So if you dont want your girl or boy to know you had an outing with his or her friend, dont do it. Period!

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Go with Busta on this one. . .it depends. . .

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it depends no the kinda friend in question,

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My girlfriend saw her close friend's boyfriend at the movie with another girl holding hands. She is sure

he is messing around with this girl. She said her friend love this guy a lot. She would have really love to

tell her friend just to look out for her, but she doesnt want to mess up her relatioship with the guy.

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It depends,

1. Depends on how close I am with this girl.

2. if it was just a harmless movie date or just eating together, no sweat about that. I will just go over and say hello to the guy.

3. If i see them mess around and canoodling, and this girl (ma friend) is supposedly very close friends with me. . . Then I will tell her.

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What's to tell?

Based on your information, you've seen nothing out of the ordinary. People have friends with whom they like to share entertainment and meals.

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seal ur mouth guccibabe

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It Depend on your friend understanding, if it's the one that will go and tell His/Her partner you will no do such a thing and if you guys have come a long way, like you childhood friend, you don't have a choice than to tell him/her.

But it hard for someone to accept the fact.

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Gucci, Whats the point. You tell your friend, then soon your friend will go blaming you and if you dont tell, you feel wrong. So what you gonna do? I would just rather keep quiet. Am tired of telling people when the person dont appreciate it.

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it is the best if u just leave it like that.let te guy or the babe find out,sooner or later the truth will receal itself.u culd just put mouth afterwards.

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It depends on d nature of d person and d kind of friendship we have. If she's a very close frnd and i feel she's strong enof 2 handle it,i'd tel her,but if i dont,i'll do 1 of d ffg: 1-confront the guy/gal and hope he/she has the decency to tell my frnd him/herself.

2-keep my mouth shut.afterall,its not my secret to reveal.

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well, as for me, i will rather keep my tiny little mouth short.

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say nothing, because when they resolve their differences, you'll be the bad person that wanted 2 break them up

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well well,it depends on how close we are and ten i will have a very good idea of her thinking pattern. i would tell her even though girls can be irrational and not use their head in most cases i'll tell her with solid proof that is,else i'd die of guilt and if it were me i'd wanna know.

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I have three very best friends and all three I would tell this to. All of my other friends they would find out on thier own.

I know that I can tell this to my very best friends because we have all discussed this together. We have decided that we would want to know what the other has seen and what is going on.

With the rest of my friends the relationships are too new to be able to deal with something like this.

My family of course I will tell, in fact one of my best friends, screwed one of my brothers girlfriends and i told my brother. . . it damaged thier relationship for a couple of months but did nothing to ours. he understood why i told my brother and understood that i will always tell me brother and respected me more after it came out.

So it really depends on the type of friendship you have with person and what type of person they are. Some can handle the truth and others prefer to burry thier heads in the sand.

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before you interfere in your friend's relationship

you have to be sure, because you might end up

on the wrong side.

but if i am in that shoe, instead of going directly to

my friend, i will first of all meet with her,

2 know why she did what she did,

after that, i will talk to her about it.

definitely she will changed for better

that way you have saved a life

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I wouldnt. Especially if it is a very close friend of mine.

I would subtly try to put some doubts about their partners in their minds but will not come out straight and tell on the other partner.

Relationships are private and personal areas in every human, so I try as much as I can to stay out of other peoples businesses.

Proof or no proof, Jenny is right. You would change from being a concerned friend to relationship-destroying enemy.

Dont ever get involved in other peeps businesses. Period.

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@karma

even if there is a proof,its better not to say a thing,let the girl find out herself

if d girl loves d guy,they might stil come back again,at d end of d day u will bcome d enemy

its better to keep shut ,let the person find out herself

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This has happened to me before. I was told that a friend was screwing my babe till the day I caught them pants down. I did not believe till the day I caught them in her house right on her bed. Today, we are grown up. I have screwed two of his girlfriends and if he isn't carefull I will screw his wife!. It depends on the way you want to handle it because I gave her up.

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would rather mind my business really, except my opinion is asked.

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@Poster

If i were you,i wouldn't tell her,if she makes up with her boyfriend after you tell her you might end up not being close.

Trust me i'm speaking from personal experience.

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Right after I walk up to him and tell him he is a dog I will call my "close friend". It has to be a close friend though

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My best friend on Not,i always mind my biz.Let her find out herself . . . .some things are better left unsaid.

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I wouldn't tell them but I will drop hints and lead them to find out for themselves but I'd never directly tell because even if you're right and even if they believe you, if you have anything to do with the breakup somehow from then on, you'll be known as the relationship breaker and your friend will never trust you with a relationship again because she'll feel you're always looking for something bad in the guy and something wrong in the relationship.

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how would you feel if your friend knows what will affect you and don't say nothing to you about it!

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It depends on the person really. . . some people hide from the truth and wld direct their anger at u if u try to show it to them.

Ideally I wld shut my trap and mind my business but there i certain people who i knw can handle it and who wld do the same for me so I feel i owe it to them to let them knw.

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@ topic,

if the person in question is my best friend, i should know his level of reasoning and reaction to things, why wont i tell him? what are friends for?

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Poster, I will not. Why create more trouble for yourself?

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@ poster

I must swear that this a very dicey topic one that cud eventually severe a great friendship i would ask my self one question would my friend do same for me if he caught my girl in the act but the truth is that any girl that doesnt seems comfy with her man any more that she now opts to go out should be treated with a bold thought for that reason i am gonna tell my frd after all what are friends for if not for in-conveniences

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don't say a word,you will be their enemy after they make up and resolve their differences.

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NO

i have been in that situation twice and the women in question denied it ( i won't share the long details here) . I found myself in my friend's black book and up till this moment we are not on good terms (i don't care).

My friends did believe me at first but trust women at their games, i don't know what happened between them but i was told (twice in two different scenarios) point blank to mind my fu*king business and not interfere again.

Since then i have been minding my business, no matter what i see, i am always on my own.

Except for my siblings, but for friendship i let it be and leave it to them to find out.

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@ Topic

The thing is i dont lik pucking my nose in2 other pples affair, but if its a close frnd i will tell him indirectly like speaking to him in riddles and if he fails to get mi then i wil live to find out himself.

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what if she's like your best friend?

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Unless you have proof, dont bother saying anything

Girls can be irrational and blame you instead

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Word

@Topic, depends on the friend.

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you must have a strong heart.

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Jenny, Longest time! Whats up wit u?

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