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Would You Travel Abroad With Your Newly Wedded Bride?

A friend of mine meant well for his family,got married here and took his bride alonge with him to the UK, I bet you the marriage broke up after a year, that African woman he used to know join the white woman click, no more respect for hussy, insults in laws, and make a home cleaning roaster for hussy! what a life, you see how nasty a woman can be in the mist of total freedom and opportunities.

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well i don't think it is a good idea,but different people with different views but majority of those women not all, end up leaving their husband

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How ridiculous is that? So because one chap took his woman to UK and had a nasty experience suddenly means others should or should not take their women abroad? I think this discussion point is skirting close to stereotyping all women who follow their hubbies to UK as potential marital rebels. It is offensive if anyone thinks that all women who travel to UK or indeed even living in UK feel so empowered as to want to challenge their husbands and in-laws. Of course there are bad eggs in the UK, no doubt there are bad eggs in Naija too. The wife and hubby probably had unresolved issues that escalated when they went to UK. I doubt that a UK visit is long enough for a marriage to break down unless the sh*t has been going on long before. Please leave UK out of this equation.

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i think all the ones that are started to prove men are dogs, cheats, no good, out of shape, poor etc are very unfortunate

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that is pure deductive reasoning in psychology, you don't use one persons misconduct to apply to all, that is not done in human existence so long as my observation on human endeavour is concern as a social scientist.

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i think all the threads that are started just to prove or argue that women are silly are plain idiotic.

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^^ How are you sure she won't bail out with any of those Lebanese men in Cotonou?

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them say make i nor take my bride go abroad say she go run

so i wont take no one to no abroad expect she wants to go to contonu or sometin~

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I wouldn't call putting wealth before feelings - love (if it exists in their minds at all), marrying up or marrying well. It is what it is - gold digging. Like I said, Asian women will pretend to have fallen in love within a two-day encounter and once you're trapped with their innocence talks and all that, you're jammed!

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hmmm ok. i guess people have different ideas about it. some call it "marrying well" or "marrying up" while others call it "gold digging" i guess.

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Oyinda, I'm not stereotyping Asian women as being gold diggers, but I mentioned them in relevance to Nigerian women being tagged gold diggers, when in fact, most Asian women are money mongers.

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Every1 is entittled to his or her opinion.Just becos ur friend,cousin or whatever had a problem with his wife when he took her abroad doesn't mean all women are the same.Nigerian men are not in the position to judge the women cos u guys are bunch of infidels!How do u justify a man that has a wife abroad and marries sum1 back home without letting her know?U guys want slaves, sum1 u can push around, sum1 dt cnt stand up 2 u, But times are changing and we're getting wiser we cnt be slaves 4eva.U do deserve what u get from these women!

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and why do you think men cheat on  their wives or leave them for younger women. isn't because beauty doesn't always "stay with you" like you're trying to prove?

beauty can be lost, bosoms will droop and become flat, u will get wrinkles, grow fat etc just the way money can disappear,  or a man hasn't been promoted yet. etc  and usually a man makes more money as he gets older or if he comes from a wealthy family, just like a woman has a more attractive physique in her younger age or if she's just blessed with it.

so i think money and looks are comparable in this case. very comparable in fact.

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u are still living in the past

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Wetin you think be the solution now

If men can't control women, women will control men. Its as simple as that. God has made it so, all of una wey dey comment and una be female no be helper God send una make una come help us. Why una wan turn the rule book the other way round make una be in charge. And it all leads to destruction becos una no get sense and wisdom, una go dabaru everything, live anyhow, lol

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Damn it ! Some ladies/women are just daft .

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i don't think it is a good idea to travel abroad with newly wedded wife. if u don't have kids together, guys thinks that women in Nigeria's are better but not so. it is difficult to see Nigeria women in abroad having abortion anyhow but go to Nigeria, girls have abortions anyhow,and if u have kids together she will like to stay because of the kids but if both of u don't have any kids and you bring her over to stay with you in abroad she can leave at anytime. the mistake some men even make is that they go to Nigeria see a girl after 1 month they marry her.then he brings her over .how can you expect that kind of girl to love you? and you don't even know the girl's character. and the girl see you as her ticket to come to European how can she say no. i know 1 lady she got married to man that stays in abroad and the man came back with her to stay with him in abroad, she had kids for this man, could u believe once in year this man's wife go to nigeria and have sex with the former boyfriend and the husband and his family knows about it. anytime they talk to man about his wife behaviour the man will tell his family to leave his wife alone that she is just enjoying herself can u imagine that?

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@shawn123, LOL, LWKMD

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It think it is natural with women-----they are self centered. They wanted to eat their cake and still have it. They wanted to be treated like a woman when it comes to responsibilities like paying house rent, clothing, and any financial obligation. Then, they will remember the bible verse that says " men that can not provide for their families are worse than an infidel and blah blah blah. But when it comes to their turn to obey what the same bible they are quoting say about submission, they will change to another verse which says "wife are help mate" and not slave.

Now, my question---- what exactly is the position of men in marriage? Pls, answers needed.

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The deepest point on earth could b woman`s heart,u never can tell about them.

nevertheless human being are subject 2changes

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@axeman85: i feel u poster jare. it happens mostly amongst naija women thats why you see them with 1kid and no hsband single mothers. and the men are reduced to mumu that if the woman says jump they will say how high.

Thats very true. Those london women use mumu control on their men without having to use juju, I HAPPY SAY GOD NO BE WOMAN IF NOT, HUMAN RACE GO SUFFER OHHHHHHHHHHH,

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Must everyone has a daughter? I think I prefer I don't have. Wahala too much

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African ladies (and men) like copying things, we are never original . . . . that is why we copy anything we see!

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Some women are different, that is why somebody has to know God.

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unfortunately, most nigerian girls are opportunist and left to them alone, the stats will be like 99%

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Let's do the math cuz reading all these dumb comments making my eye and brain sore.First if 10 women out of let's say 4 million women commit these act.Won't that be at least like 0.1% which is not feasible for you to go sexist and start regarding all women as opportunist.Waits in uk sef?

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and i suppose you'd marry a kid who needs to be trained (never mind what her parents have been doing for the past 20+ years)

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People in Nigeria we have a culture (not minding the tribe) of love and respect in marriage ,you cannot not get this anywhere in the world the way it is in Nigeria,so if the dance changes direction,the on-lookers also will change direction.

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The poster and his friend are obviously not very smart

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I don't think women should be stereotyped as gold diggers by nationality. Just women in general tend to look for a secure man period. some women are better at it than others and others are secure by themselves and don't need the extra security ( most american women)

you will notice that women from the poorer countries are the ones more likely to be labelled as "gold diggers"

and do you think the nigerian tradition of polygamy is based on love? lol  the guy look for a pretty girl and the girl look for a rich guy. simpe as that.

rotflmao. true but i don't see how they are "too different" lol

lol @ mccloud.

what I mean is that the american men that are marrying these girls know that asian girls have reputation of looking for more wealthy guys. so what I mean is that they don't mind or don't care for the stereotype. I seriously don't think the girls are forcing marriage down their throats. they are not babies.

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Let's do the math cuz reading all these dumb comments making my eye and brain sore.First if 10 women out of let's say 4 million women commit these act.Won't that be at least like 0.1% which is not feasible for you to go sexist and start regarding all women as opportunist.Waits in uk sef?

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i feel u poster jare. it happens mostly amongst naija women thats why you see them with 1kid and no hsband single mothers. and the men are reduced to mumu that if the woman says jump they will say how high. i know these because my dad married a naija woman in london who already has a son who is life 17 or so, and anytime he wants something done he has to call me to do it for hime which i find very annonying and i voice it out to him. i have stopped visitig him in fact last time i saw him was 2yrs ago and coming to 3yrs now he lives in london and i in manchester. anytime i go to the house the way my dad runs aaround the woman is sooooooooooo annonying and this is a man of 60yrs old ooo. lol

all i am saying its not only wifes that are brought from naija misbehave even the ones you marry here in uk also misbehave and has bad attitude because the country gives woman a higher regards than men.

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This one na serious matter

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@meine

Thanks for your input.At least, we know the Europeans are "catching up" to the "fever".You mentioned "equality of sexes".What's with this equality thing anyways.I never heard of such in the bible (playing my religious card again. . . lol).Does this mean the women in the bible were unfairly treated?Was God wrong to tell them to be submissive to their husbands?

It's not about equality.It's about stripping men of their rights as men.In the US, there is a popular slang amongst women ( especially feminists).Maybe you heard of it :

"Girls rule, Boys drool"

That's the New World Order for you.This is the real meaning of "equality of sexes for you"

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I have been to europe on several occasions and i must confess there are funny stories here and there, last time i was in plumstead London, there was this pot belly landlord who was on his kneels appealling to his wife because the wife threatened to lock him out of the house. I cant go into details of the story but what actually happened could never have taken place in Nigeria.

I am a bit disturbed about marrying a Nigerian based lady and taking her abroad though i believe in the equality of both sexes but we cannot forget our culture at thesame time, trust me a lady can easily open eye and allow this independent thing enter her head,  i can only pray mine doesnt do that in the negative way.

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GBAM, you hit the nail on the head

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There is a reason why God said "WOMEN BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR HUSBANDS" (Let me play the religious card here. . . lol).I'll do my best not to be "sexist" (all these new oyibo names wey dey glorify woman-ism sef).Women leaving their husbands as soon as they hit greener pastures is very common.It's not a new thing.Women are naturally selfish in nature (make we talk small truth).They care only about their comfort (kids maybe) and nothing else.When a woman knows she can do something and get away with it, she doesn't look back and consider sentiments (for those who think they are the weaker vessels, na only for physicality that one end).

My people have a proverb.It goes like this :

When a man is moving up the ladder in life, he looks left,right,back and center before moving forward.When a woman is moving forward in life, she develops wings and flies away (not minding who's oz gets gored).America has successfully killed the marriage institution (no thanks to the Rockefeller family who pull the strings in keeping the world's population from exploding).It's very easy, you kill the family system, you reduce the amount of children per year.That is why they are legalizing gay marriages, supporting feminism to outrageous heights and much more.Think about it, a man and woman have their place in society.That's the way it was intended but the way it is now is : woman want both their rights as women and still want the rights of men.They want to work where men work and they still want to be treated like the ladies they are.Talk about injustice.Women currently have more rights than men (if the truth will be told) and the freaking bit**hes are still screaming "women's rights".In the US, if you marry a woman and cheat on her during the marriage, she sues your Bottom and gets at least half of your life's struggle (excluding child support).If you are in the US and you marry a woman who cheats on you, you sue her Bottom and she still gets half of your life's struggle (excluding child support).Tell me, where is the justice in that?It's outrageous.Who is crying out for rights of men?

This is why a lot of white guys aren't keen on marriage anymore.It's hard to see a marriage within the last 15 years that has lasted up to 10. Divorce is the in thing.Very common.A woman gets tired of your Bottom, all she needs do is cook up some silly stories about "neglect" and that's it.You lose everything while she lives lavida loca.You see a lot of single white women telling you their occupation is "stay at home mom".Imagine that?Who is paying the bills?Definitely some sucker somewhere and the woman lives her life stress free until the next sucker comes along.So when our 9ja woman go out there and see this in the land where women reign supreme, what do you expect?McCain knew what he was doing when he selected Governor-Dumb-Bottom-Palin.It wasn't for her intelligence (for someone who claims to have vast knowledge of international relations and yet not know that Africa is a continent.Are they so many continents that she can't remember which is which?).He did it to earn "woman power".

I intend to take my woman abroad after marriage on honey moon but the highest i will do is Dubai.If she wan run away with Northerner for there, dat one no "consign" me.

Nuff said!

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Moral of the post; make sure your wife is matured enough b4 you decide to travel abroad with her.

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this post has sent shivers down my spine

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Just wait and incure the wrath of gabry~

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bitter much?

maybe if you guys don't do so much,, how do you guys call it? shakara? (a trait which dissappears when you're around white guys for some reason) we wouldn't have to travel back home to find wifes.

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Shaking my head @ topic.

Jeebus!

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I guess those women should choose between saving their marriage or adopting some western culture that is repugnant to your own culture. If those women choose western culture, I hope they are ready to deal with all the shortfalls that which are inextricably linked to the supposed western culture: single parenthood aka baby mama; high divorce rate; increased responsibilities; independent woman mentality aka single but hurt but would attempt to bolster my self esteem under the pretext of independent woman; and many more. Stick with your culture and be true to your self. It works, trust me.

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good answer

i feel sorry for your gf/wife whatever

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But what is really wrong with our women? Is it that they don't experience freedom in this part of the country or what. I have heard stories like this before but i thought its just one of those things. Men this is crazy.

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if i have the money,yes,i will travel with my bride abroad

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It all depends on the character of the woman and why she got married in the first place.

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hmmm, am sure my cousin didnt read this before he sent his wife he got married to in august to UK for her Master's degree,

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@ topic

A change of environment does influence our perception of life, but time will help you with a confrontation and a choice to settle for the type of life you want.

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al queda i rather like ebony eyes, she has made some good points on nairaland. I think its funny how men like to act as if they are our victims. We all know that there are good women and men and vice versa. It doesnt matter what part of the world they are from, there will always be good and bad people. Guys cheat on girls, girls cheat on guys, good husbands, good wives, bad husband bad wives, its just the way it is.

the most important thing is that God bless our marriages and provide us with good partners that will honor and respect us, regardless of what part of the world we chose to reside.

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