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You Discovered That Ur Wife Is Dating Someone What Would U Do?

You found out that your wife is seeing another man  with substantial evidence and you still  love  her what would you do?

Would you forgive her? If yes on what ground?

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My guy, the thing is that once you are married, the whole situation changes.

If you discover that with concrete evidence, and you still love her then you should give her another chance - there is nothing new under the sun.

But obviuosly the trust element is gone but if you allow her another chance, you will have to build that trust all over again. Its gonna be real hard cause whenever she receives fone calls or even goes out, you will be suspicious but tr as much as possible not to allow your suspicions run riot in your head.

And another thing is there is no flame without smoke - obviously you need to reflect on the fact that u may have contributed to the whole saga (maybe u work late or you just dont give her the time of day) but u just need to do alot of deep thinking.

Another thing is to see a real professional marriage counsellor. If you are believers dont leave it to ur pastors alone, let them assist you in prayers but go to a professional cause thats there job.

It shall be well but if you can, and yu still love her dont let this one go without a fight.

Good luck.

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is your wife SHITTING on you

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Castrate the bastard dating my ex wife. because that is what she has become. My ex,

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Talk n figure things out ,you said. What do you talk and figure out with an adulterous woman?

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if she does it for the fun of it, then she deserves watever she gets, if she is really really sorry, then maybe you guys could talk n figure things out

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and what of when she cheats 4 d fun of it, what happens then?

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If your wife is cheating on you then something must be wrong. You're right about something being wrong!!! She must be out of her mind.

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Men and their one way thoughts, so what happens when you cheat on her, you expect her to stay and be your wife, geez marriage is not something you come in and out of, like when you were dating, if your wife is cheating on you then something must be wrong somewhere,

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Love her key, i would forgive her but wouldnt take her back even with the love cos that memory will always be in my mind and that would make the marriage much difficult to bear.

By the way her lover would be flying out the window Unclad

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Kick her out of my life and remain single for ever. No two ways about that. God have mercy.

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In the first place, i can't get married to a woman that will dare date another man outside our marriage home, because that we tell how irresponsible I am, so it cant happen, (2) it is demonic and satanic to think or belive that my wife will do that.

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Make sure she goes 4 an HIV test, wateva d result, base ur action on dat.

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Oh Seun, the Bible says if she sleeps with the other man. Yes but where does it start?. Dating of course. But why should a married woman date another man? A married woman dating another man should be the most tangible excuse on the part of the husband to seek for divorce. My wife dating another man shows that she by her own hand has voluntarily decided to end the union. Mere suspicion is proof enough. Not to talk of seeing you do it. Period!!!!

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The bible only permits that if she's been sleeping with that other man.

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If I discover that my wife is dating another man?, hmmmmmmmmm, that will end the marriage. The Bible said it all. That is the only thing that can brind about divorce.

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a man should seek to find out why his wife is dating someone else. Dating and sleeping with someone else are different things. If she is having an emotional affair it could be because the man is not available and attentive to her needs but if it has gone deeper than an emotional affair to a sexual one then bigger questions have to be asked.

It is good to forgive!

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I guess i'll just walk out of her life. I'll fall apart and have to pick my pieces back again. But it can never remain the same. AS a catholic i cannot divorce her. We both cannot be as happy as before.

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would forgive her cos to heir is human to forgive is divine and try showing her more luuuuuuuuuuuuuuvvvvvvvvvvv i believe its bound to happen

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spread magun -thunderbolt for her

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If your wife cheats on you,do the same thing she would have done if you were in her shoes-------forgive her.

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It doesnt matter what u do or didnt do. If your wife is gon cheat, she's gon cheat.

If she the thinkin type, she'll sit u down and try to work out her relationship.

What will I do? I'll definitely remain single and/yet married. I'll excommunicate her for a while even if she's sorry. Most times beign sorry is just a natural reaction to a wrong deed..it does not guarantee she wont do it again. What needs is a change of attitude not just beign sorry.

If my silent treatment doesnt work. I'll excommunicate her. I can't divorce her because i know the spiritual significance of marriage.

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Hmmm- fisrt what are you doing or not doing to make ur wife cheat on u?

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wt if she not sorry about it and you luv her so much?

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If she says she kinda sorry and all that.. i will still keep the relationship.. with her..

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U r soo sweet.

I would normally say OH HELL NO! But right now, im thinking if my husband is sorry, i would forgive him. And after he promises not to do that again. Well if he does it again, then.... im sorry but it's gon be a OHH HELL NO!

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@Delawex

My wife seeing another man.....well, that's a toughie, but I can't imagine myself continuing that relationship. It just won't work.

Hanging in there is not even an option

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Why would she..after thorough warning to her?

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Do u think she will not do it again?

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Without thinking twice...Once she is sorry,I will forgive her..To even show my seriousness about 4giving her...i will lead her into d bedroom and make love to her than i ever did in my life...Atleast men too cheat!!!

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