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Your Boyfriend Insults You In Public: What Will You Do?

Today, while i was about Leaving a fast food joint,  i saw a guy shouting and insulting his girlfriend,  I guess they had intentions of coming to have lunch together,  but on the way they had some mis understanding, 

What really shocked me the most was how the guy shouted on the Girl. it was very insultive and embarassing,  the girl sef, was trying to talk and insult the guy back, but the guys voice was on top Leading, 

My question goes thus, 

Would you tolorate if your BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND SCREEMS AND SHOUT ON YOU IN THE PUBLIC? what will u do? ??

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If am a gal an my boyfriend should insult me in public, my reaction will depend on the gravity of the insult.

And it cn b one step 2 the end of the relationship

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As a software, I'll simply crash.

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Hmm >> Put lock on Vjay >>> Dammeit!!

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@ OP

keep my mouth closed in his presence

soon as he turn his back - leave walking from him and his car(s) - 2007, 2008, 2020, 2050

if husband - 1st time - keep quiet and not respond in public - at home discuss my feelings with him regarding being humiliated by  him

2nd time - put lock on vajayjay, refuse to cook, refuse to clean - be wife in name only - until behavior changes

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@ topic

4stly my man boyfrnd wont insult me in public!!

n if it happenz. . . .

'll put on a smiley face,

when hez done with it. . . . . I'll laff it off n tell him hez feri funnie!! buh 'll lata giv him hiz share!!

OR

'll juz walk away. . . . .

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Haha,i once had an argument wiv my ex and the dude started nagging. Considering the fact that he was taller than me,he didn't notice when i turned back and stood far away away from him just to watch him to talk to himself at the bus-stop.Boy! I was laughing my Bottom off! It was when he finished talking and didn't get a response from me,that he noticed i was not beside him. And people were staring at him like WTH?!

He came back to the spot i was standing to apologise but i just went back to my house.

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If a man of mine dare insult me in public, so help him God. I don't take such disrespect. I would just walk away and let him look like the jackass instead of retaliating.

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I will walk away actions speaks louder than voice

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I am not one for confrontations.

I will simply walk away, and give him holy hell once we are in a more private setting. The verbal thrashing will be so that he will never want to display this type of behavior again.

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This is funny because i was going to start the same topic this am.

Last night as I was waiting on a friend to get home from work I watched this guy who was shorter than the girl, insult the girl and yell at her in public on a busy street. I was waiting for him to put his hands on her so i could call the police. Just one flinch from him and 911 would have been dialed.

there were two younger girls that walked past and saw the yelling what i told them was if a guy ever tries to pull that on you, you just walk away. Please dont let a guy insult you in public or private like that.

So my answer is walk away and have your brothers deal with his ignorant Bottom.

I have never had a dude do this to me i guess cuz i have never been the type to even tolerate a rasied voice to me even in private. I will/have quickly put men in thier place when the tone of thier voice is not right.

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It's disrespect and that's a surefire way to erode a relationship,

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I would walk away and never look back.

Disrespect (public or otherwise) is not cool.

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i wud do exactly wat cassie said nd walk away fast,i no wan mk dey guy charge come giv me dirty slap.

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Not sounding tough just forewarning you. To be forewarned is to be forearmed. I most likely will never meet you for you to know my character so,

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If you think she started something and you scream at her she might think your starting something and yell back. If you don't have self control interms of getting physical then you should realize that there is nothing special about men that makes them exempt from a woman defending herself by hitting him back where it hurts. The screaming insults back and forth thing could have been stopped by not starting it in the first place because "what is good for the goose is good for the gander". I am not in the least bit denying that some women deem abuse as love however there are others that are not like that, so make sure when you make your pick you do so with immense care because if you choose the wrong woman then dog eat you supper.

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i don't see what's so special about a woman that she should be exempt from getting hit if she starts some poo. rather than just screaming insults at each other. it would be best if both sides walked and discussed the matter when all heads are cool. contrary to what is being said on this board, lots of women are gluttons for punishment, i doubt they would just away from the relationship like that.

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So now its self-defense, which one is the argument. Does the man arguing in public hit the woman first or what are you talking about? Anyways I have no reason to hit or attack anyone except for self-defense. If he argues I will will retaliate with words if it gets physical so will I, that is retaliation. In terms of mothers no one is trying to disrespect anyones mother, everyone gets ancy when mother is mentioned without understanding what is being said. If you don't hit your mother don't hit any other woman, whether or not the woman is random . That is why some government official slapped a woman for not letting him have all the road because he couldn't relate. Even though she is a random woman she is a mother and just like he would not hit his mother or want someone to hit his mother he should not hit another person's mother or any women for that matter

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I will walk away

Forever

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If you have ever been struck with crippling fear you will understand why he would not come back. I told you if you had the audacity to physically abuse me prepare to be greatful for all the peaceful years before our contact. That is the problem with some women they see abuse as the norm and let it happen when you know your rights then a man would not want to brutalize you in public or private. If he won't hit his mother why hit me and even if he would shamelessly hit his mother I won't play that.

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And why would i be involved with a lunatic.

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Its not all talk no action its based on how you were brought up. Some women think that their men hitting them is love. Others think if they fight back and the man leaves them they are done for. However if you were brought up that the only people who have the right to hit you are those that supplied the egg and sperm that fertilized you then no one has the audacity to touch you. The question does not now become whether or not its all talk no action but which of the many implements of retaliation is suited with the situation Examples acid, a pot of boiling water frying pan, pepper spray, your shoes spit or just going for the nuts, exactly where it always hurts.

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are u going to keep on pretending until the situation escalates??

most women that have been physically abused hardly ever do anything. especially in naija. all talk and no action

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I see not many here will admit to staying and enjoying it however that option is in second place. I thought it was too funny to pass up the oportunity on voting for stay and enjoy it so I did. I would most likely insult him right back, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. If it embarrasses him he will know how I feel. If he hits me he will thank God for all the years he was alive before he met me, but I don't have a boyfriend and I hate what if moments.

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walk off and pretend not to hear him. jus cant imagine the embrassment

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i dont pray it happen and if it happened, i wil walk away without saying a word

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I'll watch him.

When he's done, I'll leave.

The next time he sees me - he'll run.

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@morenike9

unlike u, i have ethics and i dont keep some dry Bottom photo in my system. meanwhile it wont hurt 2 show me the pic again and see if i wont paste 4 all 2 see

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shut the hell up and show the Unclad pix

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Alagolo, you should be more picky with those you talk to off NL.

As you can see some of these people are pitiful.

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morenike, i dont care if u have a quadruple personality, or d fact dat seun has chosen to ban u severally coz of ur foolishness and dementia, neither do i care whether ur heart is weak and the doctor says u're dyin in 8 months and goin to hell perhaps. i dont even care to look at ur slacked Kitty-Cat 4 anoda second or dat u're coming up with a juicy reply that makes sense to u. u're notin but anoda internet user, and we have a million, how can i be obsessed with u, woo u to dey like wyn urself oh. i'll be obsessed with u when u lay a golden egg and pass it wirelessly thru my monitor.

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I assume you've heard of the term 'out-of-character' before? Believe me, I'm talking from experience. . .weird stuff happens at times that you yourself will be amazed that you did it. Just my own 20 kobo sha. . .remember you considered the dude good enough up till that point, unless you're saying one moment would reveal what all the other time spent with him couldn't. Of course if he is blatantly abusive and unrepentant without cause, ditch him. But if you waka before knowing the reason, its your loss - chances are you'll make the exact same mistake again without knowing it.

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some girls on nl are nothin but walkin uteruses. no brain to go wit it atall, damn they dont even know when 2 talk and when 2 SHUT D HELL UP

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O de oo.

Dont mind Busta,she wants 2 create another topic in ere.

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beating like aso ofi?you all wont kill me with laff ere.b4 NKE complain again

Nike

so na crime 2 laff at funny post abi?ok oo.

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oh ok, henry,  . . .  . oya henry lets comot, e be like say they dont want u hear, its cool lets go

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omo, if you dnt post the Unclad pix in this forum in the next 90secs. . . be ready to be verbally shredded. . .omo, c'mon, am waiting. kia kia

post the Unclad pix, and i'll post more of my "Unclad" pix. . the thing is, if i barely take pix, why the hell would i take nnude pix?

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which one is my friend again sef?

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@henry

stay out of my path. . .b/c you'll never find me in yours. . .

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morenike, dont vex me, i still gat ya one and only Unclad photo, dont let me expose ya nyansh 2 d world, dat aside , u shld treat me wit some respect coz usually i dont chat with nlanders on da phone 4 gud 30 mins especially those outside nigeria gosh, i shld have treated u like dirt the moment u called.

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@acidrop

get your friend o. . .tonight is too precious to start raining some blessings on his head

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well dont come cryin 2 me after anoda heartbreak

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AHHH you are even making the whole thing worst by telling your security to work him out, you will make the MAN more HOT, and HOTTER, he wount even, cos he would believe that rumor was true, Honestly, thats what an angry man will believe,

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thats even worst cos there is a high chance that i will be in the same situtaion as in stressed from work and all that, then he come and add his wahala, i will get the security to work him out, and then go bak to him and explain when am all feeling bettr

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@d-reloaded

y am i wastin my time with a beast like u. maybe i was a lil eager 2 see d Dam in u, its just not there.100%beast

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@debo

omo, if you're referring to me let it out. .

obviously you did not read my earlier post. . plz scroll up and read, then come back and tell me what is still disturbing you

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well as long as it's a "manliness" sha.

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Debo dont be silly. Just because most of them claim they would leave if he like snores too much, you cant possibly think they are being truthful. Most is just shakara/exaggeration.

and you sef, do you not see that some guys here have said that they would leav a girl who'd yell at them in public, what do you have to say about that?

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