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Your Ex Is Getting Married & She Invites You, Will You Attend?

my closest friend use to have this very chic he cherished so much, they broke up yeah yeah, poo happens, and somehow they both couldnt get things fixed up, eventually his ex-gf got hooked up with a nice G , and yesterday i was with my friend when an SMS came and it read : hi lanre, would i be fair enough should i invite you to my wedding coming up on the 13th of June. love to see you

when we both read this, yeah i know my friend was actually trying to put up his ego, but emotions couldnt but helped him reflect back on all those good memories they both shared, and i as the friend i still know how they both loved each other , it was so hot that they were tagged "One heart", and i know my friend still loved her but man's pride didnt let him make up until a sharper G stole her. maybe prolly because she relocated from PH to calabar

the question now:

would you attend you ex's wedding party if invited, and what do you think i can advise him, because i could help myself laffing all through yesterday when we both read the message

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Huh - are u responding to a 4yr topic

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Y will u cause havoc?

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Break up does not mean you can't be friends. You may, or may not attend if you wish. I don't think there is a big deal about it and attending the wedding will help you to face reality and move on.

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u can depending on the way both of u broke up.

i invited all my girl friends wen i was getting married

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it has happened to me,

i attended the wedding, bought a wonderful gift for the couple

and made sure my presence was noticed.

with no grudge at all.

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No big deal of cause you will attend the weeding

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I for one will go but not alone.

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The guy is in d best position to decide, he can't be wrong whether he decides to go or not, in any case, he shd call her and wish her well.

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for GOD'S sake there is notin wrong with it

just attend it let by gones be by gones

go to her wedding and wen is time for u to get wedded

invite her too.

chikena

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Why attend?

I speak for myself though, don't believe in being close to an ex.

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why attend? because,

why not attend? because,

all boils down to how the relationship ended.

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ofcourse i will.

i've attended 3 of my ex's weddings. There's really nothing to it.

they graduated and had suitors lining up, and i couldnt stand in their way so i just let go and i attended the weddings and even spayed money well on the dancing couples.

We're still friends till date.

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make una help o, my friend no dey fi eat since d day im receive that sms o. . . lol i havent stopped laffing although i dey pity am since i know how emotions work

i advised him to forget abt her and the sms he received but he's seriously refusing o, saying he's going there to cause some great problem at the exs wedding sayng y must she send him dat msg, maybe she was doing it to spit on him (u never know some females)

my friend is getting ready to do some havoc, i was even thinking of informing his parents abt his intending doom

what kind of advise can i give im, God help me

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guy d shoe is on ur toe n u alone know where it hurts u, so u alone know wat actually brot about the breakup n y u shud or shudnt attend d wedding.

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Your going for the wedding depends solely on you. I would rather you not go but call her and wish her well. Why do you want to put yourself thru emotional stress when you know you do not need it? Since it appears you have not forgotten the pains of the past, your prayer should be for God to provide you with your own mate with whom you'll walk down the aisle just like your ex.

@v3,

Please be mature in reasoning. Going to another person's wedding to cause havoc is truly uncalled for, immature and needless(remember you both were never married but just dated).

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Yes i'll attend. . .but NOT to cause havoc cuz she inviting me already is inviting HAVOC. . .

When the pastor says "If anyone in this congregation wishes that this marriage NEVER see the light of day, let him/her speak NOW of FOREVER hold their piss"

I won't hold my piss o. . . ra ra. . .na there story go start. . .then she'll wish she hadn't invited me. . .

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I won't answer the question but i'll say these people never move forward to the future cuz they keep holding on to something that belongs in the past.and that something means hate/revenge/contempt. The best you can do is be there and be happy for her that's the only way you'll advance in life.who knows the one might be waiting for you there.

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I won't answer the question but i'll say these people never move forward to the future cuz they keep holding on to something that belongs in the past.and that something means hate/revenge/contempt. The best you can do is be there and be happy for her that's the only way you'll advance in life.who knows the one might be waiting for you there.

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Don't go or else you will end up "putting down" your ego

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what gat the two of us puzzled was how did she get his number after all the yrs gone by, especially when she claimed she lost her phone and his number as well

but my advice to my friend was that he should show up, dressed gorgeous than ever did, if he needs to go for a salon treatment he should, maybe she sent him dat txt because she still got feelings for him

but lanre is saying he wil not attend, but do everything in his power to shang her for ever daring to send him dat crasy txt, av been begging him o

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In a way, attending the wedding can make everything REAL, he can accept his loses, instead of wonder if there was anything he could have done or if there was any reluctancy.

I think that it all depends on how highly this guy rates his ex, he obviously was able to let his pride dictate things for long enough - because he thought she'd always be around. How are we sure that it's not only because she is unavailable that the feelings have become harder to hide?

Anyways, I don't think what your friend does with the invite matters too much, he'll just have to decide to do what he believes is best for him, or if he is no longer keen on using rational and now wants to follow his heart, he can do just that - then he'll find his answer.

Everyone's different, some will go and they get closure, others won't go and they can save the memories or put them away in a neat box and move on.

The emphasis is on moving on - he should try his best to move on.

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E go hard sha! whether or not I will attend depends on the circumstances that let to our break up. Though its unlikely I will. . .

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Crazy people, Move on with your life. Don't look back, just go forward. Life to short to hang on or make amends of the past. Past is dead. kick the dust off your boots and leave it all behind.

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Happened to me. I had this girl i loved so much back home. We were still close, but she told me later on that she was getting married. She was about two years older than me, and she finished serving b4 i even finished my final year in skool. she told me once that she'll luv me to drive her to her church on her wedding day. The day b4 her wedding, i just called her nd wished her a very fruitful nd married life.

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Whether we are still best of friends or otherwise, I am not attending. She had better not send an invite to me. She is an ex, and everything about her remains so. My text or email (if I remember) wishing her well should suffice and be sufficient.

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Naw. It's congratulations. That's all.

But then I don't really have an ex so

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naaaa. no point attending jare

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he shldnt go o. . .he shld send a nice gift but he shldnt show face der. . .emotions are unpredictable he cld end up being very happy for here there or sad that he lost out. . .

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Why dont guys respect themselves? The fact that u are asking the question means that it is under consideration!

How can you go to ur Ex's wedding after she dumped you?

(1) She obviously does not respect u by inviting u, as she thinks you will accept the invite

(2) She obviously does not respect her Husband to be by inviting her LAST ex to the wedding.

If my wife to be invited her ex to our wedding, she would know that wedding would be cancelled on that day!

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yes i'll go and maybe i might get lucky and it might end up being my wedding

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Sure. . . Wat the deal. .

She's an Ex getting married. .

LMAO

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Yes, i'll go there 2 cause havoc!

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If my ex invited me to her wedding, would I attend?

Yes, I'd definitely attend, to show no hard feelings, if nothing else, and I'll wish her and the groom well.

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Forget it, i won't because it would bring back too much memories but that is if i still love him, but if i don't feel a thing for him anymore i would definitely attend the wedding, i will also give him a very beautiful gift to let him know i was there.

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