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Your Girlfriend Asks, "Honey, How Do I Look?"

What do you do when a woman asks "how do I look" in one of various ways? For instance, after 4 hours with her hairdresser your woman returns with a hairstyle you absolutely hate and asks you "do you like it?". Or your 'urhobo' girl asks you "do you think I look fat in this dress?"

Do I agree with this article excerpt? Yes, and no. I agree that telling a woman she's not looking beautiful is the fastest way to hell, but I disagree that lying to her will put a man in trouble. I am convinced that the right thing to do is to consistently tell her what she needs to hear.

You see, if a woman asks me about her looks, I know the right answer. The right answer is that she looks "just right". It doesn't matter if I'm about to vomit on the floor, I will never in my life admit that a lady-friend asking that sort of question doesn't look "absolutely perfect!" Even if you put a gun to my head I won't say such a thing! Even if she says, "I won't you to be honest with me" I won't make such a foolish mistake.

"Never, ever, tell a woman what you don't like about her looks. Instead, shift attention to the things you you like." is my rule. What's yours? What do you say when they ask these tricky questions?

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Honey you look like juju calaber,just too blunt to compromise my happiness.she should be bold enough to tell me the truth whenever i look awful.

the only time she deserves all that fake compliments is when she is on her nightgown,besides women look most beautiful when they are Unclad.too bad that most of them dont care to ask "Honey how do i look?" at the appropriate time.

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I would tell her the truth. Darling, you look awful in that hair style, or you look awful in that out fit.

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if she is your girlfriend you have to tell her if you like her hair style or not. if she looks fat in her dress you have to tell her.

i don't see anything wrong with it. after all she s your girl.

that is only the truth

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My Princess doesn't need to ask me how she looks to get any sort of reassurance.

I tell her everyday how beautiful she is, and how special she is to me.

DeltaVAGTM

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i can't totally agree wit that, but i'll leave it to ur experience. i like a guy looking rlly clean and well cladded (beckanism!)

@post- its important to know a woman's intent when those "how do i look questions" are asked

- a woman may know she's already stunning and need a confirmation, give her the truth

- she may be undecided about her appearance and actually needs a honest opininon, give her the truth.

- she knows she looks trashy but wants to feel a bit better, give her the lie .

chikena!

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well watever u do dont bust out laughing

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as much as i like to be told im beautiful, i still prefer to be told the truth. one thing i like about my baby is that he is not scared to correct me on things. i always prefer his opinion cuz he can tell me the truth if my clothing don't match or if my hair style is ugly. this helps to be build a healthy relationship cuz u can tell each other the truth. i mean wouldn't we all prefer to be corrected at home than to go out and let others laugh about our clothing or hairstlye.

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You are just beautiful

That should be enough

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I would like him to be honest with me and tell me if it's good or not, if he says it doesn't look nice on me, I would not be uspet, afterall he's only being honest, if your guy/gurl is not honest with you, and tells you that what you are wearing looks good on you, when it doesn't then, it's not a good thing.

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if I ask my boyfriend how do I look, he better not tell me what I don't want to hear, because all I want to hear form is mouth is you look good, even if I don't. because if someone tell me what I'm wearing is not good i get up set. because after i have put my time on getting dress and someone would now tell me i doing look good, all hell is gonna broke lose if he said that.

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I didn't dream of atutupoyoyo. peter, I rest my case.

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Yea sleep but don't dream of "Atutupoyoyo"

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@HA not that I am mean.

You should ask why the girl was asking me that kind of question.

Is it to attract me or to hear what i will say?

So saying she's "Atutupoyoyo" will be a lesson for her.

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Peter why are u being so mean?

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If a girlfriend asks this question I look her eye ball to eye ball and say you're 'Atutupoyoyo' of our time and then burst into laughter.

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I don't ask anybody how I look cos I've got a mirror.

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This is a very nice topic.

If I'm asked that, I think what she'll have in mind is your compliment. For her to have asked you such question means she has already assessed herself on the mirror and think you'll view it in her own way.

What else does she want? Feed her now.

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me i don't see anything in it.

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its not a crime if ur hubby ask u such questn because as humans we like compliments alot and if u dont compliment 2 d other person its like u dont luv or appreciates he or she

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Diplomacy... diplomacy ......diplomacy. Nobody likes being told that his or her actions are in vain, even for us guys. you can always tell her " you look great darl.... but I prefer the green dress on you". Because I know that if after gadging for an occasion, then someone tells me "O boy ur shirt weak oo" I no go find am funny.

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I rather my bo tells me how i look in a nice way than me going out n looking like an Bottom...

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there is youruba saying that says another person will not do wat i'm suppose to do(enieleni ko ni gba ise mi se) if you don't admire ur wife or your girlfriend and if another person should that for you,you're gradually missin her.

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i know right? @ terry... you need to talk to your friend.

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okay terry..you have better point of view than your friend.

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i aint nddy, how many tymes would i tell you. pls gat that out of your brains. Nddy is a friend. We are best friends for 10yrs now. pls stop that i aint nddy.

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i have dated all kinds of gurls Ugly, smashing hot and fairly ok. I like a gurl for her personality not only looks, i am not the kind of brother that is into the looks, i love personalty,

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terry, would you go out w/ a girl that looks liek crap?

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Wouldn't u rather tell her the truth?

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if my girlfriend ask me i would say you look like a beauty damsel even if she looks like crap

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Your girlfriend asks Honey how do i look ? Smashing hot

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So what if she ask u how she looks?

she just wants to know if u appreciate what she's done or what she looks like.

u shuld be able to correct her in a nice way and not in a way u make her feel she is unwanted and ugly

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u could start by telling her what you like about her dressing and how wonderful those features make her look. Then tactfully tell her that a little adjustmentof this aspect of her dressing , u feel, would make her even more appealing. Always have a smile on your face and be gentle and tender when telling her.

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Hey one thing I noticed is that don't form for girls. If she is "WOWO" please don't hide from her and if she looking okay abeg tell her.

I know my chick will not try that because I alwals ask that and she always tell me "Shabi you don wan go meet another chick, but let me design you so that they will know you girl is beautiful" Imagine so she will not want me to tell her the same.

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This is what they'll say, but if you make the mistake of following their advice, you'll be in deep trouble. If a woman really wants to know how good she looks let her go and post her picture on a picture rating website. Because I am just not going to to see anything but perfection in any woman that bothers to ask me!

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like tcherooke said,

if she is your girlfriend you have to tell her if you like her hair style or not. if she looks fat in her dress you have to tell her.

i don't see anything wrong with it. after all she s your girl.

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Na wa o. Na so ladies dey cause wahala btw guys. Can i say that u r now *** with tcherokee ?

Just kiddin o!

As for me. I'll just tell her how i feel but would be diplomatic about it (The "I prefer your other dressing to this one" approach), so i win both ways. But If she doesnt like my responses, she wont ask anymore.

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You guys are right in a way.

All girls want to be told is how beautiful and ellegant they are, so telling her she looks bad/not presentable enough, when she really does look like that, would be an act of digging your earthly grave. The "you don't like me the way i am" line is so fast to our mouths. Although, only a crazy girl would ask you how she looks when she knows she ain't looking good. I make sure i look good enough before i asked anybody, doesn't have to be a guy, "how do i look". Most guys of course like Seun, won't tell you the truth. They'll just say, you look amazing. But other guys like tcherokee, would say, I prefer your other dressing to this one. That would definitely pass the message.

You guys just need to use knowlegde and you'll be safe.

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Well, it depends o, If it is your grilfriend and you guys are past all the "forming" stage, you should be able to tell her what is one your mind. If she looks good, tell her she looks good. If she looks *%$.##$^%... tell to you she'll always look perfect but maybe you prefer the other harstyle she did or something like that in my opinon you just say you prefer something else she did at one time to what she has on at this time....they usually get the message. All girls want to be told they look good but i'll expect that if she doesn't look good. you should be able to let her know in a gentle manner, not just tell her "Girl you look crazy". I believe she'll appreciate it in the end even if she might not at that moment.

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A girl friend should not ask her boy friend that question because she is as beautiful to him as he love her.

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