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Are Reverend Fathers Qualified To Advise Couples?

Do Reverend Fathers Have The Experience?

I was in a church wedding just this last weekend in a catholic church. A Rev. father joined them and went ahead to counsel them and gave an exhortation on wedding. I was wondering for a Rev father to join and talk of marriage, I expect one to talk on issues that they have experience on.

They don't marry and would not know what goes on in a family and what it takes to raise and train children. So I personally believe they are not fit to talk on marriages. What do you think?

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Having been a candidate for priesthood and being in the seminary for 10 years and after having left the seminary 8 years back I strongly feel there is a dichotomy between what Catholic priest preach at the altar about marriage and about real life...I strongly feel just because you have doctorate in counselling doest not mean you can counsel the couples....unless and until you are married you cannot understand the complexities of human relationships...please do not compare non soccer player turning coaches as its all together a different ball game

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I believe that marriage should be experienced for one to be in a better position to advise. There are so many variables in marriage that can never be learnt from books. If you are not married, you can advise but I think you are not better qualified in that regard.

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@segyemaro i am so sorry we can not help you cure your chronic illlness called anti-catholic sentiment. Unfortunately, thats whats lead you to your untimely end.

Oh!, i am sorry i was too harsh on you

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They are fit to. Being married isn't a criteria for one to advise couples. Being of a sound mind & full of wisdom is paramount.

by the way >>> i ain't Catholic

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@segyemaro

Its not all about quarrel but instead of just making a flat write-off of Rev. Frs qualification to give marriage counselings, you should have at least stated why you think they are not qualified. My observation is that most people approach topics with predetermined and biased opinions with even trying to analyze.

Yes, Rev. Frs are not married but does that alone disqualify them from giving marriage counseling? What of experiences in the course of carrying out their duties? what of the extensive training they went through before becoming Rev.Frs? Does a doctor have to suffer from a particular ailment before he can prescribe solutions?

I encourage some of you to drop your prejudices and look at the organization of the Catholic Church on particular matter before you make you conclusions. When everyone comes here and blurt his own stereotyped information fed into him, no one would learn anything new, all we would succeed in doing is just airing rigid views and arguing, with no one ready to understand or even get informed with the fact.

Shallom.

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tewmuch,me and you dey quarrel?

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Do you think rev father's are like your 6week training pastors? Most of them are PhD holders. Especially in the feilds of psychology and counselling.First look at the minimum requirement to become a reverend father.Its not like ur pastors scamming you to give them all your money.All their advice is money and prosperity teaching.Daft.

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they are not qualified

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I see most of you have a wrong view of Catholic View on Marriage

first of all there is a six months pre wedding programme every intending couple must take in which any Issue concerning marriage would be discussed by professionals, priest and also married couples

then their is the Marriage sponsors who are experienced elderly couple chosen by the couples or their families who they believe would be a good example to the new couple

then the priest we believe by his calling and training during which he stays with different families from whom he learns a few things then his experience with people over the years also equips him for the job,

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@ breaker

u better ask God 2 4give u.

Who are u 2 judge? & why are u talking like a prematured baby?

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I can assure you the name has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with the Catholic church or any church at all. I've never even seen the inside of a catholic church or even know any Revd Father sef. Just stating as i see it.

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For those of you who have experienced marriage counseling from married pastors, question; What did they tell you that was entirely new to you ie that u ddnt know before? It's not ESSENTIALLY the 'marriedness' of the pastors that that make them able to counsel, one of the things is that you respect the person(ie d pastor) speaking to you and so are ready to accept what he says 2. I feel we are assuming that the counsellor speaks with his own wisdom, forgetting God who gives wisdom to his servants 3. Professional counsellors counsel on wide range of issues of which they have no prior experience on and their propositions help make ppl's lives better so Can a Priest Counsel on Marriage? YES!!! OF COURSE.

PS. All references to priests are for genuine servants of God not philanderers and thieves etc

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you people are funny on this forum

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They are more than qualified. Do not belittle them just because they are Priest/Pastor. Ignorance is bliss.

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lady pls answer cos i want to know

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no they are not qualified,cos they dont get married.

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Lady,are you sure with all you ve just said?is it right for a divorcee or a widower to go into priesthood?pls i want to know cos i am not a catholic.

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How is it different?

Who leads you to believe?

Popular knowledge doesn't make it true. It is usually assumed that because Rev. Fathers cannot marry that they must be virgins.

There are some Rev. Fathers that were married before becoming Priests, their wives died and so they decided not to marry again and felt called to the Priesthood.

Also most of them have been through college and were put in tempting situations.

One I know was an Ob/Gyn before he became a Priest.

Another one that was highlighted in a magazine was a financier and was very successful, he made well into the upper 6 figures on wall street and was not satisfied with his life. He left all that to become a Priest and is much happier.

A woman who also worked on wall street was disatisfied with her life and left wall street to become a cloistered nun.

If more and more people were to sit and talk to Priests they will be very surprised.

Also a big shocker for people is that there are married Priests. People just don't know this.

When Anglican Priests convert to the Catholic faith they are usually married and wish to continue as Priests, so they are allowed to do so.

In the Eastern Church the Priests are allowed to marry but they must be married before they can become Priests and they cannot be Bishops.

People need to get over the stereotype and actually find things out.

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NO they are not qualified,you cant give what you dont have.

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Were are the catholics?we want to hear you take on this.

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A week ago i learnt that a couple dragged themselves before Rev Fatger, the man said his wife is too dull on bed that she was packaged to him from the village,that he is getting married to another woman that can fully satisfy him. While the woman is saying that her husband is also dull that he doesnt touch the vital part of her body to make her reach her heavenly feeling on time. So the Rev Father was to settle and counsel this couple. And we are made to believe that Rev Fathers are pure virgins,and dont know anything about sex,so how do you thik he can handle it because you must be a master of a game before you can coach it.

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Na which sense u want?

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lady made sense to me.

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you must know a game before you can teach someone.

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Yes God will indeed help us.

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@chrisbenogor

if u have the chance look up fulto j sheen on youtube and listen to what he says about love.

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glad it made u laugh but seriously according to ppl u can't be good at counselling if u didn't go through it urself.

I've never had children but I have given sound advice to women with children on what to do about situations involving their children.

There are unmarried therapists and they do marriage couselling, some of them have been divorced and yet people flock to them for counseling.

The guys said if u don't have it or if u haven't been in that situation u can't counsel a person. Well mothers don't have joystick and they can never be a father, yet they counsel their sons. or are we going to say women can't counsel their sons again?

What makes Rev. Fathers good counsellors?

Because they know what entails a marriage. You don't have to be married to know what it takes to make a marriage work. Also because they are not married it actually puts them in a better position to give counsel. Those who are married tend to bring in their own relationships and experiences into their counsels and quite frankly their relationship has absolutely nothing to do with the couple they're counselling. Rev. Fathers can step back and look at the situation with a fresh mind and with no bias.

I'm going to get a video to post for u by a bishop on marriage. my comp is acting up right now so will do later.

btw? where have u been? i so completely missed u

so why can't rev.fathers counsel with or without marriage? u don't have to have it or go through it to know how to help others in it.

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A mother can counsel her son with or without joystick

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Lol lady you go kill me one day, your analogies still always make me laugh. What makes rev fathers good marriage counselors anyway?

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I dont agree wit u my friend

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l want to say with all conviction that ignorance is killing everyone in this forum. has any of you wonder what it means to counsel, as a matter of fact l want to say that most of the rev. frs. know more about marriage counselling than the married whatevers, u guys have forgotten that it takes knwledge and wisdom to counsel.

everything that happens to man on earth deals with the mind and if the mind can be studied, why should we have problem with experience or no experience. ladies and gentlemen this is what we call psychology,

think about it!!!

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l want to say with all conviction that ignorance is killing everyone in this forum. has any of you wonder what it means to counsel, as a matter of fact l want to say that most of the rev. frs. know more about marriage counselling than the married whatevers, u guys have forgotten that it takes knwledge and wisdom to counsel.

everything that happens to man on earth deals with the mind and if the mind can be studied, why should we have problem with experience or no experience. ladies and gentlemen this is what is called psychology,

think about it!!!

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So because a mother does not have a joystick she cannot counsel her son?

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they are not qualified to counsel couples because they lack the experience,they cant give what they dont have.

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Yup they're not fit, kind of how mothers can't counsel their sons because they are not men/fathers.

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Marriage is not like a game of football or mathematics. If u are not in it,you cant talk about it.

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my summary is that some coaches never played soccer but posses the knowledge to counsel other players, ;, do the mathematics

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Yea,they have no experience

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They av no xperience @ all and they lack the practical aspect of marriage. Simple

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No!

They dnt av the xperience and they dnt know the practical aspect of marriage.

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No!

They dnt av the xperience and they dnt know the practical aspect of marriage.

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Are Rev.fathers qualified to counsel couples? My answer has been no and it will still remain so bicos this can only be done by those wit experience.

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the highlighted is not just related to Rev fathers - pastors do it too - infact some of them may they THINK they are BETTER to do it, because their religion does not require them to be celibate LIES!!

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