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Christian Girls And Modesty. Whats Your Take On This?

I am a young christian girl. I have always been fascinated with the way muslim women dress. I was so curious about islam that I became a commitee member for the muslims students asociation at university. There was something exciting about goin to my malaysian friends houses and seeing them without their hijabs or abbayas on. It made them look so beautiful. The act of covering up made them look so elegant. At this time I was going out with a muslim brother and I would admit that the only sinful thing we did was hold hands. I am now out of the muslim curiousity phase as I learnt enough to know that Jesus is the way. But somehow I think I was attracted to the modesty and sexual purity of my muslim friends.

Now Im back home, and though I try to dress decently enough to church I cant help but notice the kind of clothes some girls wear to church. I miss the fact that we dont have a kinda of sisterhood like muslim sisters have that promote decent dressing among christian women. I know it would look a bit hardcore if I begin to dress like a muslim sister. But in my heart im pulled to doing this.

Anyway to keep this short, what are your views or experience on this issue.

Do you think this is a problem (societal)? Or is it a matter of changing churches?

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I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 1 Timothy 2:8-10

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 1 Peter 3:1-4

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HOW YOU DRESS IS HOW YOU WILL BE ADDRESSED IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.

DECENCY INVITES DECENCY.

ONLY DECENCY AND MODESTY WILL BE ABLE TO EXPERIENCE GOD.

GOD LOVES DECENCY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YOUR DECENCY INSIDE(MIND) WILL BE MANIFESTED OUTSIDE BECOS WHATSOEVER

HAPPENS IN THE SPIRITUAL WILL MANIFEST IN PHYSICAL.

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We all know the xtrian gurls are nothing but cheap LovePeddler, so no need to redefine them

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The topic was not about '' holier than thou'' but about christian modesty.

When you get home, read your bible:  1 Timothy 2: 9, and possibly Deuteronomy 22: 5, then comfront God.

God was not expecting much people but few people who could put away all, I mean all for the Kingdom. narrow is the way that leadeth therein.

We have the generation of powerless christian now. The end shall soon be. Good luck.

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@BabeX

What do you classify as being decent? Covering yourself from your hair to your toe? I do not agree with girls dressing half Unclad to church at least have some respect when in the house of God but that doesn't mean those or the muslims as you claim are "holier than thou".

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Christians and their barbaric dressing, nice to see this post

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Jokers. What ever does the exterior have to do with the spirit.

Adam and Eve - Unclad, yes? Just the way God meant it to be!

"Mere man is looking to the outward appearance, but God is looking to the heart"

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Muslims in their morality are more like Christ that than most so called xtrian. Many a christian have allowed themselves to be deluded by the concept that faith is only on the inside. you see someone dressed Unclad hiding under the excuse that he or she is clean at heart and claims to be a true xtian.

i think one of the enduring legacies of islam is its rigidity and no compromise attitude towards secularity or modernism as we call it. this i must confess has put islam at loggerhead with the rest of the world. how could someone call himself a follower of Christ and ordain gay bishops and sanctify gay marriages all in the name of being liberal

religion should change the world not the other way round.

Yes i am a muslim, but i do not intend for this to become a religoius debate of christiany againt islam

Am only saying the Unclad truth

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Is this toasting being initiated here??

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oh i feel u and ur email is hidden as well ok.

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Same happened to me in Emirat those ladies are so elegant and damn expensive. I have an emirat friend in sharjah and what his wife and other women wear when u see them inside is just amazing. Where did u study if i may ask?

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@ Lagos boy. Yes

Love ur reply. My mum always tells me, "you will protect and cover anything that is precious to you"

Good way to look at it. I remember when I went to Dubai not to long ago, I couldnt help but admire the emirati girls. They wore really expensive n trendy clothes under their black cloaks. But they were so elegant,

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@Babe X

Can i ask where you studied? Was it in the UK?

To the topic i perfectly understand your feelings about modest dressing. I am a muslim and beleive in modest dressing but the issue with female dressing in christianity is that the word modesty is relative and there is no clearly defined mode of dressing hence, modesty is subject to differen interpretaion and the new evngelical missions are so liberal they allow any piece of cloth to be worn.

In islam there is a defined mode of dressing and it is any cloth that doesnt reveal the shape of a woman and covers hear adornment and hair hence the use of hijab and jilbab/Abayyah. The hijab or dressing itself is not a sign of purity but an identity of modesty and islam as commanded by the most high. The early generations of christians used to cover up and the catholic nuns still uses something similar to the hijab till date. I have also never seen A Mary without a headscarve on.

To the issue of sisterhood, it is something encouraged in Islam and the women remind themselves of modesty and piety. The funny thing is if an outsider sees what loads of them wear and the kind of jewelry they use it is just amazing but they show it off among themselves and their husbands but not for every public eye. In simple words they control who sees their full beauty.

Every good thing God created he covered up. The pearls of the sea are covered by the sea, treasures of the earth are covered in the earth, most crops we grow are covered up and the corn is covered up by it wrap., the gold is covered up in the eart and so are the solid minerals , this is just a random take.

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well said.Even men and seducers shall wax worse and worse,deceiving and being deceived.True christians should stand unmoveable by the transient indecent fashion of this world.We are oilgrims remember.

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@poster

I understand all you have said but my question is 'must you cover all your body from head to toe b4 you can look decent?' Decent dressing is all about ensuring that your unclothedness is not advertised to the public.

As per the way some ladies dress to church, maybe you attend one of those churches where dressing doesn't matter to their own God. Why not look for a bible believing church where their doctrine says dressing matters to God. Sorry I am not advertising church and I am not a member of any of the listed churches but I know they speak the truth and are perfect in terms of dressing-Deperlife, Apostolic, CAC, Apostolic Faith, Foursquare and some other ones.

It is not a societal prob, its the end of the world fast approaching. As you can see that churches spring up every day with different doctrines (good and bad) and all this must be in order for the word of God to be fulfilled.

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why would she mention Abraham if she's replying to the quote from the book of Peter?

Like I said before, you're just looking for trouble

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@karnaMod

tpia quoted JJYOU's post on February 20,12:43pm.JJYOU's quote was from 1Peter3v1-6 or so.It was that post that I replied to.Tpia can't deny that.Check it up

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Image, her comment was in regards to this

How can she be referring to the Peter verse when that verse was made AFTER Tpia's first response?

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@karmaMod

tpia's response has to do with a bible quote.that quote is not jjyou's personal words.Its 1Peter 3.verse 5,6.JJYOU quoted the passage I think from verse 1-9 to speak on christian girls and modesty,but tpia brought up stuff on women liberation

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Image,

I believe tpia's response has to do with this part of JJYOU's quote

UNless you wanna claim that you didnt see that part under the bolded words. Not sure why some of you like looking for people's trouble.

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http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-237208.0.html#msg3493972

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The Bible expressly tells Christian women to be modest in dressing.

Modesty doesn't necessarily mean tying a scarf 24 hrs a day.

A Christian woman shouldn't have her bosoms hanging out for all to see.

Anyone truly led by the spirit of God should know not to dress like a LovePeddler.

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@tpia

Its when I hear the word "didn't lord it over her".Your reply to jjyou was off point and preemptive.You know it so lets not waste time about it.

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@tpia

You're acting paranoid.That's a Bible quote in NLT version.The guy has not saaid anything depicting making slaves of women

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@BabeX

I didnot quote any denomination's book.i quoted the Bible.I believe the instructions in the Bible applies to all Christians.The Bible says it,I believe it and that settles it.

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1 Peter 3:1-9 (New Living Translation)

1 Peter 3

Wives

1 In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives.

3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands. 6 For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.

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clothe to me means cover. when a lady dresses it is expected of her to cover up not necessary covery her head to toe. you can do all these and still not be right before God. The Bible says we should be moderate in everything we do. so whenever you as a lady dresses take a look at the mirror and be sincere to yourself if what you are wearing is good in the sight of your creator.

If you feel is good then go ahead. Afterall God will never force a man to go again his (the man's) wishes.

Anyway dressing like a muslim or otherwise is a way of dressing.

God will help us.

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Your replies are very insightful.

I believe that the way christian women ought to dress is a bit vague.

The outward appearance does not indeed reflect what is in ones heart. And I believe that the mistake some ppl including myself make is assuming that a woman that covers up is indeed holy or pure. This really may not be the case

Modesty is important and I was thought that a woman should dress in a way that will not cause others to sin i.e lust of the eyes.

This is the manner in which women that attend deeper life dress.

Does this instruction apply to us modern day christians? Because if it does then I believe women should not wear gold or put braids in their hair.

This is still vague to me.

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Pro 7:10 And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtle of heart.

1Ti 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.

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While this may be true, you cannot tell me there are girls who cover up but in secret are vulgar and wild. The outward appearance does not always reveal the heart. I may smile at you, but in my heart I may hate you. This is very true and is proven by humans, psychologists cannot deny that.

Not everyone who covers up is doing it because it is the right thing to do and it is what their heart believes. Most muslim girls I know cover up because they don't want their family to think they are wild, but come to Florida A&M University and I will point them out to you. Those girls party hard, and I don't mean in moderation or causally, I mean they PARTY with sex oozing out of their pores and guys taking them home. Believe me just because a girl covers up doesn't mean that that's what's in her heart.

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Christians have the Satanic dress code

While Muslim have the Divine and Godly dress code

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covering it up has nothing to do with anything

a muslim girl i know who acts like she is the

most godly woman on earth, i saw a video of her

and her bf getting it on even after telling me

she's a virgin.

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BabeX,

Of a truth how you dress does not matter, but it matters. You're not just an ordinary person but a Christian (Christ-like) - both inwardly and outwardly you have to be decent, not causing the little ones to sin (those that are not strong in the Lord).

It is a pity that the church is going worldly instead of the world becoming churchly. Instead of the church teaching the world to emulate their way, they are now buying the behaviours and cultures of the world, that is why our sisters and brothers wear anything they like to church e.g. mini-skirt, leggings, show-belle, show-bosom, show-chest, etc.

It is a believable fact that Christians are to be salt of the world. But when the salt loses its taste what will happen to it? It will be thrown away and trample upon!

Christians are also the light of the world which cannot be hidden. And when the light is put off, what will happen? Darkness will cover the place.

My dear sister, be an evangelist by all means - your behaviour, dressing, talking, teaching, etc.

The Power of God will be with you - Amen.

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the children have to be raised as muslims, that's why muslim women are not permitted to marry non-muslim men, as it is their belief that the children should take on their father's religion.

but muslim men can marry non muslim women.

So the whole purpose is just to promote Islam. A woman is denied the right to marry whomever without restrictions because they want to promote Islam, and they say Islam respects women how?

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Thanks for all the replies.

Im in Lagos.

I dont think I can marry a muslim brother. Its tempting but how much of my faith would I have to compromise?

Its true, its the inside that matters and not the outside.

Yes Im Nigerian.

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BabeX, I must admit that this bothered me as a young Christian that grew among Muslim, I latter realised that dressing is about motive(inward) and not outward, since God looks at the heart but we judge from our eyes (1 Sam 16). They are some Muslim sisters that cover up but inwardly wish to dress lose and they are some that behave immorally (in the secret). However some are still decent. Please let nothing spoil your faith and be persuaded in your mind for anything not done by faith is sin (Rom 14:end). If you feel by waring hajib or whatever you are holy ride on but the important thing be saved and thrive to be more like Jesus everyday (Heb 12:1-2)

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Covering up has nothing to do with contents of the heart. . .

if it appeals to you, no one stops you wearing the hijab and co

Just know that Modesty is not equal to righteousness,

Even though a Righteous person would be moderate in all things.

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@BabeX

I think its a matter of how much the devil has spent time and resource dealing with the christian faith and pulling down the walls around us with a cloak of 'liberty'.You keep doing what is decent and pure and lovely and of good report,that not even the devil can counter.And keep praying for and correcting your christian friends.I should say however that the muslimms have learnt their dressing from tradition,which has become a culture in thre middle east.Their dressing is similar to the way christian women used to dress.The way their mother Sara taught them

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R u Nigerian?

Because growing up (before I moved to the U.S.) Christians covered up from head to toe. Maybe they're not doing so now, but they should. I cover up, actually one day I wore rubbish to Mass, and got sent home. We are to cover up, and be modest in our dressing. This whole showing of extra skin is an error of society.

That's why I prefer wearing traditional wear, not just in mass but in my everyday life. Wish I could afford it though, but making an effort to increase my wardrobe so it will be easier, I guess I could afford it if I didn't spend every dime on shoes, lol.

But with traditional wear we easily cover up, and honestly that is beautiful. I do admire muslim ladies for their choice to cover up, and it really should be that, a choice, and Christian women should choose to cover up too.

With the exception of covering the face and neck and all that, as if we have no identity, if so men should cover up too, equality of the sexes

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