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Did Hiv Test,came Out To Be +. Wat Should I Do?

I did HIV test recently and the result came out to be positive. It was sent to Yaba for a confirmatory test but the result remained the same. When I was told, the whole world stopped and I could only hear my heart beat and the beats of the drums of death. I couldn't believe it. I'm less than 27, vibrant and handsome and has the most beautiful girl as fiancee. The only thing that makes me happy is the fact that both of us have never had sex, this calmed me a little but was still confused about what to do.

The only viable option that came my way was GOD! Believe it or not, He can do all things. You may be quick to condemn me by asking "is it now u know God exists?" I don't blame u,because u are right. I've not been totally clean and honest to God and my fiancee but I've chosen to renew my relationship wit Him. Its not been easy u know, but I have the faith that He will heal me.

A word of advice to all: don't play with your life! Abstainence is the best. Dont think u are safe by doing it just once or with just one person, that may just be the one that will get u "hooked and cooked" At this time I need your support and prayers to win this battle. I hope to share my healing with this forum when God does the miracle. Thanks.

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Thanks to every 'brother' that have said it all. Christ is the only answer. Keep riding on faith and you get there. And to others her, don't be too sure of yourself. Get checked up. Shalom

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I am really sorry to hear about your case. I am convinced the Christians on Nairaland will be praying for you. Don't give up on your dreams. Being positive doesn't mean that all hope is lost. In time you will see my point.

Remember God is love, and He has a plan for you despite your transient set back.

The sooner you start getting treatment the better.

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I do hope you are alright. You can live a long and fulfilled life if you take care of yourself and ensure u use the right drugs. Magic Johnson was diagnosed around 1991 and almost 20 years later, he is still living a healthy life and will be turning 50 later this year (I doubt when he was told that he was HIV positive that he ever felt he would make it this far).

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HIV does not kill as fast and as horribly as cancer or undetected hepatittis. I once dated a HIV + lady though i did not know she was positive at the time we made love nothing in between no CONDOM Nothing once she told me she had taken i asked her to keep it she refused being richer than myself she procured an abortion God forbid she marry this pauper she was only using to pleasure herself one sunday after i had started to try to end the relationship i saw a dark angel in my room ( I did not go to church i felt guilty i had been fornicating and murder had just been introduced to the list of sins) The demon taunted me about HIV i started praying and crying i psyched the lady into taking a HIV test or no more sugar She went and called me on the phone and started crying that she was positive i encouraged her that it was not a big deal ( I have a few friends who have confided in me about their status) She almost committed suicide but i stopped her i even had to continue sleeping with her at a point to calm but with a condom all this time i was not sure of my own status Thats a year and three months ago Glory be to God am no longer on the sex list oh i tested negative even till now believe it or not. God loves the young man and my friend she will always be dear to me i actually considered marrying HIV or no HIV but things somehow did not work we still love one another but no more humpty for her or for anybody at all if you like fine like sun if i were + i would call on God and study the Virus after Syphillis was once and in some cases a killer HIV is still kinder than a lot of diseases.

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I feel your pain bro! but u will not die, but live to declare God's goodness to you, in Jesus Name!

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thanks to everyone who has encouraged me. the almighty GOD will bless all of you. I am healed in JESUS name. amen.

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The lord is ur strength, what u should avoid is the thought of death, The lord is ur strength ,,ur healer, he can and he will health u ,

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Himself bore our infirmities,By His stripes we are healed.Personally,ive lived in fear of this dreaded disease until i got my confidence back in Christ.I do not judge or blame you because everyone has a past.Just keep holding on to him,and trust him then Affliction will not rise up against you a second time.

I'll remember you in my prayers.

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GOD OF CHOSEN IS THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN HEAL YOU.

www.thelordschosen.org

LOCATED AT IJESHA B/STOP

TRY AND SEE URSELF

BYE

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The most serious problem we have inthe fight against HIV/IADS is not the virus .It is Stigma, fear and ignorance.Statements like this prevent people from getting tested or even when they re tested they refuse to disclose like you so that people like Thief of Hearts will not not pass judgement and sentence them to death. Am really suprised that in this ageand time when this virus is rampaging all of us especially Africans people still talk like this. Lets be honest HIV/AIDS is everybody's problem even if you are not infected (those of you who know your status and from the tone ofyour discussion a lot of you do not know your status), you know somebody or you are affected by it this means you may have cared for someone with the virus. This is not the matter of "its not my portion"ITS EVERYBODYS PROBLEM so all of us espcially young people have to join our minds and think of what we can do to stop the spread but first you have to contribute by saying no to Stigma and discrimination.

To correct your misconception HIV/AIDS drugs re free in most parts of Nigeria but you have to be tested to know if you should start ARVTs. Even where the drugs re not free they re quite affordable."

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"Lol good, have fun losing your hair and immune system. Btw, have you considered how expensive HIV meds are?"

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ur hiv +, my dear ndo, sorry, take heart. better look 4 money to use and buy medicine. try and make the most of the situation, a lot hiv + pple live long lives if dey stick to their medication. u have a very long and hard road ahead of you but if ur determined to live and not just to live but to actually work hard(in terms of sticking to the medication), u may just have a fighting chance.

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WITH THE GOD OF CHOSEN, NOTHING LIKE HIV.

I AM WEL CONFUSED AND TO TELL U THE ALMIGHTY TRUTH THAT IS WHERE GOD DEMOSTRATE HIS POWER

IF ANYBODY DWAT ME JUST GO AND SEE URSELF, IF U ASK ME I WILL TELL U THAT GOD IS A GOD OF CHOSEN

IF EVERY OTHER god FAIL U, TRY THE GOD OF CHOSEN, A PLACE WHERE EVERY INCURABLE DISEASES BOW.

THE PASTOR WAS REALLY CALLED BY GOD AND GOD MAKES SURE HE GAVE HIM ALL THE POWER TO DESTROY

THE KINGDOM OF DARKNESS AND AND WIN SOULS TO CHRIST, VISIT.

www. thelordschosen.org

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Why is everyone so sympathetic. How many of d pple dat hv replied have/intend to gone/go 4 HIV test. we are so quick 2 be sympathetic without knowing our status. Yes, I am yet 2 get tested too. I plan 2 go b4 d end of this year. I am educating myself and preparing my psyche 4 whatever d outcome is.I think its high time we started getting tested. As there is a way out now!

Coloba, u r towing d right line. Trust in God, he can do it. Also, eat good food and immune boosting foods like omega (Fish) oils, yogurt, amino acids, red meat (moderately), fruits etc. U maynt need retro viral drugs 4 a long while. Being positive isnt a death sentence. It is just a wake up call. Also, get registered with a govt hospital or LASACA / NACHA to enjoy free retro viral drugs. Treat every ailment promptly and always complete ur dose of treatment. Live a healthy life and exercise regularly. try not 2 think about it- meditation helps. U can focus on healing verses in d Bible by repeating it aloud 2 urself as often as possible. Or repeat aloud regularly as many as 1000 or more times a day "everyday in every way I am getting better and better"

I got 2 know dat 10% of those who test +ve may never manifest AIDS, also with proper use of ur retro viral drug, u can live ur full years. Avoid having indiscriminate sex as this can cause other HIV viruses to combine with d existing one , thus making it more resistant to treatment.

Diplomatically tell ur fiancee 2 get tested too. If she is +ve, u guys can get married & have HIV -ve children via specialist doctors dat can assist. If she is -ve I think u shouldnt tell her. Just break up wit her in a civil way. B/c of the exposure of most pple the less pple u tell d better 4 u. This is to protect ur complex and psyche.

If she is -ve & u have difficulty abstaining 4rm sex totally, seek anoda HIV +ve girl 4rm some of d grps forming now 4 marriage. U'll get dem in churches and hospitals.

I hope I have been of help.

Good Luck.

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Dear Coloba,

You are a courageous Man and victory is bound to be yours (amen), but in fairness there is still one more hurdle to be crossed and that is by telling your woman the sincere truth I believe your coming here to declare your Health statue has a purpose which is part of the healing process God has for you so that his healing covenant for you could come to pass, it's well understood your not telling her is due to fear of loosing her so you could tell her at a later time, but brother I doubt if God works that way,God does things in omniscience way and not the reverse, he wants people who seek him to come with pure mind, what makes you think she wouldn't forgive you and even help you in every way she could if you confess  the truth to her.

If you could summon the courage to tell the 87,187 Nairaland members here, and without knowing you and most have given you their moral support, shed more light into how to deal with situation, then do the same to her maybe doing that is one of things you had to do to as partly towards your breakthrough.

We are all sinners mind you, so go to her confess, ask for her forgiveness and then tell her you want to leave because you don't think you deserve her and leave the rest to God to work on her for you, instead of working on her yourself as the case is now. Test his kindness and mercy with this and I am sure Thanksgiven songs shall be yours at the end of the day.

God Bless

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coloba,

all i can say is that, it is well and besides, YOU WILL NOT DIE, am so convinced about that, God will see you through.that other people die each time they have the virus does not mean you are goin to die like them, you are created for a purpose and the purpose most be fulfilled irrespective of all u are goin tru now.

for all other people that are saying jagons i mean some of the posted letters, 50% of all those saying jagons are also infected, they should go and check themselves too, it is what is in vougue, am a lab scientist and i get up to 4 people that are positive evryweek in the place i work sometimes after i come back from my own place of work, am both an environmental scientist and a medical lab scientist.so don't kil your sef, use your drugs and live your normal life, try to take your mind off it.

i love you

COSBY

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WOW. Do people still take such risks? That was an incredibly risky thing to do. Why wait till next month to do the test?

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and come to think of it, i hand sex (raw) with a girl i met over the intenet, never knew her before just met her online , then fixed a date met an d had sex (raw) and can u imagine, i had a parket of condom in my porket, yes i know its silly that one of the silly things we do just to regret latter, before u say anything, i have choosen to go 4 HIV test nest month.I AM NOT PROUD OF WHAT I DID. just pray i dont make such mistake again

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Coloba

So happy for you that at least you know your status now, many people out there dont know thier HIV status. so count urself very lucky. please dont get me wrong, i feel bad that you have hiv but you can still achive all you set out for your self in life as far as you belive you can do it.hiv does not kill but AIDS.My advice to you is to start taking your drugs, eat alot and rest very well .also please think less it will help you.i know of a lady that has had HIV for over 10years but when you see her you wont accept it becos she has decided that hiv will not stop her from doing things that make her happy.

so my brother GOD is in control.in all suitations thank GOD.

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@coloba

bros before you start panicking listen to this documentaries

test more than four times sef, in different regions of the country if possible out of the country. before you start taking their drugs.

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pls don't resolve to self-pity cos it doesn't really help,i advice u 2 see a counsellor and stuff like dat.Believe its well and it will be

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hi Coloba, ur posting is so touching! It shall be well becos u bliv in God. He never remembers our past. Just bliv yer. Good luck.

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Have you told your fiance?

She has a right to know.

Its a shame that you can't have kids but maybe you can use your life experience to help others.

But please don't put anyone else at risk because you fear what people will say when they find out. 

There is no cure as of yet for HIV but its nice to see that your faith gives you strength just don't allow yourself to be deceived by those who believe they can heal you.

Another point maybe go and have other test.  I have heard in Nigeria peoples results get mixed up!

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Guy, whatever happened is in the past, first of all realize that Jesus died for your sins, he died so u could be free from sin, whenever we err against God all we have to do is repent and God washes us white as snow, i hope u have , secondly jesus died for ur sins as well as for your health, thats y the bible says "by his stripes we are healed", Fact is God doesent want you to die, he was flogged brutally so u wouldnt be sick, you are healed, so forget about what the doctors have said, or friends, shut ur ears to the devil and only open ur eyes to God's word. there are countless of HIV patients that God has healed! in Nigeria, u re gonna be among them by God's grace, most people say if God want s to heal you he will, see ur healing dosent depend on God, it depends on u, God has done his part, (by his stripes, isaiah 53 :3-5)so u have to do urs, by following this steps

Follow this steps

1. Make God’s Word the final authority.

The Word says that by the stripes of Jesus you were healed

(1 Peter 2:24).

2. Refuse to believe what you see and feel.

Only believe the Word.

3. Refuse doubt and unbelief.

When the devil whispers doubt and unbelief into your

mind, deal with those thoughts immediately. Cast them

down; don’t dwell on them.

4. Meditate God’s Word.

Keep your mind fixed on the promises.

5. Cast your care upon the Lord.

The devil will try to use anxiety over your situation to

choke the Word in your heart so that the promises will

become unfruitful (Mark 4:19).

6. Praise God for your healing!

Praising God before you see a manifestation is the highest

form of faith.

7. Don’t waver.

James said that the person who wavers in his faith should

not expect to receive anything from the Lord (James 1:6-7).

8. Never let go!

No matter what happens, continue to stand on God’s Word

for your healing.

9. Listen to the Word!

One of the main methods of keeping your mind renewed

to the Word is to listen to the Word on tape, CD, video

or DVD.

10. Confess the Word concerning your healing.

It is difficult to believe that you are healed if you are constantly

talking about your sickness. Speak only words that

are in agreement with God’s will for your healing.

You are the healed of God.I will pray for you, i mean that, u will give ur testimoney when ur healing is complete, you are blessed

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@ macalurs

haba! have you ever heard of tact? or compassion for that matter?

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Then greatest obstacle to the HIV positive individual is the amount of myth, disinformation and false information surrounding HIV

The only way an HIV positive person will not develop AIDS is if the virus is suppressed. Thats the whole point of anti-retrovirals

I notice most of the comments on HIV are made by people who have never seen or treated an HIV positive patient in their lives

If the Gambian president can treat HIV why isn't everyone with HIV flocking to Gambia for an instant cure?

We all remember what the South African president said about HIV. He, by his utterances became single handedly responsible for a lot more deaths in South Africa by promoting the myth that HIV doesn't exist!!

Wise up and educate yourselves from the correct sources please hearsay is dangerous

Nuff said!

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Some people have HIV for their life time without getting AIDS, so dont discourage the dude. Also there are cures for these decease in developing countries. I know some of them even the gambia prez cure aids/hiv

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@seun

I read your earlier post and i wan to use this opportunity to correct some misconceptions about HIV and HIV testing

When one is taking HAART (highly active antiretroviral drug therapy) HIV is still detectable in the blood so by definition they are still HIV positive.

They have been a few cases in the world of people proven to be HIV positive later seroconverting ie becoming HIV negative and not having detectable levels of HIV in the blood. This is because they have the rare ability of killing off the virus and eradicating it from the body. This ability was first demonstrated in some east African prostitutes who were repeatedly exposed to HIV

A lot of cases of people who have tested positive and then negative have been as a result of problems with the serological tests (ELISA) which are not infallible hence a blood sample is usually tested twice and in some labs three times if the first result is positive This is to reduce the incidence of what we call in the medical field false positives. In some unscrupulous labs which i am sure abound in Nigeria the sample is only tested once hence there will be a higher rate of false positives.

The newer methods of testing for HIV look for particles of virus rather than antibodies to virus and hence are very sensitive Theses are called PCR tests

SO if you are going to have an HIV test where possible ask for the more reliable PCR test

Cheers

Oz

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Coloba, the simple answer is to take your case to God with faith and be healed. You can register @ the Christ Embassy Healing School with faith and your healing will come a 100% from God.

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Sorry to hear about that.

But this may sound silly but do you know how you become infected?

If it through intercourse? do you have any clue who is responsible for it?

I personally think that there should be a law prosecuting people who knowing transmit the disease.

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coloba

How long have yall been together, give history on yall relationship. You have to tell her if you have a secure future if its rocky then relieve her of any mishaps. I never been in your situation and don't know what ill do if someone i loved told me this. I know I just cant leave this person, unless its rocky. I'll be 27 this month, my God. I've put myself in your shoes. I know its not over, you can live a lifetime. Keep taking meds, exercise and create a healthy diet. find the HIV/AIDS forum and there are even people looking to marry with the same illness. Trust me above all God wants to prosper you. God afflicted Job for his glory, and whatever God does to you its for his glory. You or someone may say "why would God give you this illness for his glory"? God did not GIVE it to you, he ALLOWED you to catch it b/c of a door of iniquity, sin, or those things that is not pleasing to God. Remember Job was the only person in the bible underneath Jesus who was upright and never sinned. so he has a different story. BUT for you, God is still the same today, yesterday and forever more. So even though God ALLOWED this disease, WATCH how God use you in a mighty way. Watch how your faith increase. Watch how your prayer life increase. What how you relationshiop with God grow. Watch how you begin to hate sin as God does. JUST WATCH. Trust me, I'm not a prophetess, I;m just telling you WATCH!!! For his (Jehovah) name sake he will heal you. Your healing may or maynot manifest in the nature (in your body) but watch your spirit man rise up and take dominion. Amen. Dont worry, God got your back!!! All God wants us to do his turn from our wicked ways and seek him. Matt 6:33. OOH and when the devil remind you of your condition, remind him of the buring lake of fire that he, death and hell will be cast into. AMEN. The devil will burn in the lake of fire forever. Aren't you GLAD, your enemy will suffer, aren't you GLAD that your mortal body will pass away and you will receive a glorify body through Christ. In HEAVEN there is no sickness, disease, sorry, pain, worries, bills, depression, medicines, etc. BUT ALL PRAISES!!!!! God be with you. I'm blessed to have blessed u today

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drlawng,

I'm so happy that there is a doctor here in the US who professes Jesus. Thanks for knowing Jesus while prescribing healings to his sheep.

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i think you are just afraid of losing her right?

but you took a big risk when you had sex with someone else you betrayed her trust, so you need to ask her to forgive you to which is far more important than the HIV you have now. Or else you are just being selfish and thinking of yourself.

The fact that you have HIV will hurt her just as much as the the fact that u were unfaithful.   Waiting till you are healed and hoping it happens soon is just wishful thinking. Obviously it would be perfect for you if all was well with you so you would not have anything to confess.

If you really trust God as you claim then you will have to do just that TRUST that He will take care of you whether your fiancee leaves you or not.

I can tell you this if you DON'T tell her, that same God will SET you up, the cat will tear its way out of the bag by His orchestration

In the new testament we are told that before you bring an offering before God first settle your issues with your fellow man; if he decides not to forgive then you know you have done your part. That's when your offering is acceptable before God.

Please if you know what the word LOVE is then you will tell her what happened so that you sincerity is seen by the same God you hold unto.

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@coloba

I still believe in Miracles. Miracles still happen.

Never mind what people say. If you don't give up, you will surely have a wonderful testimony to tell at the end of the day.

However, you owe it as a duty to inform your fiancee. Ask yourself this question. If I were in her shoes, will I love to be told? If you truly love her, you will tell her the truth now before she discover on her own. Cos having posted this topic, it is no longer a secret. Even if nobody knows you, God can still reveal it to her in a vision or dream. So don't deceive yourself into thinking you can keep her by hiding the truth from her.

Actually, sin prosper in darkness. So let the light shine in. You will be pleasantly surprise what God will do with such sincerity.

Shalom

Quitter don't win, Winners don't quit. So don't give up!!!!

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With God all things are possible and i know God will surely answer your prayers.Try and do some research online about drugs and what to use and follow up with your doctor and make sure you eat healthy(i watched a programm on tv recently about some people with aids for several years and without any medication,all they did was eating healthy and they are all fine) and i will always remember you in my prayers.It is well and with God,all things are possible.

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Where's all your anger coming from abi someone infected you with STD and ran?

coloba you should definitely tell your girl. There is no excuse for not telling! None

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@ Coloba, U've got to realise that this is a public forum and there4 u are bound to recieve from pple with conflicting ideas and values. Pls I would love to implore u not to be moved by all this negative comments, stand to ur positive belief and keep declaring the word of God to urself, so long as God in his unending mercies has not condemned u then no "thief of Joy and life" can condemn u. what u have done is not as aborminable as what some pple here hav done one time or the other. UU are not the worst sinner and u wont be.

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@ nigeriana:

true enuff i must say. One should not be too flimsy with important info if they can not be substantiated. Since you stay in Abuja, Perharps a visit to our facility will convince you? If you need more info lemme know.

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Hey Goldenray,

I just read what you said about multivitamins rejuvenating people's CD4. What company did you say manufactures it and what does it contain? There are lots of claims from all sorts of companies who are only interested in fleecing people of their hard earned funds. You said un- official research? What kind? Did the company do any clinical trials to test the drugs and are they documented anywhere? If these wonder multivitamins really exist and the manufacturer is not a con man, make the details public so that his claims can be verified. If not, stop dispensing the wrong advice to people infected with HIV. They already have enough problems

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Hey Coloba,

It must have been a shock getting a positive HIV result. However, its not the end of the world. I have been working in the field of HIV for just over three years now and also have a number of friends and colleagues living positively with the disease. Lucky for you, there are a number of centres around the country where you can enrol and get ARV drugs for free. My advice to you would be to go and enrol and have your tests done so that it will be determined if you are are eligible to start ARVs or not ( cos the fact that you tested positive does not automatically mean you should start ARVs immediately).Even if you dont start ARVs you will still need to be monitored by a qualified health professional. You can also join a support group for people living with HIV and get psychsocial support from them. Dont make the mistake so many people have made and spend all your resources looking for a cure. The hard fact is there is no cure at the moment although we pray for one in the future. Anyway, God is your strenght.

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yea she's the coward for not wanting to risk her life but he should be praised for cheating on her without protection and also for not wanting to tell her the tuth

Are you drunk?

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surprisingly how heartless, wicked, preposterous obnoxious, ridiculous, annoying, triphing, bad mouthed, ugly hearted, and dung hill minded some people are. even if he is a whoring, he shouldn't be crucified the way some people that will die before him crucified him. ha ha and this is not real life ooh it is still on-line.

@coloba, firstly, if your fiancee leaves you, let her know that she is the definition of a coward. secondly, if you throughly know you are down to nothing, then god is up to something.if i were you, i will tap into these anointing and i will pray that God should change my blood for his.because the bible say we are created in God's imagine, furthermore, it says we are wonderfully and beautifully made. maybe i still need to let you know that you cost Jesus his life. and the reason u are still living today is because all the time you've sinned and the devil went to god to report you, God does not see your sin whenever he looks down, he sees the blood of Jesus pleading for you. so baby boo, you need to look beyond yourself but look up to God coz by his strive you will be made whole.

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Dear mr coloba i am sorry you are going through such a hard time i also recently had a hiv test though i came out negative i had the test prior to a medical procedure.I believe most poeple have exposed themselves to the virus through risky lifestyles so there is no need blaming someone hiv positive when we know that it was only God that saved us when we were bad so the fact that what we did and went scot free backfired on another person who tried it should not make us feel hollier than them. Its justthat these days we should be careful with our lifestyle my heart skiped a beat when the doctor told me i will need blood transfusion i thought of hiv and everything that could go wrong with the transfussion. I dont know if it makes you feel better as it is easier for someone not troubled to say to a broken heart stop worrying a hiv negative person can never understand how you feel but i think it is not the end of your world i will remember you in prayer and i hope God anserws us as. Take heart

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Are u a christian?Do u think that's what Jesus would have said if His opinion was requested? I don't think so.

Yes, I am a Christian. As a follower of Christ, didn't Jesus tell prostitutes to "Go and sin no more?"

no u are wrong, I would not die in the next 10 years. I don't have to believe your report, for all I care, the other  guy may just be using u to kill my faith. Sorry to disappoint u though.

There are wonderful treatments for HIV, called anti-retrovirals. They can allow you to live a perfectly normal life for the most part. However, they are NOT cheap. That's what I was trying point out.

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@Poster

for you to decide not to tell your fiance is very BAD decision and i hope you change that soon instead of waiting to be healed. There is no cure for HIV you know, sure you can manage it but not cure it.

the best gift to your life and hers is to tell her thereby giving her the choice to stay or leave which is both good in the long run.

if she decides to stay, you both can pull through, if she decides to leave, same there. but there is nothing to gain by keeping your HIV secret.

many ladies stays with their man come what, just remember that and I wish you well.

if i hide any sin in my heart, the LORD will not hear my prayers, remember that right? so the forgiveness stage is not complete until you tell your lady.

it is not a matter of reporting my dear, it is sharing with her everything about you and not hide nothing. that is what relationship is all about.

look for a good time, good mood to share what you are facing with her. and i tell you a good lady will not leave you in this. she might be mad but feel your present situation and pull through with you,

cheer up and tell her okay, u will be more relieve than telling God alone.

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You are just rambling rubbish. Kind words were only given by others because you decided to keep the real truth out of your first posts, hmm I wonder why?

How about you put yourself in HER shoes? Would you want her to keep such a thing from you? Again God will not forgive you until you receive her forgiveness and the only way that will happen if you stop being so greedy and actually tell her the truth.

Until then I still stand by the fact that you;re a gross hypocrite who is only thinking of himself hence your comment "do you think telling her will help ME", who says this is about you anymore? This is about you and another person. Keep making excuses, I'm sure eventually someone will fall for them.

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