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I Don't Feel Like Going To Church: What's Wrong?

I do everything i ought to do as a Christian,

but when Sunday comes around,

going to church just bites me.

What could be the matter?

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Then STOP the RITUALS and Focus on RELATIONSHIP with CHRIST...one thing is sure,,,when you get your relationship in CHRIST rolling, you will not know when you become an attraction for people and you become a point reference...i wrote some article on this i have included it below....

DONT GO TO CHURCH....

Religion is a basically a shame management system, often with the best intentions and always with the worst results. it appears to work externally but only drove the bondage even deeper. People are still addicted to shame and bounce between self-pity and self-glory, never finding freedom to the simple Life in CHRIST. Religion makes people think God want a cause and effect relationship with them, if they'll be good, he'll be good to them.....it sad that we thought we could press people into spiritual change, instead of helping them grow to trust Father more and find him changing them? You can’t press a caterpillar into a butterfly mold and make it fly. It has to be transformed from the inside.”

Religion keeps people busy and occupied with rituals and obligations, that they do not have time and energy to infect or bless the world with the Fathers Love, Don't go to CHURCH, BE THE CHURCH of Jesus Christ and HEAL the WORLD.....

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There's nothing wrong. You've probably outgrown your need for it.

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i am looking for a good church in europe to belong to ?

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How can you just walk up in the morning every day healthy, and you find it difficult to go to church, just to thank your God for your life. Men it is a bad habit.

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when u dont feel like going to mkirk,

then there is danger,

maybe u need to change church with conviction!!!

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Ok. its cool.

Where eva theres 2 or more believers , it is a church.

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I do attend the occasional church service. I'm not saying don't go to church. I'm saying I understand if there are times you wouldn't want to.

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@Mad max.

i realised it wasnt about my feelings

The Christian life is not based on feelings.

I intend to attend a friends church this sunday

i want to get around, i dont want to be holed up in one place

and im joining a service unit, not because i want to feel fulfilled

but because i want to add value to someone else's life

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must every body go to church.

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gamine,u av gotten a lot of response."no matter how new a car is,it still enters a fillin station".u need fuel to move on in this world.

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Gamine, how are you dealing with it? Maybe I can learn jare.

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Man, do I understand where you're coming from or what? I hardly attend church, but I have a hunger to find and know God personally, and sometimes He's lost in the hustle and bustle and Pastor's posturings. I went mountain climbing one day. It was beautiful. The sky was four shades of blue. There were eagles and butterflies. To my astonishment, I got a glimpse of God that day. And I'm not referring to the physical environment. I would dodge questions like 'Did you go to church today?', and accusing looks if I say I hadn't been. Now I give a curt 'No,' and profer no explanations.

Don't get me wrong. I occasionally attend services and I'm uplifted by a message, and I have pastor friends,but I've grouses with Nigerian churches a mile long. It's a culture over here, church. It has its own language and practices and ways of life, and once you master them, you can pass yourself off as anything. That's why my cheeks used to ache from all the false smiles I'd dispense in church, because I have to pass muster. Religion is a blanket people use to hide who they really are beneath. Tiresome,motonous religious activity that do little to change the darker sides of one's character. Not to mention there's no real love amongst church members. Pastors are arrogant and strut about like peacocks, expecting you to worship the ground they walk on. They pass their own prejudices and jaundiced view of life off as religious doctrine, and you'd better obey or it's off to hellfire you go. They tell you what to do, what to think and how to think it. One pastor came to my house and,when he didn't get the 'Daddy' and the 'respect' he thought it my constitutional duty to furnish, became hostile and began to misbehave. I 'dashed' his annointed face a good slap. Yes, I did. And to pastor worshippers who're clutching their hearts in horror and looking to consign me to hell,good luck to you. A pastor is merely an office in a church, and is no more noble or deserving of respect than an usher or a chorister. God is no respecter of persons but we are, forming cliques in church and not recognising or respecting boundaries if it kicked us in the foot. 

Church today is a travesty of what it was intended to be. I'n under no obligation to conform to its rules or abide by its dictates. There's a Bible, and I can read. Your brethren is not the people who gather with you in a hall to perform religious ceremony. They are people with whom you share a spirit and the love- translatable into action- of Christ. So you can be in a congregation of 100000 while your actual brethren therein are 1000.

I totally understand your dilemma. I face the same. Just don't let some misguided sense of duty guide your life, and remember there's just this one life and it's short. Do everything from your HEART.

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@Poster Well I share the same thing about not going to church everysunday, there is nothing wrong with u and me either.

Most times when I read in nigerian papers about pastors and church memebers ving sexual related issues it makes me feel bad to me its best I serve my God at home and watch and listing to Godly messages than to worship under a sinful pastor or congregation of possessed memembers waiting to destroy the little joy u ve left.

I have heard alot of tales and stories about bad life experiences of innocent church members been violated physically, spiritual and mentally for me its every 2sundays I attend church service not everyday as before.

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My brother nowadays Churches are money spinning ventures. they dont preache the kingdom of God as it were with jesus and the apostles. They preach that the kingdom is here now, that expains why they always seek to solve all your problems now, and kill your enemies for you.

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can u remember when and how it started, proberly you hand out with people that find it dificult going to church

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I am speaking as a non-Christian American with an education in the social sciences.

Generally, people get bored with church out of curiosity for other things. Another reason people stop going to church is because it is very time-consuming and often prevents you from doing things that can actually help you - like learning, working, or networking with people who can provide more realistic opportunities.

As an American who used to live in Ghana, I feel like African churches often get in the way of peoples' lives. Although churches can often provide strong social networks, they often provide people with networks that can't move them upward.

Perhaps this is one of the reasons why you are tired of going to church?

Kojo

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not going 2 church has nothing 2 do with how religious one is,i mean through out last year i didnt go to church,it dint stop me 4rm believing in GOD.BESIDES IF U NOTICE,some people go to church on sat,some sundays.

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@shreks

"Abasi Ordiong fee" ( Make God Reward You)!

Sincerely We Need church Don't say Its unnecessary,

Iron Sharpeneth Iron; Do we think We're too sharp to Handle??

I'm 1 of those absent for some time but won't say Church Is Unnecessary.

When There's an opportunity, Please Be glad when U R told 2 go In2 d House Of the Lord,

there are activities most suitable for Perculiar places, (even sex) and ther is time for everything,

Please Nairalanders Its wrong not to feel like,

if U have d opportunity or havnt a good excuse Go to CHURCH! Dont Just feel Like.

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Haaahha, i have not been on this site for ages, hmmm my dear friend, u need church ooo, u need tobe more active in that church of urs, join the prayer ministry for 2 weeks.,u will be fired, lol, i mean it,

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Ah,Gamine.I am in the same shoe of not wanting to go to church anymore,Sundays just come and go and I'm content just watching a sermon on TV.My spirit is cold and I'm just afraid that I'm too far gone for redemption.My spirituality left and my morals are in disarray!Sad for someone that once burned with the Lord's zeal.

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i believe the answers are in our heart. its our doubts and fears that wont let us face it.

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You have to be vigilant says the bible. Just because you are old enough does not meet you don't need anybody. No matter what happens you will need people. Jesus is coming for the church. Not the individual. Its good you brought this topic up. Don't be deceived that church is not necessary, it is. You are trying to do what is expedient.

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I dont really believe in people that says i am a christian but i dont like going to church. That is religious fallacy. Going to church does not appeal to the senses, you just have to do it in obedience to the word of God that says we should not forsake the gathering of the saint. Christianity without church is demonity. Try and train yourself that way

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Gamine, your feeling is not peculiar to you alone. it happens to almost al christians and has happened to me too . as a matter of fact i am presently struggling with the situation. first of all check your live if you have been distarcted or committed a sin. that always leave us feeling guilty. pray and move on but where there is no sin, then maybe you need a rivival. cry out to God for a revival and ask him to help you. try studying you bible more and fast too if you can and that will help. goodluck sis.

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Many of us who wants more than just the songs and fellowshipping; who desires more of God and not mere living life; experience this exhaustion that originates from a kind of shallowness in many of our churches. Nevertheless, the act of going to church is not contestable, because for everyone that is of God, such fellowshipping is needed to keep us in the pursuit of Him.

Now, the question is where? I sort for 5, 6 years trying to get a place to feed my spirit and not just my mind, till I went back to Him for direction after exhaustion fiancially, mentally and maritally. I knew somthings weren't right. And He directed me. I can't say I am totally satisfied where I am, but I am adding to the church in the way I have never done and presently the church is also growing.

Surely, you have something inside you to offer. There is something in you that is seeking for expression. Find a place you are welcome and accepted to add your ideas and gifting, but if you can hear Him, find a place, where He wants you to be.

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I feel the same way here

sunday comes and to me its just a day to rest

I don't even think its a sin until my day comes home to give me the lecture of the week

it could be easy for some of you but think about being the son of a pastor(MFM at that)

at first it was finding fault with the preaching then with time i lost interest all together

though i still get moved when ever i watch TBN and hear the word from mean of God that anit Nigerian

so i think its just that i don't like the way our pastors preach but i love God despite my many sins

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Hen!

Can someone save these ones from blindness

that they may actually read through the Thread. Amen

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@poster, going to church does not mean u're saved. U need to pray a genuine prayer for God's mercy.

SALVATION IS NOT OBTAINED BY A MERE RAISE OF HANDS IN THE CHURCH

I will advice you to seek GOD first and be SAVED!. There's no way a real child of God will want to miss a Sunday service, knowing fully well that that's where you obtain your spiritual food.

Once again be reconciled to God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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well I belive you need the HolySpirit to help you identify the problem because sincerely speaking, as a good christian, we need to understand the word and principle of God well. Although going to church is not the real amtter but your heart with God and how well dip is your knownledge in His world, remembe the Bible says Do not forsake the gathering of your brethen. Think well about this. with much Love ubc_min1@yahoo.com

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well in the real context my brother, you are the church, where you dont feel like going is just a gathering of believers. But as you have said, if truely you are a Christian, you will remember that the Bible says do not forsake the gathering of yourselves.You just have to sit and think of it yourself that what will be your Job on sundays when all other belivers are worshipping their God. well my piece of advice is that you just pray for the Holy Spirit to reveal what is relly wrong. with Love and cheers. ubc_min1@yahoo.com

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I don't know if any1 has mentioned this, but most people go to church to get something, good things like blessing, word of God, encouragement etc. But the there is more joy and fulfilment in giving than receiving (not talking money here).

why not join a group in church where you can be a blessing so you won't just be going to church just to get blessed but to b a blessing to some1. this worked for me. I felt more useful and needed.

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John 6:70 Jesus answered them, Have not I chosen you twelve, and one of you is a devil?

Nichodemus, Mathias, Paul, Barnabas were not a part of Christ's initial ministry . . . were they hailing the devil?

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@skyone

check your logic?

Premise1: Those that go not to church hail the devil

Premise2: Skyone does not go to church

Conclusion: Skyone hails the devil

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A'ight, this is obviously worse than i thought to so I'm gonna upgrade you to The You Need To Seriously Get over Yourself, ASAP Package

No need to thank me, we'll just think of this as my humble contribution to the The Ridding the World of Judgmental Prigs Foundation.

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Okay, seriously. . . she didn't feel like going to church for one sunday and you're are talking about deliverance?

Pray tell what you'll diagnose for the people you think are witches and ogbanjes? Their heads chopped off?

You know who is in need of deliverance. . . YOU, to purge out what it is giving you impression that you are in a position to measure someone's spiritual life.

If you are interested, I'll be more than happy to set up a plan for you.

It is called The Getting Over Yourself Package

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i understand, jare, was aving the same problem myself but the amazing thing is when i get there, i feel like i'm home. so i guess its's bettere late than never.

Just force urself there and u won't regret it, i assure u.

Even though TTG was by force, it was fun sometimes. dont' deny it.

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Faith comes by hearing the word of God!

What better place to get the word than from a Church?

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Gamine! The order has come from above that you need deliverance.

To start you off on a series of deliverance sessions,

I'd like you to sing this song at least 5 times a day and make sure you mean it.

Create in me a clean heart oh God

And renew a right spirit within me

Create in me a clean heart oh God

And renew a right spirit within me

Cast me not away

From thy presence oh Lord

Take not thy Holy Spirit from me

Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation

And renew a right spirit within me

This ought to satisfy Mr. Skyone, the self-appointed Patron Saint of Sunday Sunday Church Goers, whom I'm beginning to suspect would love nothing more than to have you head on a silver platter. . . that's how grave he thinks you crime is.

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I pray you see but for now stop blaspheming however is your choice

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Skyone, deliver your self once again by reading well!

You are a latecomer, do the right thing!

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Skyone eh.

go and deliver urself first from blind trust.

Ewie! i wish i was even making money

maybe it would have been a valid reason.

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This is the more reason you needed to go for deliverance, until u'r delivered then you will know it is normal for any

rightful christian to feel strong and joyful to attend church on a Sunday or any other day for true worhip of the Almighty God.

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This Skyone person.

Call ur pastor let him come n gimme deliverance.

You people can yan some nonsense sometimes in the name of God.

choi!

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Incase you are still there, first check your spiritual life if it is in line with the Holy spirit; if it's not, 'then go for deliverance.

A normal christian with a clean spirit must always have the desire and strength to worship God, especially where two or more people are gathered.

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i never said anything about not needing Christian brothers.

Its all about The Spirit working in one's life.

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According to Ephesians 4 vs

2 Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. 3 Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. 4 For there is one body and one Spirit, just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future. 5 There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, 6 and one God and Father, who is over all and in all and living through all

SO u know see the Importance of Togetherness fellowship, even in Genesis chapter 1 ,the first word God spoke was Lets US, so as to strengthing ur faith u need other Christian Brothers

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I see nothing wrong in either not going to church or going to church.

The last time I checked, churches dont have a special box where they keep God and bring him out on Sunday. I see more of an issue if you cant feel or hear God/Spirit without going to church. Maybe sometimes people only feel at their spiritual height at church, because thats the only time they are deliberately open to it.

To be honest much of what goes on in churches has nothing whatsoever to do with God or spirituality. its more of a play on emotions than anything else IMO.

I feel it does help some people to just socialise and have a chat with others, but its something you can do any day of the week. People shouldn't really try to make it into what its not.

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It is the plan of Satan not to have anyone go to church to more about God. His strategy is to weaken your desire to want God each time Sunday comes. To shake this spell on you, you will need to constantly pray, study the Bible daily and meditate on what you study. By God's grace, you will be delivered from this chain Satan has placed you. I know this because, I have often find myself in the same situation. It is only as I daily pray, study God's word and meditate on it am I able to over come Satan's strong hands on me. Take heart, I will be praying for you.

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everyone has focused on Sunday church. What about all the other services during the week? If people are saying Gamine needs deliverance for missing Sunday church, can we honestly say we attend all other weekly services faithfully and see them as equally important, because they are. i believe mid week bible study or night vigil is as important as sunday service.

this has been my point, we see sunday service as ' a place to show' almost as a ritual but forsake the gathering of the brethren on other days.

i say again that it is better to go to church than not to go, but we must not become legalistic, so my conclusion is to love God and all services of the week will be important to you.

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