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Is It A Sin To Sleep With A Re-married Ex- Husband?

I know this sounds like an easy answer but it's not.

I was having this discussion with a friend today.

Supposing a Christian man and woman falls in love and gets married vowing to love each other till death.

They have a healthy, explosive sex life but somewhere along the line the man left her for another woman.

He flies for divorce goes on to marry the new woman

The woman remains single and shares custody of the kids woth the husband.

But they continue to have sex ocassionally.

It may be immoral but is it sinful especially since the Bible [b]for the most part is against divorce ?[/b]

And the woman in this case never stopped loving the husband despite what he did to her and would like him back.

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really?  in that case, could you explain to us how the man is the sinner and what excluded the woman from not being considered as such? 

am just curious to know how you came to that conclusion.

@ OP, sin or no sin, they're both wrong imho.  let's just say hypothetically, you're the new wife. 

how would you feel knowing your supposedly husband is still banging his ex-wife?  forget about her still in love with him, "ohun ti o da, ko da" (what's

wrong, is wrong). 

ok, here's a twist to the whole thing: what if in the process of their occasional booty call (which is what it is, spare me the love bologna), the woman gets pregnant. 

now tell me if that's not a messed up situation then i don't know what is. 

frankly, i don't see anything wrong with her getting dicked by another man aside from her ex when she's Hot (regardless what the bible says) but

her still getting dicked by her ex that's now married to another woman is so morally wrong o.  just my $0.02.

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From a physical point of view, the couple are now divorced and their relationship is extra-marital.

From a spiritual point of view, they are not divorced as the woman was not guilty of adultery, and the man maintains his relationship with her. Thus the 'servicing' is legal. On the second marriage, while one may advice against it, 'technically' speaking, there is no law against it.

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As far as i remember and understand, the technicality comes from the fact that Adultery is the only excuse permitted as a ground for "divorce" in the bible, and to make it worse "both of them are not permitted to remarry" after divorce, infact any other sex with anyone else after divorce is considered "adultery".

Hence you see, whether or not the husband and first wife get divorced or not, the husband still does not have a spiritual right to start servicing another woman. His subscription to lawful consensual sex still remains locked with the first woman forever.

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Well, it is not a sin until the 11th commandment is broken.

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I think the divorced woman should remain single in order to avoid contaminating other men with the sin of adultery. "Afterall, she has had had children by her first husband". What does she need sex now for. In fact, my advice to her is this - have a clitorectomy and you will be fine. This is what Jesus said:

Luke 16:18

Every one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.

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I would like to play the devil's advocate here

Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (King James Version)

When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.

And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.

And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;

Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.

The passage states that the first husband could not take her back because she had been defiled. So the question that arises is since the woman has not slept with another man why cant the divorce be rescinded in principle? One of the underlying intents of the 'no divorce' tenet was to limit the number of sexual partners. Asking the woman to remarry and have sex with another man, is not in line with this.  If the woman has not remarried then I believe she can go back to her initial husband and having sex with him is not a sin.

The issue of the man having sex with both women will eventually lead to the issue of polygamy. While the bible advices monogamy, given the sheer number of polygamous families in the bible, please provide a reference where one is condemned for it. Failure to do so says that the man is not committing a sin by sleeping with both women as he is married to them.

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i dont want put mouth for this kind matter, so time i get make at the way the angry, the way some people manipulate the word of God, Many time you will hear people who called themselves Christian say God does not like, yes that is true, does God have hand in that your so called to begin with, do you consult God before you marry that your so called wife or husband, did you base that marriage on God Divine princple for marriage, when things does not work in that marriage you will want use God's standard that was not applied from the begining to your marriage. i will say God hate Divorce yes, but someone that have defile God plan for marriage, with premartial sex and having an affair out with other people while you are still married. God gave the order that men can give a bill of divorcement Deut 24 verse 1 and 4 please read. so that non that that is still the rightful husband. This get me back to the question Is it a sin to sleep with a Re-married Ex-huband, yes it is a sin because they have broken the covenant of marriage with that bill of divorce in the first place so both the man and his ex-wife have sinned Matt 5verse31 and 32.

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including lady not include lady.

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Spare us the gender bleating. God's laws serve a higher purpose. The purpose of the indissolubility of marriage is to strenghten the family as the building block of society.

The whole essence of their relationship is a booty call. It doesn't serve God's purpose but subverts it. In essence, what you guys are saying is that if a couple, married for the first time, were to go their separate ways. They are free to sleep with each other in perpetuity because they are only consumating their indissoluble marriage. Utter nonsense.

In practice, the man will be unable to carry on his two timing without the help of the ex-wife. In God's eyes, not that I speak for God, they would be subverting the purpose of his law and as a result are commiting a sin.

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How did the woman help her husband in committing adultery?. Naija guys ehn, they always want to give Adam's excuse to all their shortcomings.

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This question is a no brainer. Of course both are sinning!

The man's case is obvious.

How is the woman sinning? By knowingly and willingly enabling the man commit fornication. The woman's sinfulness arises from the man's sinfulness.

If I knowingly help a person commit sin, I can't claim that on a technicality, I'm not actually the person sinning.

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this is called pu ssy and di ck till death do them past, i imagine the long hard dick penetrating the soft lusciously haired pu ssy while the woman shouts in pleasre and the man pumps his di ck in a fashion that makes the pap burst out in an explosion that makes the lavas of a volcanoe an easy game in the highlands of the himalayas.

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What if both parties did not remarry after their divorce, is it a sin for both of them to explore each other once in a while even though they are no more legally bound by the marital clause?

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One you took in your living room standing. Cant really remember every detail.

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Karmamod/Dereloaded,

When would you reinstate that picture na? Abeg

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The gadgets are also frowned at I think?

It amounts to self-service doesnt it and remember the guy that was killed in the bible cos he spilled the Fluid on the floor.

Is there a correlation in my argument

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I meant what if the new wife isnt Christian.

Either way the woman should remarry, this scenerios makes them no better than the Muslims. It's pretty much polygamy.

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was divorce between them finalised in court and was she a signatory to it?

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sleeping with a married man, isn't that wrong?

now she is not married but shagging right?

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she could remarry true but the bible also says if she be willing to stay with him then she is free to do so. Its tough but the woman shld remarry for the sake of her sanity, the dude is simply eating from two pots.

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Very true

But what if she dooesn't want to go dating and sampling other men

should she just buy some gadgets to help her out and forget men when she still loves and believes her man will come back

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Actually the Bible says that if the unbelieving man leaves his spouse (this man obviously would qualify),she's not bound.

She could remarry isn't it so?

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The scenario of this discussion is that the woman is a Christian.

That is the main crux of the matter.

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The Bible calls the new wife an adulteress,that opens up a whole 'nother dimension to this discussion

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1. the new wife shld not have married a divorcee anyway if she were a true christian so she is living in sin herself.

2. I dont blame the wife . . . she has only 2 options - remain celibate (since she doesnt want to sin) or sleep with the man she married and still loves.

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and if she's not a Christian?

Rules of Christianity aside, the whole situation is pathetic. Woman should move on. He comes for sex and then leaves and sleeps with someone else. That's disgusting

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So what you are saying is that no sin is being commited against the new wife?

and what kind of slow woman would STILL sleep with a guy that left her for another woman?

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Fornication? The woman has done nothing wrong, she's simply having sex with her husband . . .

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I feel the dude is being very selfish.

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the man commits adultery . . .

the woman commits fornication . . .

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Why cant they remarry at least for the sake of free, legalised sex and the kids?

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Hmm

If I told you how this whole discussion started you would call me a crazy woman.

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That was my thought also.

I thought the woman could chop the man if she wanted to and he was up for it.

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ummm, why is she eating left over?

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From the man's part = sin.

On the part of the woman . . . i cant say, its her husband anyway.

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I know this sounds like an easy answer but it's not.

I was having this discussion with a friend today.

Supposing a Christian man and woman fall in love and get married vowing to love each other till death.

They have a healthy, explosive sex life but somewhere along the line the man left her for another woman.

He flies for divorce goes on to marry the new woman

The woman remains single and shares custody of the kids with the husband.

But they continue to have sex ocassionally.

It may be immoral but is it sinful especially since the Bible [b]for the most part is against divorce ?[/b]

And the woman in this case never stopped loving the husband despite what he did to her and would like him back.

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d woman is so not sinning.

d sinner has got 2b d man

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