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Is It Okay For Christians To Flirt?

Single or married, is it okay for Christians to flirt? I'm a Christian and I flirt.

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flirt s.exually means what exactly?

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No, it just means to try and attract someone. It is a way to make yourself stand out, and to show why the opposite sex should be paying attention to you, not someone else. It literally means to not be too serious. You can flirt sexually, but it doesn't explicitly mean that you are. For Christians, I would hope they know the difference.

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Doesnt flirting have a s.exual connotation?

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How is anyone going to be attracted to you if you don't flirt? You can't be a dull person who is serious all the time if you are trying to find a partner. Flirting is joking around, and its innocent. There is nothing wrong with being funny or trying to put your best foot forward.

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i think you can get married without flirting.

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it depends.

doesnt really sound ok.

let me think about it.

I doubt most males (and females) wont expect something more from flirting. Isnt it supposed to lead somewhere?

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how you gon find a partner if you dont??

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I really dont see what is wrong with flirting, people say I flirt naturally cos of the way my eyes are and d way I smile, Flirting I feel is a way of making one (d 2nd party) feel good with him/her self.

Cos husband and wife are meant to flirt with each other to add flavor into their relationship.

Flirting is different from lust, this I think should also be in little quantity in one's marriage.

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It depends on what flirting means to you. If you see it as just being friendly and socializing even if it is with the opposite sex without any evil intentions, then it's alrite. As far as ur conscience doesn't prick u, it's alrite to flirt.

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it depends on what your definition of flirting is. i do flirt but it is "innocent" flirting. if you think flirting is dancing all over some random guy in the club then no. but if you are at the coffee shop or at the book store and you see a nice fella and start having a innocent conversation and a lil flirting comes up then it is oka.

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Nooooooooooooooo, if we do so,we deceive ourselves and in the end there's a price to pay for it

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Nooooooooooooooo, if we do so,we deceive ourselves and in the end there's a price to pay for it

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Flirt - To behave alluringly!! The bible says if your right hand will cause your neighbour to sin, cut it off!!! Its wrong to flirt. It might be a game to you, but to the other person, its not.

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as a christian is it okay to have multiple sexual pattners at the same time ( just checkin how i am in the lord)

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flirting as i understand is leading people on to believe that u want something more while in the real sense u dont.christians are not supposed to do that.it is a life of deceit and its wrong.if u say u are truly born again,they are several things u can do like sharing the gospel or studying ur bible instead of flirting

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It is very wrong that Christians should flirt because our body is the temple of GOD.

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Give no place to the devil. Flirting, even in itself may not be wrong ,opens the door for sin. We cannot say we are strong, or have good motives. It just gives room for the devil. Once we are in wrong territory, that's it. We lose control.

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CHRISTAINS ARE NOT MEANT TO FLIRT. FLIRTING IS BAD. PERIOD. i'm outta here

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remember, the voice of the people is the voice of god, abi smthng like that

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Its flirting that caused all this banter

The best post on this thread was disregarded by many of you who just rambled on

Go back and read

By the way I flirt and I am a believer in CHRIST and firmly uncompromisingly so.

haba the guy said flirt not SEX

Flirting in the true sense of the word is fun and light, it makes people feel good about themselves makes them smile and does not mean you want to get into someone's pants. Its your intention behind an action that the Lord judges

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@ samba & laidback , y shouldnt this topic be here? why is there so much hypocrisy with Christains.Flirting occurs even in the church, even among christains so we should talk about it and not have this holy and thou attitude that i dont do it.

By talking about it we can reason together and come up with ways to avoid it or face these kind of challenges in our christain living.

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I will like to know if looking at a pretty woman or handsome men is also considered flirting?

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No, it is not ok for christians to flirt. Christian couples, if there be, should be involved in the work of the Lord, doing evangelism together with other groups, having fellowship together like reading the scriptures together, praying for the lost and families or whoever, going out there for the lost souls. Really.

Abstain from all appearances of evil and flee youthful lusts the bible says. Check them out. There are more scriptures to support this question.

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dere is no good gift from d devil,he cant give u peace he bad and alabout him is bad so der no need to discuss it

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should this b a topic? (dumb) y not ask 'if its okay for the devil to give a sad person peace of mind',

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is straight!

thou shall not flirt.

a sin is a sin.!!!!

shey!

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Flirting is not biblical there is no way u can defend it.D only thing u can do if u find urself in it is to pray for God to enpower u to overcome it.FOR NO FORNICATOR WIL SEE GOD,

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JESUS SAYS THAT THOSE THAT ARE CALLED BY NAME SHALL SHOW FORTH MY GLORY.

JESUS IS REFERING TO WE CHRISTIANS

PLEASE I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF ALMIGHTY GOD TO INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT TO YOUR LIFE AND FORSAKE THE LIFE OF SIN ,IT IS WRITTEN THAT WHOSOEVER THAT CONFESS AND FORSAKE HIS SIN HE WILL HAVE MERCY ON.

I PRAY THAT THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL TRANSLATE HIS WORDS IN YOUR HEART.

FLIRTING IS OF THE DEVIL AND YOU MUST RESIST IT AND USE YOUR TIME TO GLORIFY GOD

YOU ARE BLESSED IN JESUS NAME.

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According to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, flirt means "to behave towards somebody as if you find them sexually attractive, without seriously wanting to have a relationship with them". Now poster, if you are a TRUE christian, you should know that, to flirt is evil because, whatsoever that makes you think of sexual attractiveness to your opposite sex who is not your wife, is satanic. I pray that God will have mercy on you.

Glorify God in Your Body

1 Corinthians 6:12 - 20

12 All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.

13 Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.

14 And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.

15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of a harlot? God forbid.

16 What! know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

19 What! know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

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staying chaste is about the only thing that keeps you as a christian,if you indulge in pre-marital sex forget it you are not a christian

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Let me advice the administrators: Whether or not flirting is christainly IS NOT a topic for a poll. If that sounds like a news flash, then too bad.

@mycc:

For all i know you are just being the devil's advocate with your topic. OFCOURSE it's not okay to flirt, being a christain.

Especially when you consider the message that flirting sends when you are man.

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wikipedia refers to flirting as "Flirting is a form of human interaction between two people, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated"

In oda words,it is a cowardly sorry, shy way of asking another person do you like me/will you sleep with me.If there's a negative reaction from the VICTIM,'at least there's no proof left' or 'you misunderstood me' are easy excuses, The fact is that the flirt is afraid of wat people(maybe including the VICTIM)'ll say,think or do.He has forgotten that God is right there.The fool has said in his heart,there is no God.

Phil 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are[b] honest[/b], whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Flirting failed that test.

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No, I don't think it is. Flirting is mostly associated with sexual things so flirting is like saying you want to get them into bed or something and if they're not your wife/husband, you have no business insinuating you'd like to bed them. At least that's what the Bible says.

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just to remind us that we are humans and it is only natural for certain desires and thoughts to cross our minds,but as a christian in order not to yeild to those desires and thoughts which are most times misleading, we should renew our minds daily and also crucify our flesh, and most of all sincerely ask for God's grace cos 'let he that thinks he standeth take heed'

its not easy, but God will help us all.

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the key words in the post: Okay, Christian, Flirt

Sincerely, I haven't heard of a more contradictory statement for a long time

Simply put, YOU CANNOT BE A CHRISTIAN AND A FLIRT AT THE SAME TIME.

You may be permitted if you are not a child of God, anyway.

It's a matter of choice

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ok lemme get this straight, im not supposed to kiss my girlfriend cos we re chrisitians?

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Some girl on line go dey talk like say dey good by some people 4 net but tell dem 2 come talk face 2 face u no go see dem,christians no flirt ooo e no good cos na sin 4 GOD eyes.thanks

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No it is noy good for christians to flirt because it is againt the will of GOD for christians,Jesus christ our lord do not tech us that so please forget this topic.thanks

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You have to define flirting.

If in involves inapropriate touching, lewd and crude jokes, seeing each other as nothing but piece of meat to be devoured, then you guys are operating in lust. I no dey for that one o, in fact carry go!

As a single Christian person there is a way to be appreciative of the opposite sex and enjoying their company without being slutty, a dog or disrespectful and you also have to know when to draw the line(self control).

If you are fine, if you are single, if you have a good head on your shoulder and you are respect-personified, mama will flirt with you. (Wicked grin and rubbing hands)

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Hi

well for me i see it this way

for the unsaved, flirting which leads one to have sex, is normal for them

but for the new men in Christ, just depend on the Spirit of Christ in you who will enable you to apply the scripture "Abtain from all appearance of evil" for you Know na God create the interest in us for the opposite sex but the flesh wants to abuse it so please depend on Christ to enable u apply his word appropriately.

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Definitely NO!

It's a dicey question. But reality is that as TRUE christians we are not supposed to flirt in any way. We may give a whole lot of excuses and try to blame it on all-what-not even get a Bibilical backing for it; but the truth remains that it is both Socially, culturally, spritually and morally wrong.

It's just the mundanities of this world that push us all to these things; they really do not make good sense. God help us all. Amen

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Nuttin bad, r.kelly use am sing sef *am a flirt* lol! bt if u're a true christian e no gud o! file!

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I see that people are finding it difficult to define flirting in order to deduce whether it is right or wrong for christians to indulge in. In the first place I believe that the poster should have asked whether it is "right" or "wrong", not whether it is okay. Being "okay" makes it a subjective issue and the fact is that with christianity, nothing is subjective.

Anyways I think this answers the question:

1Thessalonians 5:21-23:-  {KJV}

21Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.

22[b]Abstain from all appearance of evil. [/b] the appearance, NOTE!

23And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

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my guy u be my own

we no carry world for head like some other people

i dey feel you jare, haha

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I tire for all this people on nairaland sef

Some would just come and talk as if they are God's right hand man

Fu*king hypocrites and two faced preachers bores me to death

Flirt if you want to, fu*k if u want to, it is optional!!!

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What is wrong with flirting?

I dont see anything wrong to be honest

Is it wrong for a xtian to have sex?

Is it right for a xtian to self-service or self-service?

Is it wrong for a married xtian woman to give her husband Mouth Gig?

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