GUYS HELP IS IT WRONG TO MARRY A WOMAN WHO IS OLDER THAN ME AM A GUY [color=#000099][/color]
I will not say it is wrong to marry a lady that is older than you. No, it is not. However, there are certain realities that you have to consider very well before you say 'I do'. When you are thoroughly convinced of yourself, then you can take your decision.
Personally, I feel the age difference of 9 years is a bit on the high side. It would have been better the other way round (i.e you, the man being older). See my reasons:
No. 1 Reality - Biologically
The odds don't really favour you. If you plan to have kids (which I think you do), then you have to consider that when she is 45 (about menopause), you will just be 36! I don't know how old you are now, but consider that by 36 you should be through with having kids (all things being equal).
No. 2 Reality - Physically
Generally, women age faster than men. Have you considered that she will most likely look much older than you are? When you are 41 (just starting your life!) she will be 50. Her youthful looks may be gone, grey hairs sprouting here and there.
No. 3 Reality -Sexually
Depending on your drives,she may just not be as active as you would wish, and definitely earlier than you.
No. 4 Reality -Maturity
Be ready for some mothering! She will most likely be more matured than you are.
No 5 Reality - Death
All things being equal, she may go before you do. Most men prefer to go before their wives.
Consider all these. I am not trying to scare you. But you must be ready to face realities, so that you don't wish to back out later. If the strength of your conviction is very solid, you may go ahead. It takes more than age to make marriage work. There are more weighty issues of love, commitment, understanding, companionship, mutual tolerance etc. But please don't go about telling people her age!
All the best.