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Why Do Some Men Hate Going To Church?

I realized that some men do not like participating in the things that has to do with Church. On the other hand why do we have more percentage of women committed than compared to that of men. your opinions please!

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I think that most churches are of religious nature. Religion will never save anyone, as a matter of fact many have died because of it. What Christianity, the true faith, is about is relationship with the Lord. I was raised up going to church and I recollect moments where I really enjoyed the service (even as a child). I always had a relationship with God because I knew He was with me. He would speak to me and show me things as a child. I felt His presence all around me. As I grew up, I strayed away from His presence, but I could still feel Him near. When I accepted the Lord Jesus Christ into my heart and my life, I understood what it all means (Christianity). It is about a personal relationship with the Creator of all things. Many churches are preaching a Jesus that is far and away, yet He is so near to each of us. I think many churches began on the right track, but business as usual and many other distractions have diluted the simplicity of the Gospel.

I heard a joke once about this beggar man who would attend a certain church every time the doors were opened, but the ushers would always escort him out. One day while he was sitting at the entrance of the church, God appeared. The Lord asked Him what was wrong, because He noticed the beggar was downtrodden. The beggar explained his dilemma to the Lord. Well, God paused for a moment and said to the beggar, "I know exactly what you mean." The beggar looked at Him in wonder and asked, "You do?" God looked at Him and answered "Yes, I do. I've been trying for a long time to get in myself, but they won't let me in."

That is the number one reason I believe why some men hate going to church. I have witnessed revivals in churches around the world where the Holy Spirit did miraculous and wonderful things. If we would put aside programs and agendas within our churches and invite the Lord to take control, people will not need to be coerced to show up. If He is really Lord there, they will come. He will woo them to come.

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topic should be 'why do some women like going to church' - men are prone to thinking so a man will go when his heart is truly there unlike women who just always feel they have to go to church (so that Pastor won't ask questions, so they can wear their new shoes, so they can gist after church)women are very special

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this is a good old thread.

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i also understand that men being men always want to be in charge of their lives and if possible every other persons life. They feel going to church will rob them of this freedom to be in charge rather they will have to turn to God for complete control of their lives.

Men please, whats so wrong with serving God? is it sin in your life that is stopping you? Remember we all are sinners. even the pastors and born again christians sin. God has not condenmed you. He wants you to come to Him and he will save you.

Do not be deceived. God is not mocked. Whatever a man sows that he will reap.

I heard someone say the other day that satan deceives people that there is still time.

What a pity. we fail to understand that the fact that we wake up in the morning everyday doesnt mean we deserve it. Its Gods grace and mercy upon our lives. Do we know what happens in the night while we are asleep?

I pray we have this reverential fear of God and live each moment as if it is our last. That way we will have a better life.

Sin is fun for a season but at the end it destroys the person.

May God help us all.

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The bible says do not forsake the gathering of Gods people.Where 2 or three are gathered in my name i am there in their midst. thats what Gods word says

I agree when you say all these negative things about churches. Unfortunately some pastors and Christians have put people off. But ask yourself one thing. When Jesus comes will you blame the pastor or the christians for misleading you? He has given us a free will. He will never force us to do anything but also He has set before us life and death and has asked us to choose life so we can live.

Church is a place of worship. A place we go to share Gods word and minister to one another. Go to church for that and leave all the people doing the wrong things as they will answer for it.

Church doesnt take us to heaven. No!! but we can not be islands. Its easy for satan to attack and deceive us when we are alone.

There is more to say but i hope this ministers to you.

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Men tend to have a logical approach to things.

The things of God do not always conform to logic.

Some men cannot accept this.

So they stop going to church.

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@toshmann,

now that is mind-blowing.i hope we do get more people that are God-focussed and not the notice me kind of attitude.

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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! na wa oooo,where u get this kain idea from.gues ur numba 2 reason is more tenable.

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Let me tell you y somemen hate goin to church, 1,because their wifes will always be around them till church service is over so no chance to spy on those lovely ladies who come to church to tease men with fashion,2,,,,,,,,,,,they prefer to stay at home on sunday because thats their only day for resting hmmmmmmmmm

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Servants of the devil don't go to church.They go to their own different places of worship

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Some don't go because they are RITUALIST and are afriad that their JUJU will be spoilt

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I agree 100% with fstranger and lukkie. I am not from Nigeria, but am a woman of African

descent living in America. I could not have said it better myself. Plenty of black people worldwide are in the church, but the condition of the collective black race seems to get worse. Obviously church/religion is not working for us. Perhaps we are following the wrong belief system. Perhaps we need to return to the ways of our ancient ancestors. Just about anywhere you find black people, a large percentage of them are suffering mentally, physically and/or spiritually. In many black communities churches are on every corner. Why does the condition of the black race worsen if church and religion in general is the answer? Why in the world would I choose to even follow a religion that tells me I am cursed and gives me a blonde-haired, blue-eyed white man to follow? I am not into emotionalism, so the church is a turn off to me--for that and other reasons.

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Most churches today in Nigeria, have nothing to offer but a temporal relief from your problems and the women being very emotional are easily "brain washed" then "robbed"

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Now most of yall have said it right.

Church is something that I am still trying to come to terms with. These Pastors sit in their houses from dusk till dawn, call an assembly, preach, collect your money and go back to their houses. Christianity has got nothing to do with africans. Even the isreali/jewish people that should own the religion dont even carry/practice it the way africans do. We now have churches where they wear uniforms to church (white garments/camouflage), Crusades and miracle bonanza services are held every months, and people are being psyched into giving their Pastors all their hard earned possessions with the peomise that God will give them more than they have given.

Pastors who have no jobs are now rich enough to build big universities (that their congregation cannot afford to send their kids to), buy the latest and most expensive cars (with customized license plates), Fly abroad on first class tickets when ever they fill like, run for presidency, buy properties all over (both home and abroad) e.t.c. .

And women fall prey to these things more because most of them have no jobs and are so gullible. Most are sit at home mums who use church to preoccupy themselves and gossip. Men/women who work hard for their money all week long dont have time to go sit down in a place for someone to tell them a bunch of crap that will not get them money (rather it will cost them money). Most women believe that they need a pastor to solve all their problems (physical and otherwise). If a child is sick, go to the church, If you want money, go to church (and pray for money), If you want to buy a car (pray to God), everything has a spiritual angle.

look at the percentage of workers in the churches today, compare the female:male ratio and it will explain alot. Men are too busy to be bothered by church. we rather sit back drink beer and discuss about were our next cheque will be coming from.

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well said!

we africans have our way and styles of doing things but we have allowed the white man to colonize us with their religions. religion is by the way one of the biggest cause of problems in the world. what a pity! and they all promise so much of peace.

more women go to church because women are more about feelings/emotions (which is what religion is all about) while men tend towards more practical things. women are also easier to deceive which frankly is what a lot of the so-called pastors do.

i beleive if u have a conscience and follow it sincerely, then God has enough reasons to be happy with you.

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because only irrational people go to church and it is factthat men are more rational than females.why would an african (male or female) go to church in the first place. Any african ( male or female) that calls himself a Christian is either delusional or just silly.

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Depends on individual & understanding of church. It has nothing to do with masculine or femiline.

We are called not forsake the gathering of one another. You hardly find people complaing spending 12hr/day 6days/week 52weeks/yr @ work jumping from pillars to poles BUT when it's come to church (2 hrs/sun) they let loose all the excuses of the world: the pastor talk too

much about money, much about holiness, it's boring, it's this & that. Going to church is the best place for anybody (believe it or not)

If only we can dedicate 1/10th of our working time seeking & serving God. No matter the level of success/achievement we attain, the place of God in our life cannot be substituted.

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Well i believe that these are some reasons why men dont go to church often.

1, PRIDE:

it is believed that GOD is masculine and has the nature of a man. So men have difficulty having an intemate relationship with thier fellow man. and the find it hand to humble thmeselves before a man. So they take GOD to be a man.

2, GUILT,

alot of men have be over taken by thier fleshly desires and they fill dirty and disqualified to be in church. because the ( THE WORD OF GOD IS A SWORD AND IT CUTS DEEP DOWN INTO THE SOUL ). Men see their unclothedness in church when the (REAL WORD ) is preached.

3, FEAR.

men dont want to come b4 GOD in church because they dont want trouble with GOD. they know that kind of life they live and things they do during the week so they feel its an insult for them to come before GOD.

4, SELFISHNESS.

they believe the church is after their money. they dont want to give to the pastor because they believe the offering is for the pastor.

5, LAZINESS. most men are lazy to go to church and some hate to socialize.

6, THE GOD OF SOCCER.

most men use the sundays to worship thier other god which is the god of soccer, either playing or watching.

there are countless reason but these few will do.

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i love going to church.

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cos after commiting on saturday nite,there is no reason to deceive one's self by go to church while hnowing fully well that the prayers wont be answered

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I think lager is on the right track.

I can only speak for western churches, because that is what I have studied (US, UK and western Europe) and experienced (in Australia and in Scotland) but here's what I believe to be, generally:

At some point in the history of most churches, the men of the community lost control of thier own time (work for an employer, being soldiers in a war, etc). The women of the community still had control of thier time to a larger extent (not getting down on women here or downplaying the importance of the roles they fulfil).

So,having greater control of thier time, women did a lot of the necessary 'work' of the church, and over time ministries were set up/adapted to reflect thier needs and what is most enjoyable or comfortable for them. The church was effectively feminised, given a woman's touch, to the point that many men no longer feel comfortable, sometimes to the point of feeling unwelcome.

This is in no way suggesting that women are bad. It becomes a vicious circle: the church is feminized, thereby becoming more attractive to women, attracts more women, and thereby becomes more feminised.

The forms of worship, I believe show the point most clearly. Take alook at the old hymns. Many are adapted sea shanties, pub songs, war marches and the likes. Contrast this with the newer songs, like hillsong (just an example). Many of these are adapted popular style love songs, not appealing to your average male.

This is only an example mind you. The (western) church today has a very feminine feel about it in most ministries.

You want more men to go to church? Find out how they would set up a church, what they would do, and add that to what is already there. Find out what christian men do when they are NOT at church, with other men, and try incorporating some form of that in the church.

For my own part, I'm a church goer, and leader. I go to get support for the ministry God has given me, and one of those ministries is to get men (and women) back into community with each other around thier common God.

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nah, some of em go, some r just 2 lazy,

some prefere staying @home, surfing d Net n watching movies,

it's not lyk they don't lyk going!! (Some)

Well, men who hate going 2 church probably don't belive in God,

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So the men that DO go to church regularly, why do they go to church?

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many ppl start going to church when they have problems. men don't like announcing their problems. men would rather search inwards first, then go to friends b4 going to strangers (d church) for help. women usually go to where they think they can get help immediately. then they drag their husbands along.

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Who is talking 'bout Muslims and Jews goin' 2 church once in a blue moon. Anyways If they want 2 go 2 church thats their own "cup of tea".

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I guess you expect Muslims and Jews to attend church 'once in a blue moon' as well.

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No, I didn't say it has 2 be on a regular basis but occasionally or once in a blue moon .

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Why would a non-religious person choose to regularly attend church?

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If u talking about time wasting that has to do with most Nigerian churches in home and abroad. Also, I think it has to do with what they (pastor) r preaching about most time, they concentrate more on the offering. And also I don't think u have to be religious 2 go 2 church.

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my dad says dat 2 and he thinks they take a lot of time to do everthing

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Maybe they're just not religious.

Why should they have to?

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count me out, i don't go to church, but i don't think its a waste of time, I am simply lazy about it, when you can watch all the churches on TV anyway

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cos they think its a waste of time

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Oga, don't tell me u do not know,

any gathering of like and unlike minds in pursuance of the worlds oldest venture (God) can only mean two things,

1: The gathering is in need of the usual emotional rush "crusade fever" the promise of a good marriage, husband, prosperity, men just want to achieve and a lot feel time is wasted listening to a lively jock like pastor chris, when practical hustling or philantrophy is called for, men typically commune with God in thoughts, women need to show it.

2: intrinsic socializing -- because most men are hardly emotional outwardly, they can do with not going to church because it involves sitting in midst of people . women love that sort of thing,

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