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You're A Christian, Your Wife Is A Muslim. Will The Marriage Work?

It is a normal occurrence that men and women prefer to marry from within their religion circle. Will a marriage work if it happen by natural occurrence that the partners are from different religion groups i.e. Christianity and Islam.

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I have seen enough marriages where the spouses are of different faiths. Usually the wife is a Christian while the husband is a Moslem. In most cases, the kids adopt their mum's faith. It however takes a lot of tolerance on the part of the husband.

I know a prophetess whose husband is a Moslem.

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My girlfriend and i both have the same problem, its not easy to leave her religion (Muslim) because of her parents and i`m not deep into Christianity, The problem is we hardly talk about it because we don't want to spoil ore mood either.Please i`m confused.

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How can I marry someone who does not believe that Jesus Christ is not Divine? And why would I now, decide to 'compromise' for what reason? Love or money? Neither!

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It can work if they're only nominal Christians/Muslims. If they're serious in their religious beliefs, then obviously, it will not work.

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Sometimes it works, dunno how they do that and how they raise their children. Abdou Diouf, the former president of Senegal is a muslim, his wife is Catholic.

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Love will only "prevail" if both of you are not serious about your faiths and are merely nominal. Its impossible to see how "love" can conquer the fact that i cant share my prayer time with my wife . . . where i cant involve her in morning devotions with the kids, where i talk about Christ's death and resurrection and she's busy reminding me that Christ never even died in the first place.

compromise does indeed work, but its usually one of two things . . . either you compromise your marriage or your faith. you cant eat your cake and have it.

You cant be in "one accord" if you're not spiritually in tune.

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Interfaith marriage is a no no for me.

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I understand your point of view and respect it. Thank you very much for your enlightenment and opinion. I still stand by what I say. Love does prevail and compromise does work. I never said that marriages like that should happen all the time. Of course, there will be moments of disharmony. If love is not present, the marriage will definitely fail. It is better to be in a marriage where the two are in one accord. I was just trying to say that in the case that this happens, if you really love somebody, if God put a love in your heart for them, why shouldn't you be with them if you are willing to compromise. However, by compromise, I do not mean compromise your own faith. I just mean RESPECT each other and the belief therof.

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You just answered your own query. christians and muslims do not serve the same God so its hard to see where spiritual harmony can exist in a home where the couple are of both extremely polar faiths. Its impossible to be serious with a woman who's "faith" is built largely as an opposition to mine.

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Do Christians not love and serve one God? and do Muslims not love and serve one God as well? I never said that they were the same. Neither that their beliefs were the same. Certainly a Muslim does not believe in Christ the same way a Christian does. In fact, the style of worship is cleary and evidently different. But do they not love God? Who am I to criticize someone's faith? and who am I to judge?

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I do understand why you put false but I would like your explanation, please. Enlighten me.

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if there is love and understanding and complete faithfulness it will work but if it just "i love u" it will not work.

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@PHBABE

How far?

Did u marry that ur BF??

Remember ur prayer warriors thread?

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and to add,the Holy Scripture says that;'can two work 2geda if they do not agree?' whats the joy of marriage?is it not that u find companionship?hw will u fill wen u cant share your faith with the one you love or the one you are supose to spend the rest of your life with because he can not or she cannot understand or does not believe?u need someone who understands and agrees with u, God loves us and thats why He gives us instructions that are best for us.but He allows us to choose.

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Why not? Since one example is all that's needed, the answer to your question is yes. But a lot depends on the parties. If one is aggressively attempting to convert the other, then the chance of success almost always becomes reduced.

It is clearly a lack of wisdom that makes anyone write this sort of nonsense. It is foolishness; it should be beneath anyone with any wisdom.

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@Ndipe: Please quote a verse from Jesus, in the New Testament that condemns the institution of one husband with more than one wife?

@Leila: Humanist, no religion, Christianity, sm, Buhhdism, etc, all of them will lead to Jahannam, Hell fire!

Stop all this nonsense and return back to the religion that will protect you away from Allah's punihment.

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it wnt wrk.except by the mercies of God.becaues as christians we hav a clear instruction or command to kip and obey which is, "do nt be unequally yoked wit undelivers".there's no excuss 4 being unequally yoked.God nos wots best 4 us.if he says dnt,then dnt it remains.HE IS GOD,

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I wouldnt even contemplate it at all. No compromise!

To Christians who would, what would you do if your hubby brings in a 2nd wife, because his religion (Islam) approves of it?

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I have seen from both sides and it worked!

(Man: Xtian and Wife: Muslim) But wife later converted to Xtian.

(Man: Muslim and wife Xtian) at age 60+ now, I still saw her on her way to church last week.

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Do you have any questions about Christianity?

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I have thought about that and learned about that one too. I'm not convinced about that one either. I am a humanist.

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Come to Jesus

He is the saviour and will receive you and give you an assurance of salvation

john 1:12

But as many as received him, to them gave he the right to become children of God, even to them that believe on his name:

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Well i was born muslim. I was married to a beast of a muslim man before and we were both practicing at the time. However, that was NOT Islams fault. technically a muslim woman is NOT allowed to marry a non muslim regardless of whether she practices or not. I did all of what Islamically I shoudlnt have done, I moved on and remarried to an igbo non practising christian born man that why I have been disowned by the islamic community. Its usually only apostates like myself who do these things and have 'this life'-Dunya only and none in the hereafter as I am heading to hell, unless I try to repent that is. There has been times when I prayed and my daughter is not christened.  My husband knows that and accepts that. technically its wrong but sometimes love just takes over. Note* what I did is RARE.

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well,i really think is ur suggestion, if u love each other well and u intend to marry each other ,i dont c anyreason why it cant happen , except u belive dat both parties do not love themselves , but in dis situation i really think u have to settle down and ask urselves wat u want for ur family,ur children ,cus no mater what if u eventually get married the house will be divided because not everyone will want to be a muslim or christian.so i tink serious dat d decision is between both of u .if u love ur self soo much one person will have no choice but to give up his or her religion for the other, think wise , allld best and knw that it is the same GOD we worship, belive it or not but its true

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There is nothing that is impossible under the Sun.The only thing is that

one of them has to pay the price, most especially in bringing up their children.

One religion must give way to the other. AS for the relationship -IT CAN WORK.

JUST A MATTER OF UNDERSTANDING.

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It can work if they are noon-practising and nominal. However, if one is a practising christian and the other a practising I slamist, it cant work!!!

Stop decieving yourselves and stop getting into relationships that are bound for trouble. It's unlikely that you'll find any practising/true christian involved in a relationship with a mo slim anyway, except silly and greedy girls.

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@topic,

having researched the issue of marriage between a great one and the christain, I can tell you that it can work. It does work. Just like any other marriage between couples in the same religion, it can also fail.

My guardian is a great one and married a christain. But today, he is no more and the wife is still a christain.

Individual attitude and mutual understanding is the key. We must stop acting as if every marriages that have two couples in the same religion produce pious kids. The goal we seek is diversed.

I admits that it require hard work and rancour-free communication. This should be achieved during courtship. I also admits there is tendency for either of them to change faith in future. I noticed that this only work if it is done without force. It can happen either way.

My opinion is that this kind of union is no more an issue. It is in fact on the rise and it appear that those who make success of it are those who are determined to make it work. And they are many. I envy such family and pray to be part of the success story if I have the opportunity.

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2 mi they have to agree on something b4 they go ahead but to mi what really matters is the luv and every other things will surely work out.

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2 mi they have to agree on something b4 they go ahead but to mi what really matters is the luv and every other things will surely work it.

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@ The Poster

A muslim woman who truly knows just enough about the commandment of Allah Almighty, will never, and never marry a man other than a Muslim man! It is against Allah's commandment that a Muslim woman marries a christian or Jew or any other, except Muslim. The reason s are so many. The complete reason is know my the All Knower, alone.

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@ charlisco Posted by: charlisco

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see do not let any body deceive you, 4 those who intend to go into such marriage, well some people say they have seen such kind of a marriage that work out. I do not doubt it, but it is 0.9% out of every 100% so who know whether you own will be that 0.9%

To this link is an experience told by one woman who later found out what it takes to marry a muslim

http://www.faithfreedom.org/Testimonials/Jutta50426.htm

i want to attack charlisco, i read the article from this site,ad i want us to see things as the religion is a thing of the mind, the lady was happy with the religion initially and was already seeing herself moving close to God and heaven until her husband forced laws of veils and other things to her.that was when she didnt like the religion again.so we believe and love our religion if we want to. is just a thing of the mind. so i dont think religion should be obstacle to anything being it marriage,friendship or others. the obstacle people her saying is because they want to see the obstacles as obstacles and is because of the eniviroment we are.

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@poster, it is a tight one. am a christian guy married to a muslim girl.

we married in the court not giving damn about who cares, we are making it work but some of my relatives are keen on her changing and some of her relatives propounding new islamic laws that it is a sin to stay with a non muslim.

Now we have a daughter who has christian and muslim name

its been tough but our love has only waxed stronger. However it is a pending issue but it has been easier cos we are both fatherless.

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That is an absolute impossibility--personally.  Can not even dream of befriending someone, male or female who has a different view point spiritually from mine not to talk of marry. Not that adventurous.  That would bore me to death listening to his or her garbage all the time, while trying to express mine! Shoot me somebody!  What a boring life!

And boy!  Poor children!

Good luck!  Like the saying goes--with God, all things are possible.

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Marriage has to do with love.

If reall love is there no matter what is ur religion you will have a happier marriage

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Yeah, right but it can be tough.

Hotspice was right.

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muslim women don't marry men from other religions. I have never heard of any (exept for myself)

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It may work if both partners are willing to compromise the tenet of their religion. For me, I wont!

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The question bothers me a lot too , an end-trap?

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I am catholic and i married a Muslim almost two tears ago. So far so good, i don't go to the mosque and he doesn't go to my church but we do pray together to GOD. I take our 9month old baby to church, he has not tried to stop me and i know eventually he would wanna take her to the mosque. Hopefully the children can decide what they want when they are old enough. I think thats the only obstacle. I love him and he loves me unconditionally and i think that works great.

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two different religion in a marriage, don't and can't work.

Got some friends that their family was divided in to parts, christians was led by the Popsy and the muslims was led by the mumsy. In the end, the family was divided into two and everyone separated with their religion, Popsy moved abroad with the christians and mumsy is in Kaduna with the others. some love huh?

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well i think it depends on the individuals involved

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Christianity is a way of life, and not religion, not all that is accepted by the Christian faith is accepted by Islam. When there is clash of these two, there would definitely be problems, based on religious basis in the family. I don't think it can work.

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No a christian canno't marry a person of a religion. I say this because getting married draws you away from God as it is. But marrying a muslim girl will draw you away from God even more. This is because we have differen't laws and commandments from God. It won't work. Also a christian husband and a wife are orignially surpose to go to CHURCH in the presence of God to get married and ask him for permission. The christian husband will expect to go to the church and the muslim wife will expect to go to the mosque. Also if they have children, they will most likely grow up confused about christianity and islam.

A true muslim woman wouldn't even marry out of her religion anyway because it is their belief.

I am a Christian and will only marry a Christian simply for the fact that i would like me and my husband to go in the presence of God together. So that the holy spirit can live in our home. Any marriage of God works! (If you do it correctly)

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i just said this to another guy so i will say it to you too,

LISTEN MATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Every muslim will always say that it should never happen not just because of their religeous beliefs but also of their cultural beliefs of losing one of their own to an infidel. (this can also happen the other way around) THE TRUTH IS,

God would never want anything bad to happen to us and neither would he want us to suffer. This would also include leaving your dreams behind because of a culture and settling in for a less fitting option because "society says so".

LOVE WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS and if there is true love in your relationship then nothing can stand in your way, the only time it (religeon) will become a problem is if you are both set in your beliefs and start trying to convert eachother. If you respect eachother's beliefs, tolerate the things you disagree with and you truely love eachother then your love will flourish like any other relationship - regardless of background. Is religeon a problem in your relationship at the moment? has it been in the past? and if so - then to what extent? a conversation and debate is ok but arguing who is right may not help.

You both love God right? be his name Allah, Jehovah, Jah, Krishna or buddha this will not stop you from hugging her before you go to bed each night. The fact you both love God is a good thing and makes you both humble.

Personally i think it would be better than marrying in your own. A muslim girl dedicates herself to her husband unlike any other culture so you know she would never cheat, lie, steal or plan things behind you back which is the culture for alot of western women. On the flip side: traditional muslim men treat their wives as housewives - almost like objects. so the love and support you are willing to give her cannot be found in her culture either. - if you love her - the thought of her being under loved by someone else should make the hairs on your back stand upright.

Both of your cultures are amazing, beautiful and there are loads and loads you can learn from eachother about life, if you go deep into it you may just find a few things you see muslims do that christians should too and vice versa. your differences can easily add spice to things and make you better people in general.

Love is the most powerful emotion on earth. With it you can do ANYTHING. don't let it society hold you back, judge your future from your past. the only thing that should matter in this situation is that you are both happy.

I am a christian who is madly in love with a muslim and she feels the same way for me too. Our whole relationship was filled with "what shall we do" when we fell in love. a few years have since passed and we have decided to marry. we are unbelieveably young and her parents are unbelievably strict so we have alot of hiding it and waiting in our hands but its our final decision. not many people are willing to go through what we are, but we were destined and we will fight for as long as it takes and against all odds. i don't see many couples as in love as we are and our relationship has surpassed many of our friends same religeon relationships because the love we have is pure and true.

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a marriage can work irrespective of religion.when my parents met..my mum was a bhuddist and my dad a muslim.with time my dad stayed a muslim but my mum is now a born again christian.and they were together for over 30 years.

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see do not let any body deceive you, 4 those who intend to go into such marriage, well some people say they have seen such kind of a marriage that work out. I do not doubt it, but it is 0.9% out of every 100% so who know whether you own will be that 0.9%

To this link is an experience told by one woman who later found out what it takes to marry a muslim

http://www.faithfreedom.org/Testimonials/Jutta50426.htm

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i am sensing some thing about the advert google is displaying, it seem when the name muslim is mentioned in any trend google tend to put that nastradumus advert in it.

What does that mean?

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I joined your humble self in respecting and wishing them long life and more blissful marriage.

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There is no marriage made in heaven. All do experience some bumps, but as long as the ride is generally smooth, you have cause to be happy.

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