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Should I Come Back To This Hopeless Nigeria?

It is now exactly 2 weeks since I got into the United States of America on a tourist visa organized by my wonderful fiancée (of many years standing) who works with a travel agency in Lagos. Two agonizing weeks of utter confusion and indecision about coming back to Africa, I mean Nigeria, Lagos to be precise. I am not sure I have been able to catch more than a couple of hours sleep daily in the last 2 weeks trying to decide what in God’s good name I should do with my life. Two days from today, my official leave from my office in Lagos finishes and my ‘non refundable, unchangeable and lowest priced return ticket expires. Should I come back?

I am a medical doctor working in one of the highest paying medical jobs in Lagos at slightly above 100k a month, have held this job for just a few months now, and it has been my best job ever. Prior to starting work in this heavenly place, I was doing three (yes, three) jobs, 8am to 5pm(daily for 55k), 8pm to 7am (daily for 35k) and alternate weekends (Saturday 8am to Monday 7am for 7k), altogether 97k/month for doing three jobs. There are nights when I don’t get any sleep at all, days that I spend dosing while attending to patients and weekends that offer no respite whatsoever to my stress ridden work schedule. I have a car, (which my 13 year old niece hails as an ‘accident waiting to happen’) that ferries me to all these different hospitals where I work, several times in the past I have contemplated parking the car and using the horrible transport system in Lagos so I can save money on the maintenance of my vehicle: however, a personal experience with the popular ‘one chance’ bus robbers and several gory tales from my friends about this innovative robbers scare me so much that I continue sinking money into the car to keep it on the road.

Ever since I suffered a humiliating beating in the hands of mobile police thugs escorting a VIP, the sight of policemen gives me the jitters. The funny thing is that I got the beating after one of the sleek cars in the convoy brushed my jalopy, I heard the siren and quickly parked my car off the road, the VIP car still managed to come and hit me and I got beating black and blue for that, if I had been the one at fault would I still be alive today?

I am fed up of this country, everything just sucks, there is no way forward in this country. I am so Confused, should I really come back or become an illegal allien in yankee?

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I guess you didn't read through the responses, or check post dates?

The original poster, Blablabla returned to Nigeria over 3 years ago.

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O'boy, "no show 4 9ja oooooo". Stay & hussle there. U'll make it in d nearest future even as an illegal immigrant (amen), someday,sometime, u go get ur papers. To wash dead body no be crime afta all, oyibo dead body no fit do any tin, if him try play hard,slap d dead body and him go relax je je. Oyibo dead body sabi fear black wel wel becos of our horrible look. All d best!

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ill advice u not to come bak 2 naija.at least u have a practical experience urself.d int'l community luks down on naija,nigerians demselves dont like dia country,if i have d opportunity 2 choose my place of birth certainly not naija.even govt officials no dis place sucks if not wen some govt officials r ill y do some govt officials travel 2 saudi arabia 4 treatment,some even travel 4 just ordinary chek up.if u r in a place even though its not ur country n dey r treating u well y come bak 2 a place were u dont know wot happens d next minute-fuel issues,armed robbery,kidnaping etc.even some of my naija friends dat r ordinary receptionist dont want 2 come bak because dey r living so com4tably.wen naija turns in2 shambles i wount be here again ill rather be wworking 2 improve another countrys economy because dey care bout my future,im only sorry 4 dose govt officials children who r placed in good places cos,dey wont have anytin 2 feast on

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nigeria is nt hopeless

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Iit's really depressing thinking about it.

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baby,

please tell me,

where shall our deliverer come from?

the PDP, AD, APGA or is it ANPP?

no,no, now I know where! an independent candidate ABI?

remember my theory, on an individual level, every Nigerian working with God has hope, can redeem him/herself, but the corporate entity Nigeria is HOPELESSLY HOPELESS

if you have not been to europe or the americas,

bid your time until you get there

then you can feel the overwhelming wrath I feel,

towards all the people who have ever been in Government, and had the privelegde of visiting these countries only to come back come chop money,seun, forgive me, but I think they all should be taken out and shot

may the Good Lord deliver all of us.

AMEN

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guy cos u r out there aint mean nigeria is hopeless u dont use stuffs like that.mind u there aint no place like home.

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american economics is designed in such a way that if u r illegal and make more money that a legal resident, u might be caught. for example, if u spend a lot of money buying things with your credit card, it will appear on ur credit report and they can trace u from there, if u buy with cash, that is safer but still not too safe becasue u will have to put the money in a bank, even still risky cos the bank can question ur income

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my dear u.k has blocked the road for foreign doctors. it is easier to get a u.k visa as a student than as a doctor. they will soon block the road for nurses too.

the west(us,uk,eu,canada,australia,new zealand)is tightening their grip on immigration.i tell u this.it is obvious in the air and what most people here in wales wont want to hear from foreigners is that you want to settle in their land.u feel it everyday,u are not welcome anymore,if they had their way the y would want most foreigners out.they may want to retain those who do menial jobs only.

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question for you blablabla! how, when, where, what, who? I think Kokscity got it in control! go ahead bros! ask am for me!

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We all been dey here dey yearn blablabla to blablabla while blablabla get him own plans! anyhow shaa! nothing wrong in seeking oppinion! hey blablabla, its our pleasure to be able to assist! and good luck with all those certificates and awards wey no take you time get in America! that one confuse me oh! one plus one no be two again? abi they don change am?

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hmmmmn,that visa may not be easy to get again o. as for sweeping the streets etc,once u are a doctor,u know ur worth,just patience and kaput,u are there.humility will aid him get there,it is called,stooping to conqer,it is called sacrifice

it is worth it.

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welcome back kokscity.i never knew u were banned.been looking for u.

blablabla,against my advice u still went home.well i respect ur decision but i have only one thing to say.

BIG MISTAKE

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welcome back kokscity.i never knew u were banned.been looking for u.

blablabla,against my advice u still went home.well i respect ur decision but i have only one thing to say.

[b][/b][/size][size=8pt[size=8pt]BIG MISTAKE

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@ Blablabla

I'm glad you came to a decision. I know the future will treat you well.

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@Blablabla

U are a medical doctor abi? U understand how hypothesis works abi? I am poking holes in your story and it is not passing the "Smell Test". Ur Visa did not expire and i never said it did. Your story gives me the impression that you had a Single Entry B1/B2 Visa, and an Apex Ticket that restricts your travel dates abi? But your dates/time frame, and all the sensationalism of the whole story all does not make sense. Well Others may disagree, but i think you are not telling the whole story. I think there is some gap in your story, and i you have yet to satisfy my itch.

It is Usual for Kokscity to "think out of the box".

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Dude

Your first post was on the 10th of March and that means you arrived Nigeria today the 13th abi? My brother your Apex ticket would have forced you to leave on the 12th of March, putting you in Lagos on the 13th. And you said your I-94 gave you "SOMETHING PLUS YOUR 14DAYS".

Dude I live in the US, and have done so for many many years. I am not one of those JJC's that you can throw a story to and i will buy. You are in Nigeria now abi? Then tell me what Hazmat Training and what state you were in from Feb 26th when u arrived to March 12th when your Apex Ticket forced you to leave. U story just does not add up and i am will be the first to tell u that! Others may have just responded for the sensational value, but i need facts.It will not harm you in anyway to tell me what Hazmat training you came for and in what state in the Union u were in.

Kokscity is still scratching his head!!!!!

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banning ke?

why would I lie? to who? for what?

kokscity, did I say anything about my visa expiring in my first post?

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i wish i could give you the specifics,

but nairaland is no mans land, circumspection is wisdom in this case.

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@Blalalala

Dude i still do not believe your story, it is very sensational, but your dates and story does not add up.I am sorry!!

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originally, I came for a course on hazmat training, and all my certifications, the intention had always been to come back, but the orderliness and efficiency of the health system really tempted me, and that was why I got confused,

I got only 14 days from the office, my ticket was for 14 days stay, my I-94 still has all the days plus my 14, but what would I stay to do, and men, I dont want to work 3 jobs no more, I do my single 100k job and do my runs from the side and plan for a better, longer visit next time.

if I had stayed my 6 months, next visa application becomes sort of dicey, the gamble? do you think I dont have nightmares about the worst case scenario?

but kokscity, GOD is on my side.

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@Blalala

U are lucky that i was banned when you were asking the question. I think u made a mistake to go back. Like you said, Nigeria is absolutely hopeless and will fail you again. It is appalling that as a Doctor on the beat, you make about $700 per month. Please save the patriotic Bull$hit, i think you failed your offsprings with that gamble you just made. Depending on what state in the US u were in, i think u could have asked the right questions and been able to make stuff work.

But on the other hand, a part of me feels that you have not yet travelled, because some parts of your story has strange holes. When you enter the country you are given a I-94 that allows you to stay for 6months per visit. Then you said your vacation time was up in two weeks and that you were looking for a reason to stay longer. Then all of a sudden you now have all these new skills and certifications. I personally do not believe you came yet, or if you did, u have not left.

Kokscity has a sixth sense!!!

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@Virozuru

Come back girl! Nairaland needs your opinions. Happy Birthday too

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I was shocked when i found out that u unbanned my A$$! Wow! what got into you?

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There's a Dedicated Nairaland Advert Forum. You can also use your signature like I use mine.

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she got pissed off at seun new rules and the way restriction applies here. So she left. We cerebrated her birthday yesterday. Some people cant just stand restriction and i dont blame her,

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Hey Mocha

What did i miss? Where is my girl Virozuru!

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Hey Guys

Guess what? I was Banned for a while and all of a sudden, Kokscity got unbanned!!!!!

Funny how Seun Operates!

Well Kokscity is Back with his foul mouth and controversial opinions.

@Seun

Why did u let me back on NL?

I am shocked @ u. I guess you saw the light huh?

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Good to see you returned, like I said earlier, a change like that requires more than 2 weeks of planning/consideration.

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well, I dont want to get into specifics, but am now sort of a small expert in HAZMAT operations, I have a hot new software from the US, EPA, I may be one of the few people who know about it in Nigeria, The other certifications and devices have to do with acute medical emergencies, This forum does not allow adverts, so I will leave it at that, am also not allowed to put my email here so, Seun over to you, how do I go to specifics without breaking the rules?

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have you sampled the jails in AMArica? better come back and continue with your 100k + jobs. People are living large with 30k and you are complaining.

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even rent prices in those places have started to mutilate and evolve to somn more than all men can afford without drinking small garri

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Mr oasis, i think i will get a profile in your website hehe. Remember you helped me in my online research? I still remember well. Regarding the price you mentioned, I will be moving to manhattan in april, average one bedroom apartment in manhattan is $1800 per month, so it will not be a place for illegal aliens, however if he still want to be in the city, then maybe brooklyn or northern Jersey will be a good option to get low cost share housing,

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Legal status is very important in America.  Everything rides on your social security number, and if you don't have one legally, Nigeria is a better option.

I don't really know how hard it is to get work as an illegal alien.  An estimated 20 million Mexicans live in the US illegally.  They're all working.  How is that possible?  Well, Mexicans are known to create fake documents and sell them to illegals, or they may use legal papers of relatives.  Since, most employers don't check legal status, the fake papers work.  Also, illegal aliens can apply for a work-only social security card, to enable them pay taxes to the USA.

I don't think America deports illegal aliens, except in rare circumstances where the person is considered a threat to national security.  Getting into America is the difficult part.  Once you're in, you're ok.

However, as an illegal alien, employers will try to take advantage of you, even if they don't know your immigration status.  Only people living legally can fight them in such cases. Also, you can't get a driver's license without legal status, and it's tough in America if you don't drive.

Most illegal aliens earn minimum wage - about $6 an hour ($12,000 a year, working 40 hours a week).  After taxes, you may take home less than $10k.

If you're not staying in cities like NY or LA, a typical studio apartment costs $500/month to rent.  If you share an apartment, it'd cost about the same.  By the time you pay for transportation, gas, electricity, phone, cable tv, laundry, food, etc, you're left with nothing.

So, you have to take up extra jobs to make ends meet.  With another part-time job + weekend jobs, you can probably take home another $10,000 a year.  But trust me, you'd be returning home each day tired as a dog.

My advice is to return to Nigeria, and plan for another strategy.  Maybe try to get into a nursing school in America.  Since America is experiencing an acute shortage of nurses, chances are good that after graduation, a hospital would petition for legal status on your behalf.  They're allowed to do that.  Nurses earn at least $50,000/year as fresh graduates, and they work a ton of overtime hours too.

But the other problem is how to get a student visa in Nigeria to study in a nursing school, when you're already a medical doctor.

Your other option is to start a relationship with an American (http://www.oasisoflove.com). She has to come to Nigeria at least once to see you. After that, you can obtain a fiancee visa to enter the US. After marriage, green card, then naturalization.

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you have been in the us for only a couple days and already you see life can be much better than in nigeria. This . . .sadly, cannot really be disputed that much.

What I suggest is that you think long and hard about the direction you want your life to go and the impact you would like to make on nigeria. If you really don't care about nigeria too much, and feel that life for yourself is a much more important goal, then nigeria is probably not the place for your. As a medical doctor, you will be in a much better position in the USA than nigeria.

If on the other hand, you plan on making some impact on Nigeria, you will have to determine how you plan on doing that? As a doctor, your are also in a great position to do that, by giving quality healthcare, not cheating your patients, etc. You can also work at mentoring younger doctors to follow your example, constantly work towards changing the leadership in nigeria through legal democractic non-corrupt processes.

There are many factors that go into this decision and if you're serious, should probably not be taken lightly.

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ol'boy I must really feel your pain oh I never write this kind long psalm before! Anyhow shaa! Also look into some job program that can admit your on work visa! they have such program in Canada! but bros whatever you do don't let your visa or i-94 expire on you! you can't extend or exchange any expired status/Visa them go say make you go your home town go do that!

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Listen Bros! if anyone here tell you that life is easy in America whether on visa or illegally, that person is lying! and if anyone here also tell you that you'll not survive in America, that person is also lying! America will make you or break you it all depend on you. 100K in Nigeria is a big money and at the same time a small money depend on what you're satisfied with. 7yrs ago before coming to America I was making almost double of that working with a construction company. I got a 3months visa to America and didn't even leave Lagos till after about 6weeks leaving me with about 6weeks visa left. I had sleepless night in a New York hotel thinking exactly the same thing you're thinking right now (should I stay or go back to Nigeria) even after my vacation in Nigeria expired I had someone call my boss saying I have serious cold and I need doctors attention for another 5 weeks just to buy more time from my job while I was still thinking of what to do. Every siren that goes by seems and sound like they're coming for me! My return ticket expired but the air-line said I can still use it and pay some extra money. I did some research and found out that you can extend visa while in America (Do you have your I-94? that's good for 3months and can be extended once before expiration) I extended mine for 3months and before it expired, I exchange my visa to a difference status (F-1 student) they gave me 3yrs. That wasn't easy too you have to have someone that is willing to sponsor your education and ALL other expenses cux you're not allowed to work under student visa, you're not qualify for financial aid, and don't even think of scholarship after all that visa switching.  I got a job on campus which allows only 20hours a week and pays minimum wage about $6 an hour. I did almost any job you can think of from mauling grass in the Summer to snow Shoveling in the Winter, ice-cream selling in the Summer to cab driving in the Winter! all these is to raise money for school (3times native American student fee) and ofcox folks at home! YOU MUST BE IN SCHOOL or else you lose your visa status and working outside campus is illegal and can get you on the next flight so I did all these jobs cux you don't need a work permit to do them all you need is a valid Drivers license. To cut stories short, I went through hell just to see if the other side leads to heaven. I've been a U.S cityzen for almost 2yrs now, I have a full time job that pays about $38K and part time that I make about $9Kplus a year so do the math. I'm still working on my degree so bros like someone already said here, the shoe is on your foot! It worked for me, I'm very! very!! very!!! happy and I'm sure most immigrant here are too! My only regret was my fiance back home things changed between us! I don't know how you're going to handle things with yours but all the same, GOOD LUCK!

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i dont know if you should stay or go. my humble advice is to return.

if you go back to naija, you can still return to the states as a doctor. spend the rest of your time here MEETING & NETWORKING W/ everyone and anyone who will hear you but ESPECIALLY[b] DOCTORS[/b]. look into post-bacc. programs. (the one at the University of Penn is great! as well as UCONN or Johns Hopkins). don't worry about those who tell you that it's a waste of money. i have uncles & cousins who are doctors in the U.S. let me tell you if the post-baac program leads you to be a doc in the U.S. then it's worth it. i have a friend & both her parents trained as doctors in Nigeria and then came here. they had to re-train or whatever but they both say that it was worth it.

i dont know what state you are in, but go into a hospital and ask questions about their residency program. see if you can apply for their residency program etc. i'd advise that you go and ask face to face and do not leave w/o contact information. (this means phone number, email, & mailing address!!!) do this w/ several hospitals b/c then when you go back to NAIJA you will know what to look for, how to contact people, how to address them and even what questions to ask. if you do this. if you pursue it doggedly i KNOW that you will make a friend or someone to champion for you!!! meanwhile, back in NAIJA work hard as usual. that way, when it's time to get a recommendation there will be NO PROBLEMS.

my advice. go back to nigeria and re-enter legally w/ your financee/wife. this may take 2 years but I believe it will be worth it! please, tell us what you decide.

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someone said u can earn 100k in yankee with menial jobs and all that. see na there u suppose look as ur life take do summersault back to the boondocks.

small math lesson for we. 100k=less than 1000 dollars a month. how u wan take pay bills or u go squat with person like say u dey unilag newest hall. the person wey advice u to do menial jobs till u get legit. u better ask his Bottom how u would get the menial job o b4 him run. cos obviosly him get crystal ball wey him don see say menial job don dey ground wey dey wait for u. i can go on and on but they say "eni ti o ba aja rin a je gbe" SHIKENA!

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can work if you meet certain criteria, and it will be in the field that you are going to school for, not some cleaning job as you wrongly assume. Besides the school visa is only temporary, while you search for an employer to take you on afterwards.

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blablabla, like my people will say "ma se blabla".

You got to the US on a tourist VISA, the next sensible thing for you to do is to exit the country honourably by going to your country at the expiration of your VISA.

If you decided to stay behind you automatically become one of those that have been ruining the chance(s) of thousands of people that are daily refused VISA to the US.

If you are caught you risk not been able to enter the US for the next 10 years if not forever. With what i heard the congress is planning you may face (a) treasonable charge(s) if you are caught as an illegal immigrant.

Don't be carried away about what you see right now. When you fit into the system you will know it's not as easy as it seems.

You caid you are earning 100k/per month (after tax/expenses i presume), how i wish i can be going home with that per month.

With that if you can do some investments am sure you are on your way to ridding a [i]fly [/i]SUV in no time.

Think before you leap, you stand a better chance of securing another VISA to the US if you come back without been deported.

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@blablabla

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The number mistake is that you waited for too long before you sought for advise. You should have asked for such advise before making the trip, maybe you could have gotten some advise, better than now that you are in a fix and your visa is almost expiring. You might have even gotten some good-samaritans who might fix things up for you before you arrive. I know Nigerians are a whole lot of nice people, aiint they.

so you wanted to go to America and twas your big dream, and now you're finally there, and so whats next,, do you come back or do you stay?

Unlike many of the yankee based posters who advised you to go-back-home because of a whole lot of reasons(suffer suffer that they/their friends have endured/are enduring(pls im sorry for that), or events they might have witnessed some nigerians passing through, and for which they bid you a caution(thank them for that)), and others from our nija brodas/sistas who say come back to home-sweet-home because of similar reasons(the hardship that 'illegals' in the US pass through, that they have witnessed or heard/read about), but perhaps in their heart of hearts, if they were to be in your position, they wont be asking for advise on nairaland, rather they would just disappear into the American thin-air, in a hope to pursue their own American dream, like my man 'sage' said, since you are wearing the shoe now, you better sit down, think hard(weighing all the pros and cons) and if you know your liver cant handle what may befall you as an over-staying african - an illegal immigrant to be precise(as has been postulated and itemized by other posters), you better get on the next plane bound for nija.

HOW MANY OF US WITHIN AND WITHOUT NIGERIAN SHORES HAVE A "NIGERIAN DREAM"?

is it not a hopeless situation, that even if you have such a dream, you'll gather for yourself a lot of enemies who wont allow you to realize it, and so you'll be forced to adopt the dreams of another land yonder? its a shame,

Back to you my broda on the other hand, if you want to damn the consequence and you feel in your deepest heart of heart that you can make it, abeg, stay put where you are. Where there is a will, there is a way, even in America.

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Now that you are already there, if things dont work out: as in,, if you cant arrange yourself a job, an extended stay, a wife(your girl here will be mad) - i dont advise you to do this anyway, or become a student, do MCAT etc, as @ajadudu advised, if all those things are not possible in your limited time, I would adivse you to come back while the sun still shines. My reason for the advise is that you entered legally, and at least to prevent deportation(a big shame, and which will lead to future visa denials), come back and plan your strategy wellu wellu. Then launch out again. The next time you go applying for a visa, you would have a "credibility level", and you would be well prepared mentally, and properly networked.

A lot of nija dudes will be happy to have a good-samaritan, boyfriend-loving girlfriend who would go all the way to arrange them a U.S visa. So at least, if you come back legally, it wont be difficult for her to arrange you another one, and by then both of you would have planned your getaway, if you really want to leave nija shores.

You see, the best thing is to be in a position that if you want to leave the country at any time, you would be opportuned to, but to have your name on some blacklist somewhere aiint nothing to delve into, besides, once your name enters into their blackbook, you bet sure you might not be able to get visas to Europe.

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For all those who are advising you that since you are making 100k in Nija, then everything is cool and rosy, dont bother about them. A 100k for a medical doctor, to me is trash. A nurse, a psychologist and other professions lesser than yours in the medical caliber earn more than you do, and yet they might not know as much as you know.

On a more serious note, I think if your wanting to stay put in the U.S is for the purpose of furthering your career and professional exposure, then i would encourage you to better look into the academic areas/linkages while in yankee land. The fact that our academic institutions here in Nija are a national-disaster, working your Bottom out in nija for a 100k when the world is moving on to the next level is not what you should be content with. I have a medical doctor brother too, who once told me of an experience he had delivering a baby and suddenly, NEPA resumed duty, and the nurse quickly had to assist him with a lantern and all he was shouting at her then was not to allow the lanterns kerosine to pour unto the fresh-baby and her mothers u-know-what, however, the nurse brought the lantern so close because none of them could see, besides that the lantern's shade was all blacked out, etc. now, you dont want to be living in such an environment, do you, nothing works in nija, we all know that.

Ten years from now, if you were to become a great scientist in the USA, these same nigerians who told you to go back/come back would gather together and be reading about you in the newspaper,,,,,saying,s yes o, thats the son of our soil, and you'll become everyones 'broda', blablabla, on the other hand, if you are deported and your face appears on the frontpage, its the same nigerians that will still gather together, reading the papers, and start calling you all sort of names,

If you have a vision and are ready to sacrifice, you'll get there man, no sweat. Not even george bush can stop yah.

What have i been saying? Home is where the heart is, if your heart is in nija, then come back, else if its outside these shores, then find where it is. Just make sure you do the legit. goodluck!!!

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blablabla,

this is coming in late but by american time, you're in the afternoon. just board that plane tomorrow and come back home. i believe you're a young man and if you're not looking in the right places, then you'll have a messy life. you choose your own destiny so don't think mine or any other person's is meant for you.

and stop insulting this country on a site like this no matter how bad it is. you should be aware that non-nigerians are members and some just browse through. that's a very bad headline you put up there.

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Well said.Go back to Nija,u even stand a better chance of getting visa if u want to go back to the US later on.And as a doctor,the US is the place to be,though legally.

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my advise to you is to return to Nigeria and get on with your life.When Amearica's own problems emerge, where will you run to?Are you tellling me that people are not dong well in Nigeria at all?Where did we get all these thought from? NIgeria may have her problems o but it is not that hopeless.look around you and try to find out why most of the CEOs are not leaving Nigeria after their terms.They are seeing oppurtunities in all the chaos we are complaining about.

My friends and I started our on business in Nigeria without knowing anyone and we are still in business today.we are not where we really wnat to be but we are not where we used to be.I really dont know what is wroing wit our generation. where are the men with guts?

First, come back home and change your circle of friends.Get mentors who have made significant progress and learn from them.The key to your success is within you-it is not outside you.

In the words of Late Benson Idahosa, If you are a lizard in Nigeria, going to America ill not make you a crocodile.

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I'll keep it simple.

Go back, and if you really MUST in the US or anywhere in the western world, do it legally,

The worst way to live you life over here is illegally. You will always be looking over your shoulders, and the fine life you crave may just pass you by.

@IjebuMan

You nailed it, At least 4 me.

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my humble step-grandpa ayo used to say "cut your coat according to your material" look bros. me i wont tell u not to stay illegally o. but what i'll tell u is once u stay illegal u kind of jump started unlimited misery. because all men are citizens and we still finding rubbish difficult. don't even ask me how many times a week i dream about being in naija. where i can live each day not worrying about tomorrow. where u could party and not worry about "oh i gotta be a work by 5am" i wont even start spilling all the classic stories i built in my quest to relax and enjoy life. how all men would party till 5am and still have to get to work by 7am till 6pm

long story short, u stay illegal u gonn be under the radar for everything. basically u'll be living a lie. u can't do nothing with yourself. aiight u get an off the book job, u can't put your money in the bank because what they'll ask for u don't have. yes u'll have friends that might be able to open up an account for u in their name but one lil argument and they'll want to take your money hostage.

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There is no option about this situation, american dream as a doctor pays a lot but i tell you, you will not have time for other life responsibility. You will sign a document here in the us to love your job more than any other thing becasue you are dealing with life hence most doctors in the us have relationship problem.

If you thinking of making plan to study here, then start concidering this even better marry a female doctor who can comperhend with you when it starts. I know this for sure cos my uncle is a medical surgeon and they are the highest paid profession in the US but even at that, there is no happiness !

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Let your focus be on the where you are going and not the things you see around you today or where you are coming from. As Ajadudu said, it may take some time, give it your best and be patient; you will get there.

Mix with the right folks, network with Naija Doctors and find out how things really work. Don't let brick-layers tell you how to build an aircraft.

By the way never describe our motherland "Hopeless". As long as their is life, their is hope, as long as we exisk as a nation, there is hope. We may have hopeless leaders today but that does not make our Nigeria Hopeless. I have a dream that one day, Nigeria will be the best country to live in.

Nigeria we hail thee!!!

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