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Office Romance: Would you date your colleague?

Hi guys, what if you fall in love with one of your colleagues? Would you run away because you both work with the same company? What if you cannot help what you both feel? How would you relate with each other in the office? Would you rather have an open-secret relationship?

Well, I have ever found myself in this situation. It all started with the guy becoming a thorn in my flesh. He was always disturbing me. I did not know then that he had any intention of proposing. I did not see it coming anyway not until the day he asked me on phone what I felt for him.

He could not hide his feelings anymore so he did propose. I gave him so many flimsy excuses and reasons why we could not date but he said we were surely going to work things out.

We really had a nice time. Most of my colleagues did not know because we were so discreet about it. Our mode of communicating then was through SMS when other colleagues were around.

Anyway, it was good while it lasted. We are still the best of friends.

So tell me, would you date your colleague?

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73. kristos(m): Quote Post

dating your colleague is not advisable from a professional point of view, as earlier posters have advocated, personal issues are are bound to be brought into the workplace thereby lowering productivity. It also brings distractions to the parties involved.

No try am, never has a good ending

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This one is just lust

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dating your colleague is not advisable from a professional point of view, as earlier posters have advocated, personal issues are are bound to be brought into the workplace thereby lowering productivity. It also brings distractions to the parties involved.

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@lape

transfer to a diffrent dept or branch

think and plan to MOVE.

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I want have d experience ooo pls everybodi wish me success now haba wetin!!!!!

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men chinedum, ya own ruff oh!!!

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Keep off it - that a bad thing to do

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Don't try it!

I once tried it and lost all I had as dignity. I was so much respected at my work place. My superiors even consulted me b/4 taking decisions. Until I dated a Youth Corps member serving in my office. The guy on the other seat, another corps member was her man. And she would lure me to follow her to her appartment since I was living far from our work place. This guy would come lurking.

One of her fellow corps members revealed the secrete to me. She told me of the plans the guy had with her friends to corner me on one of those visits and bath me with blows.

I mellowed to find out the truth. Eventually, I discovered they were realy going out and thus hung the relationship. That was my greatest mistake as this girl insulted me both on and off the office.

I had to resign my job.

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hell no,

why u shud do u date someone and tryin to hide?

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Its all about acting and covering ur tracks very well!!!!!!!!

Office romance energises work, increase productivity and helps to work late hmnnnnnn

u dress exceptionally well expecting hmnnnnnnnnn the compliments, on d phone dat is!

, d phone bitsoh i remember the codes 143, the expectations and the feeling that love is always close

the secret text messages and notes, the early morning smiles and chuckles,

the late night's good bye kisses, the roses and flowers,

and when u travel for training and cobferences ,,,,,,,,,,,,its honeymoon paid for by the company ,

u behave nicely knowing ur babe is around

no flying off d handle or office conflicts, theres always a check

u re always well taken care of and u get mystery gifts ,

give it a trial , its worth experiencing but draw the boundaries,

no long thing in d office toilet, I am for ofice romance anyday

all d best

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I try will do wel dating a collegue because i good with draw the lines and all!

if i have to see them after a break up no quams!

Join the moment while it last!

But no way it's going to overwrite my duties!

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i wudnt date ma colleague, not even ma classmate!

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I'm married to someone i met and dated at work.

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Office romance- fun but risky. In good taste its just best to avoid office romance.

What happens when it end in bad blood?

U r going to be putting ur job and ur colleagues in a very uncomfortable position. If u can help it don’t get involved with someone in ur office. Trust me, u don’t want to be the topic of everybody’s conversation.

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deres nothing wrong in dating ur colleague as long as ur both single

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Woouh! Just wait a minute. I have been in a management position and saw what happened when you have a husband and a wife work in the same company. Bad things occur, sometimes.

Each person becomes preoccupied with the affairs of the other and leaves the company's business undone. Couples become too protective of each other on the job. What happens at home, good or bad, is prolonged at work. If they had a fight last night at home, they continue that at work. If they were teamed up to complete an assignment on the job, imagine what happens to the work at hand when one is not speaking to the other. Jealous partners spoil harmony on the job too. It is hard for some partners to watch other guys or women flirting with their best halves.

I am afraid, it is not that feasible for two individuals to fall in love on the job. There are issues affecting the company too that must be worked out before either says "I do".

With kind regards,

ALHAMBRA

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Office romance as far as am concern shouldn't be encouraged, cos apart from bringing yourself low it also gives you a feeling of insecurity and all that. Especially if the relationship never work out eventually.....................then you'll feel used.

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Noone seems to have asked this question... why can't a teacher marry his student? (In advance countries of course)

Because it is unethical. So is dating a colleague!

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I DONT SEE ANYTHING WRONG IN DATING A COLLEAGUE BUT IT HAS TO DO WITH MATURITY BECAUSE THE ORGANISATION MUST NOT SUFFER BECAUSE OF YOUR LOVE .IF YOU CAN HIDE YOUR EMOTIONS IN THE OFFICE ,I WOULD ADVICE YOU NOT TO BE INVOLVED IN IT

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though it depends on the parties involved, but generally it shuold not be encouraged. There are bound to be frictions and stress for both parties. what happens if you are no longer interested in the person or you suspect someone else of being interested in your partner.

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a busy company would not allow it since both parties might loose concentration due to their private affairs. what if she annoys you and still you're supposed to work together. so many reasons it's not proper. but to be factual, love is love. anyone can fall in d situation helplessly

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one of the best adventures you can ever have.Company policy or no policy ,the most important thing is your modus operandi.if you want to date a colleague and enjoy the relationship,you have to plan your strategies;1.Don't date anybody that would kiss and tell

2.Don't change your attitude to-wards him/her at the office

3.Work out a code of communication while in the mist of other colleague

4.Don't question attachment to other colleagues.

for those looking for how to start it,my advise is that you should start by complementing.This way other colleagues wouldn't know especially in an organization with policy.Lunch is no go area,others would see your destination before you start. Good luck.

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I dont think it is a right thing to do cos there's no how jealousy wont come up.As a lady/guy,there's no hw u wont have someone to admire u n for d fact dt u have a girl/guy there wont give u d free chance of interactin with others(since u wouldntwant him/her to be thinkin abt sth else.)So i believe one wont be free.

But for those dt can handle it well,success!!!

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"You are the fire that burns the passion within my soul."

"Love is the passion that u guys feel inside of ur hearts that u can't hide. u pretend to hide it, but it burns u more and more until the pain grows and grows and it never ends."

"Be patient wild eyes.Soon will come a storm to tame you.Let ur winds surround him. Match him fury and let fires reign.There is no escape.Nature means what he does

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i dont feel office romance is comfortable wit me because there will be no privacy,respect for each other ie among d couples involved because outsiders will like 2 know wats happening especially if theres a quarrel

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WHAT ARE THE PROCEDURES NOW!!

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I would...but i wouldn't wanna. If i realise i love the guy..i'd do it.

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To be frank is not advisable. cos there are so many things involved here you can,t bear to see him or her talk to another girl or boyin the office without geting jealous.

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so what are the procedures for office toasting u experts

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I once dated a colleague. Or rather she dated me, cos she didd all the toasting and who was I to say no? I was actually leaving that job for another one so theere was no complications.

We did stay together for a while but after I discovered some stuff about her, it purely became physical on my part, not that she minded though. And I can confirm that all the stuff and wharreffa you have heard about calabar/ akwa ibom girls are damn right.They sure put you thru a wringer. But that isint a bbad thing

The memories..................

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If i see one in my office, nothing will stop me from not dating her,

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it works out for those who are not infatuated.

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I don't think the relationship will last.

I know what I'm saying here.

If eventually both of you are knitted together by the nuts of love, its just a matter of time................................

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Nothing bad as long as you are both single. (make sure you are both not breaking anyone's heart sha!)

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Hmnnn Tayolecturer! Experienced & Expert advice.

Or may I say professional advise?

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Matrix, why don't you start by taking her out for lunch?

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For me I would say no because it's too much of a risk. Sure their no sin in it but because there's no sin doesn't mean that it's the best thing to do. It can be difficult at times to separate your personal life from your professional life. What happens if you start having problems? you see each other at work and your not talking. Everyone knows your business now. What if one of you becomes jealous of something and make a big scene at work? what happens if you break up and still have to see each other when you may want to heal? what if one of you starts seeing another person at work? I mean not to just look at the negative side of it but there is a lot to consider. Where is the time for your personal life to exist outside of each other. You spend 8 hours a day at work and then I'm sure more time outside of work. Personally I don't want to see my husband that much unless he's sick and needs help. Even when he's retired I would hope he has a Hobie that he does regularly to keep him interested in his self so that we don;t smother our relationship.

that's is just my take and yes I have had an experience of dating a co worker and it didn't work out but that's another story and I didn't consider any of the things I mentioned.

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Am working on having an affair with a colleague of mind, how should i do this....First time I wanna try this out

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I have done it before it is no big deal. We were friends for a long time and lovers for a short while. When I told her we should return the relationship back to the platonic level, she no gree said it was ALL OR NOTHING.

It is however not advisable if the person is working directly under you, it spoils work no matter how you play it.

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Hi guys, so toya is havin full fun every where anyhow. carr on gurl,

I think is not bad havin fun with ur office fellas,

enjoy if u are in the mode, coz i am too.

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Don't try it because it last long. You could see Tayo's own becoming a mirage.

Such relationships don't last it's just love of infantuation.

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Ejyro - well, i don't see anything wrong in dating a colleague. As rightly commented by tayotina, one's life partner can be found anywhere, even in a bus while travelling. If it leads to marriage in the end, then praise be to God, and even if one of couple have to loose his or her job, it's ok. Provided you already have a good gift from God.

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Well I did try it and man was I burned. Even though the guy was in the head office and I in a branch office...inshort it is not advisable. Worse when you are in the SAME office...when the romance kaputs..hostility and discomfort abounds. Not worth the trouble at all..not worth the trouble...

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wow, If we were to be proffesional about this.. Office love is really a Distraction. Personal issues would be brought to the office.

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depends on a lot of factors...most likely MAYBE.but i'll prefer a low profile 'runs'

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Hey guys,

I see no differences dating your co-worker because God has made it so that a man and a woman can be together.

with the ideal knowing full well that a women was brougt out of a man ribs. It's kind of scare to say that a women should date his co-worker - if she is already married then she should not date her co-worker - but she should respect the happiness and peace of her home and keep herself pure.

I know it kind of hard but the person just have to do it for the reason that she is one flesh with the husband now. And in the case of a woman who is not married they should better not do 'the fun thing' with the man before marriage or else he would be in a real problem and she would really get herself involved with evil deeds.

Bearing in mind what she wants - marriage or frienship - she should not have fun with the man unless they are married. Men are always interested in women are interested in one particular thing - to have sex, after which they will dump the poor thing.

Normally, nowadays, in most countries, men like to marry virgins. I would not love a man because of his wealth or his family but for peace, love forever, and to be happy and also to raise children with the person

A co-worker should not be interest in the way I look or how pretty I am, but in knowing whether I am interested in him and (probably) about my family also.

I will probably date an officer who is wealthy but trustworthy and loving and also caring. Oftentimes, people say I am pretty. I do not really care if I am or not because everyone is pretty in this world. No creation of God is ugly. I say this because officers go for the pretty people and live the so called "ugly" ones (I don't see them as ugly, anyway)

Love is what matters. If the man loves you, why not love him also?

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obviously i need to update my profile and i am going to ignore the fact that you seem to think its just runs.. who knows maybe it is; bottom line - i am having a good time

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Legs, abeg how you steaszxe the babe ... make i learn some cool moves.

... you still dey 'runs stage' or you don wrap up the runs?

femo

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